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To change nursery because of menu options

304 replies

Confusedwithcake1 · 23/02/2017 17:11

So I'm returning to work soon and my LO will attend the local nursery for 2 days a week when 11months old. When I chose the nursery I was happy with the care, location etc and at the time I was happy with the menu options.

Fast forward now and I've looked at the menu options and now I think I want to look for a new nursery. Specifically because they serve cake as a pudding (wasn't on previous sample menu)

Don't get me wrong I love cake and know that LO will eat cake at parties but I was just hoping that a nursery setting would provide something less junkie.

My DH thinks it's fine as it's only 2 days a week but I'm not so sure as it seems unnecessary for a 11month old.. so aibu to try and find a new nursery based on one sample menu that lists cake as a pudding?

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SnugglySnerd · 23/02/2017 17:54

DD's nursery have cake for pudding once a week. It is always carrot or banana cake so at least has a bit of fruit/veg in it! The other days it's usually fruit and yoghurt or sometimes ice cream. Also the portions are pretty small.
I wouldn't want her not to have it when the other kids are all eating it, that seems a bit mean!
She still eats lots of fruit and veg at home, it hasn't ruined her diet!

Nanny0gg · 23/02/2017 17:55

Most schools' versions of cake these days are not what you'd have at home as they have the minimum sugar and fat that you can use and still call it 'cake'.

Probably less sugar than yoghurt and fruit (are you worried about teeth too?)

notangelinajolie · 23/02/2017 17:56

Cake? Really? If I were looking at a nursery, cake would not be high on my list. If you can't bear for your LO to be around cake, I really think you are going to struggle. I dread to think how you will manage the day she gets invited for tea at a friends house. Are you going to ask for a menu then? Cake happens - you need to get over it.

TheWinterOfOurDiscountTents · 23/02/2017 17:58

A toddler sized portion of a light sponge cake will probably have less sugar than many yoghurts. It's not like they are going to hand out wodges of black forest gateau!

sabzii · 23/02/2017 17:58

Just tell the nursery not to give her pudding! When DD started nursery her keyworker asked me to review menus and said many parents opt out of pudding. I opted in as seems silly to worry over something like that. Most days she doesn't eat much of the pudding anyway.

hoddtastic · 23/02/2017 17:59

this thread, it's all a bit brasseye innit? :D

bagpackbagpack · 23/02/2017 17:59

We get chocolate breakfast cake at our nursery! (The menu is designed by a special child dietician lady) so I bet it's not particularly nice cake (it's made with all kind of vegetables and stuff..

user1486499646 · 23/02/2017 17:59

Yanbu people wonder why child obesity is so bigbecause parents just say oh its onlyabit of cake

TheWinterOfOurDiscountTents · 23/02/2017 18:01

Yanbu people wonder why child obesity is so bigbecause parents just say oh its onlyabit of cake

That isn't why.

hoddtastic · 23/02/2017 18:01

or, they think, 2 bits of cake out of a week containing 35 meals and 7-14 snacks... it's not the end of the world is it?

Cleanermaidcook · 23/02/2017 18:02

no, childhood obesity is so big because parents vilify certain foods therefore making them more desirable and also don't practice good portion control and a healthy balanced diet - everything in moderation.

AYankinSpanx · 23/02/2017 18:02

I don't think you're BU one bit to be watchful of your baby's sugar intake, OP. I do think YWBU to quit the nursery if it's fine otherwise though.

Sirzy · 23/02/2017 18:02

Banning things isn't going to stop childhood obesity, infact it is more likely to make them the "forbidden fruit" and lead to issues down the line.

An everything in moderation attitude is much better than banning things.

SomewhatIdiosyncratic · 23/02/2017 18:04

Schools and nurseries have served puddings like this for many decades before widespread concern about childhood obesity. Menus are planned for their nutritional content across the day and the week. It's really not worth stressing over.

Original poster
Confusedwithcake1 · 23/02/2017 18:05

I'm not sure if people are reading my updates but as I've said... I have no issue with cake. I have no issue with pudding. I don't mind LO eating cake at parties at home etc. I just thought nursery would be one of those places that would have healthier options. With cake at nursery twice a week and parties etc at the weekend that could be a lot of cake and probably I thought 2/3 times a week wouldn't be "in moderation". But I realise ibu.

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PigletWasPoohsFriend · 23/02/2017 18:09

Yanbu people wonder why child obesity is so bigbecause parents just say oh its onlyabit of cake

That isn't the reason for childhood obesity!

RainbowChasing · 23/02/2017 18:10

YANBU to want your child to eat healthily but I do think you have an image in your head of what this cake must be like and in reality it will be very different. We're not talking massive wedges of heavily iced sticky chocolate cake. In reality it will be a tiny square of blandness which is probably icing free. As long as your child's diet is otherwise balanced then this cake served at nursery isn't going to impact on your child's diet or health at all. It will likely be the same type of menu at all other nurseries anyway.

Oblomov17 · 23/02/2017 18:11

YABVU

Ha ha ha ha. I'm sorry. But, really?
PFB+++++

Hatemylifenow · 23/02/2017 18:11

Will people not RTFT. The op has said she IBU.

engineersthumb · 23/02/2017 18:11

Let them eat cake!

TiggyD · 23/02/2017 18:17

I had cake once when I was little. I'm currently standing on a Birmingham street corner in a leopard print mini skirt selling my body for my next fix of battenburg.

Occasional cake is fine. A good source of carby energy you can be sure a child will eat. I used to work in a nursery with a very healthy menu. some days the children ate no dinner at all and were grumpy in the afternoon, because whereas the lunch may have been healthy, but it tasted crap.

Original poster
Confusedwithcake1 · 23/02/2017 18:17

Question for those that think I'm being ridiculous. All things equal between 2 nurseries would you not care about the food on offer?

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KeepCalm · 23/02/2017 18:19

NOT for the sake of an occasional piece of cake. No,

wonderingsoul · 23/02/2017 18:20

You could just tell them shes not allowed cake or sweet things.
Just fruit or a yogurt

Ilovewillow · 23/02/2017 18:20

I can see your point and at 11 months I wouldn't and didn't offer cake as a dessert. Neither did our nursery although they do in the preschool room. Having seen it though it's minute so my son is allowed it now he's 3. I wouldn't have changed nursery though if you are happy otherwise and just ask them to give fruit or plain yoghurt, I'm sure they won't mind.