To be fascinated by "hobbies"

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"I/DH/MIL have "a hobby" which takes a couple of hours/3 nights a week/the whole of April"

What ARE these hobbies? And why so mysterious?

I have a very identifying one too that takes up a lot of time.

Plus gardening, reading, crochet and sewing.

I don't understand how people don't have hobbies - unless their job is their passion.

I don't understand how people don't have hobbies - unless their job is their passion

Because between having two small dc and working I'm shattered. Being a shift worker I finish at 8pm and often work weekends. I don't understand what there is to understand.

And I hate sewing.

This always makes me laugh too , ok I get limiting details if it's outing but anonymysing the activity is a little ott

I'm a runner so I say I am , granted I'm not likely to specific exactly where I run (far too much jiggling for people to point and laugh ) but there are lots of runners so can't see how identifying that would be , I've also mentioned I run a care service and I've mentioned about previous roles in very very general terms

So yeah I suppose adding my "hobby " hahaha to that could vaguely be outing

So someone working in a care service who runs .....good luck whittling that one down

I always assume itshe because the hobby is embarrassing or possibly illegal

" I grow pot in my neighbours allotment and have to switch the hydroponics over three times a week from 6 to 8 pm" .....fair enough for that one feel free to use the word hobby

Otheraise. ...just tell is or we shall assume sex is involved

I used to have a 'hobby' - an activity shared by about 400 people nationwide. So not too identifying in itself. But if someone on here mentioned doing it, I confess I might just be tempted to see what else they'd posted. And I reckon there's a pretty reasonable chance I might recognise them if they'd posted other things - particularly if they narrowed down where they live, cos that would reduce it from nationwide to a member of one, possibly two clubs - so about 50 people. Throw in some details like number if kids, pets, work and it really might not be that hard to guess who they were. And if they happened to be from my area........

My DP and I share our hobby. we LARP. the season starts in April and ends in September. the system we play have around 2500 players and approx 400 crew ranging from H&S, security, cleaning, 1st aid, plot, monster, costume, catering etc. etc. in the off season we make new costumes and buy (far too much fabric)

its great fun. :)

CALLED IT

I've done a lot of shop work so I know the answers to end the hard sell feel sorry for them, really, thankfully I've never worked anywhere that requires hard sell.

We go so infrequently we have to go all out. Its a huge part of the fun! I'm hand making DDs costume as I didn't like the ones online, dps turned out well so fingers crossed! Mine is bought items customised by hand (green leather trousers and a corset decorated with lots of fabric plant matter), I mean come one, I've had two kids, leotards are not my friend

My hobby is dogging

Rixera definitely the better of the two!

A policeman blogging anonymously mentioned his hobby and that he was from Notts. (say it was morris dancing - it wasn't). The Times newspaper worked out he was the only policeman in that area doing that hobby and outed him and the High Court held they were allowed to out him as blogging even anonymously is a public activity.... we have been warned.

As for hobbies it depends o your life stage. When I had babies and worked full time they had to take back seat although Iv'e always played the piano and sung most days of every year since I was about 6.

DH has a rather-specific and all consuming hobby.

Someone in one of these sorts of threads a year or so back mentioned her Dh did this hobby. And then mentioned a specific week of doing the hobby. Then mentioned something else about a social event related to that hobby.

From those apparently innocuous three things I worked out that the social event was actually a BBQ/cocktail party being held by us, in our garden.

I then (not quite believing it) advanced searched her username and got it confirmed by other posts - number of kids, profile of ages - another thing etc.

I never let on. Not least because the wonderful woman said we were terrific hosts.

But all that aside, DH's hobby is a bit all consuming and I had a major shit fit earlier this week because I realised I have spent the past 13 years facilitating him and hi hobby and putting my own desires to one side.

So, next year I am going pony trekking in Iceland for a week in summer. No-one in my family knows this yet.

Haha my 'hobby' is a niche sport that I'm quite vague about on here. Because there's only 3 of us in the country that do it (in my age category), and only me anywhere near London, you'd be able to find out who I was fairly easily. Rather than make myself Googleable, I just say I'm 'training' or 'competing'. I'm aware it's potentially irritating!

I also like going for runs and crocheting when the DCs will allow!

DH referees a rather violent team sport. Although, he does get paid for it, so at least it earns money, even if it does take up loads and loads of time...

When I was growing up my friends weird Dad used to spend all his time in the back room of their house with the curtains closed painting miniature soldiers in enamel paint. That's what I always think of when someone says 'DH spends hours on his hobby' but now, thanks to this thread, I'll presume it's dogging forevermore. Either way it makes me think they are a weirdo!

I'm a serial hobbyist

I met DH through a hobby. In the good old days it tended to have side attractions like getting very drunk, taking silly photos, and gradually coupling up with each other. Not always in that order. Having DCs has really cramped our hobbying around

I'm not saying what the hobby is

I am about to go out to my hobby* and you lot are going to make me late because I am reading this thread, giggling away and don't want to leave the house!

*I am going for a run

I make small models, shadow boxes, dolls houses and paint

I reckon that it annoys me because it's gendered.

Women just go for a run/ watch box sets / drink gin. It's something they do when they can fit it around work, kids, housework . It's unimportant. Men don't say " sorry I can't come out tonight because my OH is going out for a run " .

When men do running it's called a Hobby. Everything in family life has to fit around it. They sign up for a race , draw up a training schedule and nutritional plan and everyone in the whole family has to organise around it. They are too tired to care for their own children at weekends because they have to do a long run , shower and go to bed for a nap.

They can't look after their children after work because they have to go to the gym. Or upload their data to strava and pour over their stats.

I assume it's the same for cycling or bird watching or train spotting.

So women just do stuff . Only men have Hobbies.

I think it's important to have hobbies. It gives you a sense of you. Something that's just for you and nobody else and that you enjoy doing.
Whether it's writing, sewing, managing a bit with a book whilst small people nap, baking, checking cars etc.
Always take time out for yourself however fleeting as it's great.

When you have small children whether you are male or female and you work it's quite hard to have any hobbies. Once they are older it's easier. I never realised only men had hobbies however. As we were growing up men and women both had hobbies so I've never seen it as male or female eg my mother had an allotment and spent a lot of time there in the 1970s. My father read a lot and liked getting Folio Society books. Both my parents went here www.litandphil.org.uk/. As they are dead now it won't identify anyone.... and one would look after us for an hour or two whilst the other went to change their books although once they got very busy with the 3 of us they left in the end. It was simpler just to take us with them to the public library.

Neither of my parents had much time for hobbies as we grew up as they worked full time, but there's been no stopping either of them since they retired. No gender bias in our house either, DH and I both do group (fixed time) hobbies, me three a week and him two, plus I have an allotment and he swims which are flexible. We both give up the fixed ones if the other needs us to for some reason.

Hobby is an acceptable word for an activity done for enjoyment over a period of time.

Posters are just taking the piss out of others

My comment about only men having Hobbies was slightly tongue in check.

And i was talking about couples with dependent children and how mothers have to fit their activities around kids while fathers expect their children to fit around them.

And i was talking about couples with dependent children and how mothers have to fit their activities around kids while fathers expect their children to fit around them

This is true. The number of women I know who decide they have to go running at 5am so they don't "adversely" affect the hallowed "family time" is incredible. Dads won't, they'll just go when it suits them. And Dads think they have earned the time because they are out at work, while the SAHM just looks after the kids so she doesn't need any time out, does she? Even if the mum works outside the home, that seems to be considered by some dads as "her-time" and so he still gets priority over leisure time outside work.

It doesn't seem to be true amongst couples I know.

My daughter did massive aunts of Irish Dancing and if involved us driving all over the country to competitions. We always noticed when we were driving up motorways at 7am on a Sunday morning the number of other people obviously going to similar random places - judging by the amount of strange shaped items in their cars.

One time at a competition the next hall was full of George Formby ukulele impersonators and across the road was a viking re-enactors event.

It takes all sorts to make the world and it's brilliant. I could not even begin to guess your hobby - the possibilities are endless.

Have to say I find it difficult to understand how people can't have hobbies beyond watching TV - I could not possibly fit everything I want to do into a dozen lifetimes nevermind the single one I get.

I was thinking those 'hobbies' must be something embarrassing in an uncool sense rather than a dogging sense. My dh's embarrassing hobby is making model trainsets, which I find a bit childish if I'm honest, but I suppose it's harmless enough.