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AIBU?

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To change nursery because of menu options

304 replies

Confusedwithcake1 · 23/02/2017 17:11

So I'm returning to work soon and my LO will attend the local nursery for 2 days a week when 11months old. When I chose the nursery I was happy with the care, location etc and at the time I was happy with the menu options.

Fast forward now and I've looked at the menu options and now I think I want to look for a new nursery. Specifically because they serve cake as a pudding (wasn't on previous sample menu)

Don't get me wrong I love cake and know that LO will eat cake at parties but I was just hoping that a nursery setting would provide something less junkie.

My DH thinks it's fine as it's only 2 days a week but I'm not so sure as it seems unnecessary for a 11month old.. so aibu to try and find a new nursery based on one sample menu that lists cake as a pudding?

OP posts:
MTB1003 · 25/02/2017 11:54

Yes do change nursery because I'm sure they don't need a pita like you to deal with.

Rugbyplayersarehot · 25/02/2017 11:57

MTB don't hold back speak your mind Grin do you run a nursery by any chance?Wink

AYankinSpanx · 25/02/2017 12:01

Yes do change nursery because I'm sure they don't need a pita like you to deal with

The OP doesn't seem like a pita at all to me. That's apparent from her posts where she's taken on board people's comments.

Generally speaking, I'd take a well-meaning pita over a mean-spirited malcontent any day!

TinselTwins · 25/02/2017 15:02

Generally speaking, I'd take a well-meaning pita over a mean-spirited malcontent any day!

nope. trust me! there was a "concerned" parent at one of DDs nursery and it damn near broke the nursery staffs spirits and sucked the bloomin joy outta everything!:

End of term disco/party: "it's not very educational is it?"
ANYTHING with sugar: complain
ANYTHING with salt: complain
ANYTHING else: complain because their kid didn't eat it because she was only allowed tasteless food probably

I don't know how they didn't just give up and just do the bare minimum TBH

HSMMaCM · 26/02/2017 18:04

We give the children cake sometimes. They often make it themselves. It generally contains a sprinkle of sugar and some banana, or apple, or carrots, or whatever we have. No icing. Tiny portions. The children love it, we stick a candle in if it's someone's birthday. In the grand scheme of things, it's not really a health food, but not terrible either.

scorpio1981 · 26/02/2017 18:42

Unless your child is a coeliac and can't eat any wheat products, why are you making such a fuss? Its two days a week ffs. Calm down and get some perspective here.

timealone · 26/02/2017 19:17

My son's nursery is like this. They have a pudding after lunch, and then at tea time (3.30pm) there is generally something again, like cookies. He's now 2.5 and it doesn't bother me as much, but it did when he was younger. I would prefer it if they mixed it up a bit, particularly at teatime when I think sandwiches alone would be perfectly fine. However, it is a nice nursery and he is settled there. I suspect the portion sizes are pretty small too. I did look at the menu's from other nearby nurseries after he started there, and realised that many of them are the same.

timealone · 26/02/2017 19:18

My son's nursery is like this. They have a pudding after lunch, and then at tea time (3.30pm) there is generally something again, like cookies. He's now 2.5 and it doesn't bother me as much, but it did when he was younger. I would prefer it if they mixed it up a bit, particularly at teatime when I think sandwiches alone would be perfectly fine. However, it is a nice nursery and he is settled there. I suspect the portion sizes are pretty small too. I did look at the menu's from other nearby nurseries after he started there, and realised that many of them are the same.

omnishamblesssssssssssssss · 26/02/2017 19:51

Greek yogurt and fruit is a better alternative to cake. Good habits start young

SleepyLambs · 26/02/2017 20:20

It's something I find is very common here and still find shocking. We moved here from Canada and they never would have served it at nurseries or even primary schools. I'm not sure I would change, especially at 2 days a week. I would likely request my little one didn't get it at 11 months.

Robstersgirl · 26/02/2017 20:21

Life without cake? I'm crying for your poor child. Cake

TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 26/02/2017 20:22

This is so stupid. I have no time for parents who think like this.

AND DP IS A NUTRITIONIST.

Get a grip.

LuckyM · 26/02/2017 20:32

Completely off your rocker I am afraid. Have another child and suddenly you won't mind DC#1 mainlining sugar whilst dancing inappropriately to Little Mix. Seriously, chill. If they are nice people that is all that matters. If however, you have had nagging doubts about the place and yiu are using this as the reason to change then trust your gut. But never blame the cake!

Mummy2jen · 26/02/2017 20:38

I would look more at adult interactions with my child and is the provision good rather than cake being on the menu to be honest 😂

MrsMerchant · 26/02/2017 20:41

I think it's really conscientious of you to feel this way. We have a childhood obesity crisis in this country. If it's important to you then that's enough reason. Are you sure it's not a low sugar / child friendly version though?

Toyslayer · 26/02/2017 20:42

You can pretty much guarantee that even if you're 'that mum' and ask for yoghurt instead, they'll still offer the cake.

voddiekeepsmesane · 26/02/2017 20:47

OMG I really don't give a shit of exact sugar contents of a banana verses a peice of cake but OPERA rather than get all indignant over a cake just request that your snowflake doesn't have any, sorted. So needlessly dramatic IMO

voddiekeepsmesane · 26/02/2017 20:48

OP not Opera

Charl1963 · 26/02/2017 20:50

You are being 100% pathetic

JugglingMuggle · 26/02/2017 20:58

I used the same nursery for 7 years and they offered pudding at every meal - sometimes cake sometimes rice pudding or yoghurt or fruit. I just told them my children were allowed yoghurt or fruit unless it was something they adored (ice cream) or a special occasion. My kids now both have a great relationship with food and enjoy cake and puddings as much as the next child, but don't overdose on it. I'd just request a limit on cake!

theonlygeorgie · 26/02/2017 21:06

As this is AIBU then yes, YABU.

I don't know if this is your first and only child (I haven't read all comments) but I was adamant my first was never going to have McDonald's, eat biscuits and would only ever eat homecooked meals. HA. Fast forward 4 years on and I'm grateful for a day where he doesn't itch his bum and sniff his fingers, eat a bogey or eat raisins from under the couch that I had no idea were even there. A bit of cake won't hurt and you can't shield her from junk food forever, but I do wonder if shielding her will fuel her desire for it more when she's older... it's just about teaching her when she's older about healthy balanced diets and what too much sugar can do.

creepymumweirdo · 26/02/2017 21:15

I think you've taken a bit of a bashing here for asked no a question about how much you should let something bother you. You might be being a bit pfb (I get it, I am too!) but that's your prerogative as a first time mum Wink

My sons's nursery offers 'sponge' for pudding. He also goes two days a week. I raised an eyebrow at it and it was suggested to me by mn and friends that this was probably not the sugary, buttery yumminess that passes for cake in this house, but a sponge made of flour, eggs, butter (all good for growing tots) less sugar than we're used to in a cake and a smudge of cocoa powder.

Turns out they were dead right. Our nursery subscribes to some national nutritional standard and has targets for how much good me 'bad' stuff they give kids over the course of the day. It's not in their interest to feed them shite.

I only learned this by asking nursery. I tried to do it in a " I know I'm being a pita but he's my first and I don't know what I should be worried about" kind of way. They were great, explained, affectionally laughed at me a bit (quite right to in hindsight). It's improved my understanding of what's acceptable and my relationship with nursery.

Charl1963 · 26/02/2017 21:16

My previous remark 100% was meant for omnishamblesssssssssssssss

creepymumweirdo · 26/02/2017 21:16

Yikes. Typos.

sockswars · 26/02/2017 21:18
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