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To change nursery because of menu options

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Confusedwithcake1 · 23/02/2017 17:11

So I'm returning to work soon and my LO will attend the local nursery for 2 days a week when 11months old. When I chose the nursery I was happy with the care, location etc and at the time I was happy with the menu options.

Fast forward now and I've looked at the menu options and now I think I want to look for a new nursery. Specifically because they serve cake as a pudding (wasn't on previous sample menu)

Don't get me wrong I love cake and know that LO will eat cake at parties but I was just hoping that a nursery setting would provide something less junkie.

My DH thinks it's fine as it's only 2 days a week but I'm not so sure as it seems unnecessary for a 11month old.. so aibu to try and find a new nursery based on one sample menu that lists cake as a pudding?

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Italiangreyhound · 26/02/2017 21:20

Confusedwithcake Your child your choice. It will be you and not dh doing the leg work to find a cake free nursery so if you are willing to do it, then so be it.

But definitely agree with waterrat "Definitely don't make nursery decision based on thst. Childcare us about your child being safe and in the best possible place." So unless you can find an equally good nursery that doesn't serve cake, you would be silly IMHO to find a worse nursery and select it just because it doesn't serve cake.

You could ask for your son to be given fruit or yogurt and if/when he requests cake to have a smaller portion with fruit.

JHMJHM · 26/02/2017 21:24

Seriously for people without a sweet tooth plain cake is a good option- I can't stand fruit/yoghurt as even the plain ones taste sweet and sickly.

If I HAD to have a pudding -which I rarely do- a small square of plain sponge would be far preferable that wading through sugary fiborous fruit with splodgey,tacky textured yoghurt. I love savoury food and vegetables.

ALittleMop · 26/02/2017 21:30

It will be an inch square of plain cake
Lots of things matter a LOT more than their serving of pudding

bangalanguk · 26/02/2017 21:31

Surely as part of of a bananced diet it's fine. Twice a week is minimal if you are in control the rest of the time.

omnishamblesssssssssssssss · 26/02/2017 21:35

Charl1963 - funnily enough you seem to have had quite an extream overreaction to a comment made about yogurt Grin. Are you personally messaging every person that has a different opinion to you?

JHMJHM · 26/02/2017 21:37

Also, read 'What to Eat' by Joanna Blythman. She analytically discusses ingredients and there benefits- so much good stuff in eggs, flour, and butter- vitamins and trace elements and minerals.

omnishamblesssssssssssssss · 26/02/2017 22:00

I actually think cake is fine in moderation (couple of times a week) but don't think it should be part of nursery or school provision at all (except when made by the kids!).

Diabetes and obesity related illnesses are a massive problem now. Nurseries should be setting the bar high and encouraging/developing a savoury palette. The majority of kids get more then enough cake outside of nursery!

Strygil · 26/02/2017 22:01

First world problem. Don't be so precious.

NeverTwerkNaked · 26/02/2017 23:06

Some children need puddings. My sons dietitian pushed me to include more puddings and fats in his diet (he has various allergies which meant fruit puddings had felt easiest!)

A handful of parents at my children's nursery request fruit only puddings.
But the mains are always very delicious yet healthy and the children can always have seconds of mains, so to me if they still have room for pudding then they are fine to have it

NeverTwerkNaked · 26/02/2017 23:09

I really don't think that cake twice a week will cause obesity!!! The key is a balance of healthy meals and plenty of exercise! Children need plenty of healthy fats for brain and body development

Meloncoley2 · 26/02/2017 23:13

I haven't read the whole thread, but I remember a large part of choosing the specific nursery for my DC was the prominently displayed healthy menus pinned to the wall.
Too late, I found they were a work of fiction.

cherish123 · 27/02/2017 00:13

You could say to nursery that you do not want your baby to have the cake but that you are fine for him/her to eat everything else. As they are only a year old, they won't notice.

Enidblyton1 · 27/02/2017 00:37

Sorry, you have good intentions, but you are BU. If you really don't want your DC to eat cake, just send them in with a piece of friut instead. Not worth finding a new nursery on this basis alone.

Also, it does depend on the type of cake.... A sugary yoghurt (like petit filous) is no better for you than a square of plain sponge or banana cake.

Oneisenoughokay · 27/02/2017 00:40

Cake is fun and nursery will only offer a small amount. Life and being a child is about fun and experience and a bit of cake is a lovely thing. Youll have to start getting used to certain things being out of your control with schools and nurserys. I was a bit like you and now he's three and starting little school you learn to start letting go alittle bit. It's not like it's pop. My dentist said that eating sweet things is the least damaging after you've eaten a meal. Something to do with enzymes I think. Them them.enjoy some nice things!! Especially if that's your only worry. My nursery missed a fever and could have had detrimental effects to his health, especially as when i picked him up he was wrapped up in his winter clothes, that's a good reason to change nurserys.

Scarymary0210 · 27/02/2017 00:47

School dinners provide cake mousses crumbles fruit and yoghurt pack lunch options always have a dessert option too..the pack.lunch argument is not about not having a sweet treat but the whole lunch being fat or sugar loaded no one say a kid shouldn't have a treat its normally just chocolate banned

FuzzyFalafelz · 27/02/2017 07:13

Lots of healthy things are classed as treats. Cake isn't the only treat available

TheNaze73 · 27/02/2017 07:16

Read it all now Confused

helterskelter99 · 27/02/2017 07:17

Depends how it's made they have taken all the sugar out of the rice pudding etc at our nursery so cake could be made in a good way!

Mountainsofmothermadness · 27/02/2017 10:24

Oh for heavens sake - just do what I did and say no sugary treats. By all means offer something else they can feed them. My little one is quite young so I will review this decision as they get older

Maya15 · 27/02/2017 13:24

you are definitely NBU to not want your child to eat cake at that age.

I found that all nurseries in this country serve sweet desserts like cake and ice cream and you might struggle to find one that doesn't. You can request that they don't give your DC sweet desserts just fruit. There shouldn't be a problem with that.
Alternatively find a child minder where you can send your own food.

I am sorry you are having a hard time here, it really is unnecessary for such a small child to eat cake.

tigerfly · 27/02/2017 13:56

Ha ha! When your child is 14 and has effed and jeffed at you for the ninth time, you'll look back at this and squirm with embarrassment.

Semaphorically · 27/02/2017 14:04

I don't think categorising sweet food as a "treat" that follows every meal is a good thing.

Sweet food is not a "treat", it's just food. Food that gives you a sugar rush and then a blood sugar crash and associated awful mood. Why is that considered a "treat"? And why would you want to do that to small children?

FuzzyFalafelz · 27/02/2017 14:09

Treats take many forms. A pomegranate is a big treat for us. A meal with prawns is high on the special list too.

FeliciaJollygoodfellow · 27/02/2017 14:25

Just for balance, I didn't even ask about the menu when my kids were at nursery. They're toddlers, I'd be lucky if their main meal wasn't mainly play-doh at that age.

user1457106342 · 27/02/2017 20:54

My sons nursery give cakes and biscuits as puddings alongside more traditional puddings. All the cakes have fruit pieces in them even the chocolate cake has beetroot in it. If it bothers you that much ask if they can provide a healthier alternative

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