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To change nursery because of menu options

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Confusedwithcake1 · 23/02/2017 17:11

So I'm returning to work soon and my LO will attend the local nursery for 2 days a week when 11months old. When I chose the nursery I was happy with the care, location etc and at the time I was happy with the menu options.

Fast forward now and I've looked at the menu options and now I think I want to look for a new nursery. Specifically because they serve cake as a pudding (wasn't on previous sample menu)

Don't get me wrong I love cake and know that LO will eat cake at parties but I was just hoping that a nursery setting would provide something less junkie.

My DH thinks it's fine as it's only 2 days a week but I'm not so sure as it seems unnecessary for a 11month old.. so aibu to try and find a new nursery based on one sample menu that lists cake as a pudding?

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KeepCalm · 23/02/2017 17:37

Good grief what a nonsense. Are the staff good? Did your DC settle well with your trial? What do the other parents say about it? Has is nice outside space? Does it look clean and well maintained? What are their reports like? Are there charges reasonable etc etc etc

These are reasonable concerns. Not cake, the wee soul. Shove in a banana for them to eat whilst they watch their peers enjoy a wee treat.

Everything in moderation.............

Emeraude · 23/02/2017 17:37

Our school offers 'cake' for dessert but not a single slice of it has ever seen a grain of sugar. Today's offering was some wholemeal slab.

hippyhippyshake · 23/02/2017 17:38

This must be a wind-up, Do people seriously consider catering options as a deal-breaker? How about a) packed lunch b) provide your own joy-free dessert c) just say no cake.

balence49 · 23/02/2017 17:38

Lunchbox issues are also a joke, how they can say that no junk in packed lunches, but serve up cheese whirl chips and ketchup for lunch with a biscuit or cake.

Loosen up op, in a few years you will laugh about this. Hopefully as long as your not "that" mum!

GemmaB78 · 23/02/2017 17:39

We didn't want our son getting cake or biscuits every day (and there are a loon offer!) so asked the nursery to give him fruit or yoghurt instead. He still gets occasional treats but not daily. They were fine with it, and other children have similar requests so we are not 'those parents'! We are really happy with everything else the nursery does, so this was a small thing, and easily sorted.

motherinferior · 23/02/2017 17:39

Let them eat cake.

WhatIsWrongWithMePlease · 23/02/2017 17:40

I wouldn't give an 11 month old cake twice a week. Don't care if that makes me OTT. I would just ask them to not give it to your DC.

DonkeyofDoom · 23/02/2017 17:40

We are a nation with a rapidly expanding collective waistline. Obesity in children is becoming more and more common. You're not being PFB. You're being sensible. If you choose another nursery I hope you tell them why. What good reason can there be to not just serve fruit and yoghurt?

TheWinterOfOurDiscountTents · 23/02/2017 17:40

I guess I constantly see people talking about sugar being awful and going sugar free that I thought I wasn't being U

People are always wittering about juice plus and dieting and detoxing and superfoods and all that nonsense, none of which has anything to do with feeding children, which is quite easy. Feed them unmessed around with food, with as wide a variety as you can, with lots of vegetables if they will eat them. That's pretty much it.

Cleanermaidcook · 23/02/2017 17:42

Yep completely unreasonable op, pfb syndrome in overdrive!
2 small portions of cake isn't going to do any harm in a week, restricting food and making an issue out of certain foods will do more harm.
Also yogurt, puree's and fruit are full of sugar too.

Hatemylifenow · 23/02/2017 17:43

People are obese because no one has a handle on portion control and we are too used to splitting foods into "bad" and "good". That and kids are never encouraged to decide for themselves when they are full but told to "finish" their dinner.

Take it from someone who was raised on an extremely healthy diet but has been overweight nearly all her adult life.

archersfan22 · 23/02/2017 17:43

Haven't read the whole thread but I wanted to say that for me there were loads of other much more important things about the nursery than the food. If you have found a nursery where the staff are enthusiastic and caring, and you are overall happy with other aspects of it such as the space available (I found a lot that I looked at were very cramped), then think very carefully before changing. Especially as it's two days a week.
I have so many friends who have had issues with their nurseries but mine has been great throughout. Their menus were a little bit unimaginative when my son first started but have improved so this might be something that can change. Much harder to change other things like having no outdoor space or poor staff attitude/management of staff.

lalalalyra · 23/02/2017 17:43

I read so much about lunchbox issues at schools that I just find it strange that they offer cake at nursery.

Lunchbox issues at school happen in schools that serve cake. School meals are balanced nutritionally and take the cake/pudding into account so nursery will be the same.

That said, you can always ask them not to give your lo cake when he's there.

WizardOfToss · 23/02/2017 17:45

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HeyRoly · 23/02/2017 17:45

OMG CAKE!

One of the most dangerous substances on earth.

Theknittinggorilla · 23/02/2017 17:46

I was a bit pfb about this with dc1 but just asked nursery to give him fruit until he got to the point where he was aware other children were having cake, and then if he would rather have cake he could have it. He still prefers fruit a lot of the time (he is 4). Loves cake at home mind. Don't think I have even mentioned it with dc2.

If they are a good nursery just speak to them and they will try and accommodate I'm sure. But I think you will find all nurseries have some form of pudding. We have used 3 nurseries and all have been very similar in terms of food choices. I would have this very low on my list of priorities for what makes a good nursery....

abbsisspartacus · 23/02/2017 17:46

Cake is a useful filler in nursery often kids who won't eat there good will eat cake and will be less likely to be grumpy and hungry in the afternoon

MadameCholetsDirtySecret · 23/02/2017 17:46

The cake is a red herring I think. The fact is you don't want to leave your baby - which is totally normal and understandable. Fixating on cake is deflecting your real feelings.

YippieKayakOtherBuckets · 23/02/2017 17:47

Every nursery I know of offers a proper pudding with the main lunchtime meal. Cake, fruit and custard, crumble etc.

Cake is eggs, flour, butter and sugar. It isn't junk. It's proper food to be eaten in moderation.

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Confusedwithcake1 · 23/02/2017 17:48

Ok so I'm obviously being unreasonable but it isn't healthy cake it's just sponge cake. Again just to clarify I have no food issues, I have no issues with LO eating cake generally just in this type of setting. I think I must socialise with a lot of new mums as they are all banging on about how nutritious the menus should be.

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Confusedwithcake1 · 23/02/2017 17:49

I LOVE CAKE- Don't think it's food of the devil. Just asking about it in a nursery setting.

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YippieKayakOtherBuckets · 23/02/2017 17:49

There's no such thing as 'healthy cake'. There's just cake, and it really isn't a problem in moderation.

I think you will struggle to find another nursery which doesn't offer a hot pudding. You would be better asking the current nursery to give fruit.

formerbabe · 23/02/2017 17:49

I think I must socialise with a lot of new mums as they are all banging on about how nutritious the menus should be

Lots of new mums are like this with their pfb. Wait till they have 2 or 3 kids...They'll soon be throwing bags of crisps at them!

HeyRoly · 23/02/2017 17:51

One thing I don't have in common with my mum-peers is an utter obsession with the evils of sugar. This thread is a great example.

Onwithnumber2 · 23/02/2017 17:51

Maybe, I'm probably not the best person to comment I guess. From my experience which is my only one to draw from, I was given cake/ice cream/.biscuits daily and I was overweight as a child then had an eating disorder as a teen. (Certainly not the way for everyone, just what's influenced my previous post)
In my family we don't eat these types of foods daily but only if on a day out/visiting friends or family/birthdays and celebrations and it'll be things like fruit/ berries and yogurt etc the rest of the time. Now a healthy weight as is my son so it works for us anyway.
They're the kind of food that's meant to be in moderation, I guess two days a week could be (and looks to be from the posts here) considered that?
Either way OP yanbu to stick to your guns if cake puddings make you uncomfortable. I'm obviously also ott with my PFB

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