Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5

Original poster

To ask your opinions on school reunions

123 replies

JungleInTheRumble · 01/03/2017 02:24

School reunion is coming up. I can't go so it's a bit of a moot point really but I was interested how everyone else felt about these.

The people I like from school I have stayed in touch with - the only reason I'd go is to be nosy and see what everyone is doing (although with fb that's not hard to do...). I guess it could be a networking opportunity?

Did any of you re-connect with high school people at a reunion and end up being friends?

OP posts:

bonbonours · 01/03/2017 21:01

I went to a 20 year on reunion and it was great because it prompted me and my best friend from school to see each other when we hadn't for more than 10 years due to kids and distance. I sent out info on social media and quite a lot of people from our year group said they were going to come but in the event there was only 3 others from our year who came. One of them in particular was seen as bit of a wierdo at school (goth rock type) and was actually pretty cool and funny as an adult. There were also some of our teachers there which was actually really nice. I thought it was a shame as I would have like the chance to chat to other people, but I loved seeing my old best friend and it wasn't awkward at all.

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 01/03/2017 21:21

Funnily enough it's my 40th one this year. (Yeah, I'm old) It's in a completely different country in a different hemisphere in the first week of term so no way I can go. I'd like to see some people, others I'd like to see in hell. I saw my oldest friend last year, he's shaken off suburbia and small town mentality, become wildly successful. I asked him if he was going-he said "darling, my god why? That was another lifetime ago."

ForalltheSaints · 01/03/2017 21:23

I moved away to university and then a job afterwards and beyond my mid-twenties hardly saw anyone I was at school with, apart from the two men who I remain friends with to this day.

I would not go to a reunion myself. There are two people who are famous (of sorts), one of whom was thought of as an idiot back then.

TinselTwins · 01/03/2017 21:32

the two women who organised mine (which only one other person went to) were like something out of an American teen movie: they were pretty and popular with boys, and used to adopt "project friends" which they were openly smug about. They'ld pick someone lonely looking each term and "make them cool" by association and unsolicited advice! While still keeping them somewhat at arms length

Sadly, the third attendee was one of their fomer "project friends". I'ld have hoped for her sake that she'ld realised by then that they were never really friends

NameChanger22 · 01/03/2017 21:34

I've been invited but I've never been to one. It's not my idea of fun. I haven't really kept in touch with any old school friends because I moved away from the area to study,, travelled the world and settled somewhere a little bit better than where I grew up.

A few years ago I got back in touch with a few school friends on Facebook, but I found out last June that most of them are the racist kind of brexit voters. I think my decision to not reunite with any of them was a good decision.

JsOtherHalf · 01/03/2017 21:55

I am 100's of miles away from my home town.

I didn't have a great time at school, so it has never been something I could be bothered with - plus flights, accomodation, etc.

Sara107 · 01/03/2017 22:16

I didn't go to mine (something hideous like 25 yrs). I did snoop at some photos on Facebook, and couldn't figure out why there were so many male teachers there when we never actually had more than a few. I then realised that those were my male classmates, they looked so much older than the women.

Crispsheets · 01/03/2017 22:21

I went to a junior school one a couple of years ago . We were all 55 😀 I really enjoyed it..About 40 people came to the pub we all drank in under age.

Jb291 · 01/03/2017 22:33

Ugh.I have absolutely less than zero interest in attending a school reunion. Not in contact with anyone I went to school with and that's the way I prefer it. I've moved on with my life and have no interest in associating with the people I was forced to spend my educational years with.

gingercoffee · 01/03/2017 23:30

Oooh No!

StormZelda · 01/03/2017 23:42

I went to a school of really privileged high achievers and .... I'm not. I went anyway, cos bein' brave is all I got.

So yeh, I vote hellish smugathon but it was a laugh anyway
Hope that is clear :-p

aquashiv · 01/03/2017 23:44

No its just weird..nothing in common only a school which let's be honest of that's the best years of your life god help you

HelenaDove · 02/03/2017 01:11

I went to mine six years ago. It wasnt a 25 yrs or 30 yrs one it was just done at random.

I wasnt allowed to shave my legs when i was younger so a couple of girls really made my life hell over it back in the 80s. Really nasty horrible misogynistc bullying. One in particular was really nasty to me and still snubbed me at said reunion.

Really cant work out if it was cos of what she did to me at school or because i married her ex BIL

Original poster

JungleInTheRumble · 02/03/2017 03:41

Everyone obviously felt the same as you guys - cancelled through lack of interest...

I wonder if theres anyone reading this from my school waves

OP posts:

Toadinthehole · 02/03/2017 04:10

I would have to travel 11,000 miles to get to mine. If someone wants to buy me a plane ticket I'll go and see my family and pretend I'm unwell on the day of the reunion

citychick · 02/03/2017 04:31

we had a mini one last year
it was hilarious.

but a big one ~ doubt it.

mathanxiety · 02/03/2017 05:03

Mine have been terrific piss ups and I wouldn't miss one for the world. Nobody I went to school with has any shame or notions about themselves and we all knock together well despite very varied paths in life.

TheFirstMrsDV · 02/03/2017 08:28

I do not remember the names of anyone I went to school with.
It was a long time ago (80s) but you would think I would have some recollection surely?

Is anyone else like this? I have a vague recollection of bits and pieces of different schools but nothing solid at all.

I hated school from primary onwards so that probably doesn't help.

thegreylady · 02/03/2017 08:48

I would go but as I left school in 1962 I doubt there'll be another. I missed the 50 year one. I am still friends with my best friend from school and fb friends with one other.

heidipi · 02/03/2017 10:58

I went to one in my mid-thirties when I was single and child-free so it was a bit of a trial (although the schoolfriend's wedding I went to in my early 40s when I'd just had DD1 was as bad - older first time parents are thin on the ground where I grew up...). At the reunion I was in the loo when the 'mean girls' came in and started slagging loads of people off - I was scared to come out and it turned into a horrible flashback from secondary school when I didn't wee during the day for 5 years!

minipie · 02/03/2017 11:17

The people I like from school I have stayed in touch with - the only reason I'd go is to be nosy and see what everyone is doing (although with fb that's not hard to do...)

This. So I wouldn't bother.

I am still in touch with the people I was friends with and cba to make small talk with the rest.

Lancelottie · 02/03/2017 11:47

I'm kind of the opposite!

It's only just occurred to me that I could look people up on Facebook, and I've got back in touch with a few people I didn't know that well at school. Without exception, if we've had a quick chat to catch up, I've thought, 'You're really lovely to talk to! Why didn't I get to know you better when we saw each other every day?'

spaghettithrower · 02/03/2017 13:49

Didn't go to my 10 or 20 year reunion. I couldn't face people bragging about their wonderful jobs, wonderful husbands and wonderful families.
I was top of the year when I was there - it was a private school and I was a scholarship girl from a lower class family than most of the rest of them. The other girls and their rich parents didn't like the fact that I did better at school than them so there was no end of bullying and nastiness. Hated it.
I live a bit of an "alternative" life these days and in their eyes they would think it hilarious that they have all done better than me with their high-flying careers. I'm happy with my life so I don't want to put myself in a position of people getting at me.
I keep in touch with some of the nice girls from school (also outsiders due to family background) and they did go to the 10 year reunion and said it was awful because of the comparisons being made and the bragging.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5