To put DS in a 'kids' camp' on holiday?

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DS is 4. He loves nursery, etc.

We are currently on holiday (2nd day) and DS keeps wanting us to go swimming, build sand castles, get him an ice-cream, play with him, etc.

I'm early stages of 2nd pregnancy and can't wait for him to have a sibling to play with no, but seriously, I'd really like to just relax. I know that being a parent means doing what your child would like, but I would absolutely love to be able to just relax in the sun!

It is DH's day today - he has taken him swimming (DS found the pool a bit too cold) but obviously DH had to get in first, so was extremely touchy after as DS didn't even end up being in the pool longer than 5 mins.

Has played on the beach with him (built a hole, etc.) so has been entertained. We all went to lunch together.

DS won't sit on a lounger for 5 minutes/play on his own for a short while. I don't mean to sound mean, but I don't think it's particularly evil of us to say he has to.

We suggested the holiday camp that's at our hotel and he says he wants to stay with us, so I suppose that's why I'm asking.

He says he would like to stay with us for nursery but then goes and really enjoys it. I know he would have fun. WIBU to put him in it? Just for the mornings.

I agree with other posters, try out a short session at the kids club. He'll probably love it and if not you can reconsider.

I have a DS of the same age, I find sometimes if I interact a lot with him for a period of time, it kind of 'settles him in' with something, he gets absorbed and then plays happily with eg Lego on his own for quite a while then while I do other things.

You could also 'challenge' him to make the biggest sandcastle possible or similar and show you when it's finished. You'll probably get at least some time to relax then. Or get him to bury you in the sand? I have a nice line in games that involve mummy lying down so that would be my top tip .

I'm pretty horrified they didn't call tbh, and surprised you didn't check... Especially as you knew he didn't want to go.

I think it is about balance. Yes, when you have a young child, holidays will change, and lying on a sun lounger with your book becomes a vague memory, and yes, children do remember things.

But if your child IS happy to go to the kids' club, I don't see anything wrong with making use of it. I wouldn't have done it all the time, so I never saw my children - but it is supposed to be the parents' holiday too, and if judicious use of a kids' club where the child is happy, can get the parents a few hours off, a couple of times during the week - I honestly can't see anything wrong with that!

I don't think the OP is to blame for not going and checking on her child in the holiday club - I think it is not unreasonable to have expected them to alert her or her partner when their child wouldn't settle and was so upset.

I really don't see any harm in trying, he may love it or he may not but at least you have tried. That's what holiday clubs are there for isn't it? kids have fun with other kids and kids appropriate playthings.