To not want to use the gift.

[Mumtobe12]

Now I don't want to sound ungrateful but MIL is very excited about new arrival which is lovely. But the other day she brought us a Moses basket with out us seeing first and well it so not what I envisioned. It silk and covered in lace looks like something straight out of queen Victoria's nursery.
I don't know what to do DH doesn't want to hurt MIL feelings and has already told her how pretty it is and how much we like it. But I really don't and know he is not a big fan either,
I do appreciate the kindness of the gift but I'm a bit upset I didn't get to pick this out myself.
I have attached picture so you can see for yourself.
What can I do? I can't not use it now?

Burn it with fire*

• or remove the covers to wash and 'forget' to put them back

Wait til you see the outfit she's picked out for her grandchild...

Unless you care to accessorise with a matching bin cover?

www.ebay.co.uk/itm/Satin-Bin-Cover-with-White-Lace-Satin-Bow-Colour-Choice-Baby-Nursery-Bedroom-/121280386276?var=&hash=item1c3cdfd4e4:m:mMoBTtJ5HIvhS-j9_UYCFFQ

It just looks so……… FLAMABLE!

no. I mean, how do you even? can you even wash that sort of fabric?

Thanks for all the suggestions had thought about using cat as scape goat.
The outer fabric is a cover the covers inside and then flows over edge to outside (if that makes sense) il see if I can find replacement for that.
However hood does not remove.
Think your right have an alternative for downstairs which can be seen good option and have an accident when washing so no longer need to use

most babies don't like Moses baskets, but it'd be sods law your dc will. It's certainly different.

My 9 and a half pounder would never have fit in there. Maybe you'll have a massive baby ...

Oh and you can normally get the hood hoops off them too, leaving you just a plain basket for a nice cotton bedding set.

I used a moses basket for DD. It had a cotton cover and no hood. Are you sure you cant remove the satin and the hood?

Im not convinced that amount of flammable material is good for a newborn. Perhaos there is a goverment guideline you can quote?

Did she buy it from a traveller? I live near several traveller sites and the newborns I see in the supermarket always seem to have shiney satin, lace and diamante coverlet things. Cute babies but they always look a bit lost in them.

If you take the lining off is it just a normal Moses basket? In which case it was a terrible shame the baby pooped on it first time in it and the stains never came out.

^^ Just this. Then maintain it is ''her'' moses basket without all the frills (when it is in fact one you have bought yourself!)

Don't pretend to like it or she'll buy you other things to match.

If you cant remove the covers - maybe the cat poops / wees in it 😀

The first time the baby vomits or has a nappy leak in that, it will be stained for good. You might have to replace it in week one...

Does it rock? Why the heck would you want a Moses basket that doesn't rock?

That in itself would be a fair reason to take it back.

Oh goodness. Oh well, at least the Victorian Trollop Crib will be a family joke for decades to come and hopefully you can er... lose it... fairly quickly. In the meantime Dh will obviously have to wear the corset and full length lacy nightdress while using it since you can't and someone's going to have to. There'll have to be a lot of sex, long walks and windsor soup and you can always tell MiL the baby will be named Ernest Leopold Albert, or Victoire Alexandrina while putting lacy frills on the table legs.

Nice replacement ... didn't want to upset 'Auntie Nora' by not showing them off !!

The baby will spontaneously combust as they move in that much nylon

Look, take it outside, dump a jar of peanut butter in it. photograph it for evidence and then burn it. Claim it wasnt washable and didnt survive the first nappy leak. Tell her not to replace it.
No one should have to put up with this kind of shit.

There aint no (potential) 10 pound baby that is going to fit in that.

Silver linings and all that.

[oops, hang on. That damned basket is just one big silver lining all on its own].

The cat can't take the blame. It would slide right off that fabric!

I wasn't really joking about the cotton thing 😬

Dd slept in her moses basket for 2-3 months. Its such a short time. Id remove the extra bits and just use the basket.

I think you can unscrew the hood as I know with my Moses basket you could. Dig through all the layers of frill and lace and you should find the bit that holds the hood to the basket, you should then be able to unscrew that. It might help mellow its overall look a bit.

I'm assuming you haven't given birth yet, as I don't really think you'd have the energy to give a shit about stuff like this once your baby is here

Fuck that, I've given birth to three of them and I wouldn't have had that in my bedroom even while I was still high on the morphine from the c section. :)

If I really, really didn't want to offend, I would take a photo of the baby in the horrible basket then take off the covers or swap it for one I bought. Is MIL likely to charge into your bedroom at any point?

But bear in mind that unless you nip this in the bud, you are opening yourself up to future gifts of hideously frilly prams, clothing, toys etc. etc. because, of course, she knows how much you loved the moses basket. It would be better, if you can get up the courage (with your DH, who needs to do this too), to tell her that lots of frills aren't your we're all still talking to each other.