Badgering by the health visitors

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I feel annoyed by this. Do I have to go? AIBU?

My son is 7-month-old and since being discharged by the midwives, the health visitors have been bothering me constantly with phone calls and letters with appointments summoning me to take my son in for 'checks'. The underlying tone of course being that I should comply or else there could be implications...

It was bad enough when he was born, and recovering from a c-section having to answer a million personal and invasive questions. This is my 4th child, his immunisations are up to date, and I have no concerns about his development.

The irony is my 3rd child was born with a health condition that despite a prenatal diagnosis no health professional took seriously once she was born

Is this a new thing, or do others also experience this kind of unhelpful 'harassment' from HV's.

Please send my way, I/LO was discharged after 2 months and I would have loved to carry them on. I loved our chats

I saw her once at the weighins so managed to catch up!

This all makes me sad, My children are grown up now but my HVs ( through several moves) were my allies and it's a shame this has faded. I think it's funding and that they have to concentrate on the most needy.

I'm a stay at home dad- first due to an injury, I was at management level, my wife actually a Customer Service Advisor at the same company- we then realised that as I'm calmer and rarely lose my temper (and never with children), my wife missed work so I stayed with my wonderful daughter (aged 3 and a half). The thing that mystifies me is that in 2 counties (moved from Dorset to Devon) my wife has always been the point of contact for the HV despite them fully knowing the situation. We had our first new HV visit and she came unannounced- despite me explaining it was pointless talking solely to my wife and making my wife take unpaid time from her new job to have a meeting with her about my daughter as I was the primary carer, she declined my invitation to come in (although apparently it was a scheduled meeting) and insisted on taking my wife's name and number. I had it in Dorset where they'd book us in for the monday on the friday (so had to have my wife take immediate leave) and then cancel- I even cancelled a foot operation I had booked and then the HV cancelled). Always directly to my wife until I believe my 2nd formal complaint. They based her development purely from playgroup attendance- which was NOT compulsory and had to be paid for- some of those I attended I was the ONLY parent. I ruptured my bicep and had my cast raised almost to eye level but this and my ingrowing toenails did not excuse me from attending, despite the 20 min walk with a pushchair one-handed and bleeding feet for the 'hour' (45 mins before packed up) sessions until I had 2 HV's come round and see the injuries (the 'not so nice' one was mildly accepting, the nice one was almost sick when she saw the damage to my feet I couldn't get operated on as I'd cancelled as I HAD to attend the meeting they then cancelled). They did NOTHING for us, wouldn't accept me spending a day with a family with 3 other kids instead of attending their pointless sessions. Very often my daughter would ask to leave within minutes of being there as she wanted to go to the park etc. Why they still insist in bothering us when we have told them we want no assistance I have no idea- hopefully my latest complaint will have standing as I am sick of Gender discrimination- I know mine is far lesser than those faced by females, but I don't accept any form of discrimination, and definitely not displayed in front of my 3 year old- should she be told by a stranger having a dad at home is not normal? Useless system that should only be enforced on those who need it.