My partner stripped for others

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How would you take this ?

After a pub night out a group of us went back to a friends ( including a couple of people neither me or my partner had met before )

I went to bed almost immediately as I had a long drive on Sunday .

My dp instigated a " fun" stripping session with some of the girls with some " funny" whipping and spanking . She drew the line when it got a bit sexual and came to bed .

I am really upset . If I had walked down in the middle of it I would have been horrified and not known if the line would be drawn .
( two of the girls have form for this and things to be sexual with others )

What do you think ? Is this ok?

My dp feels bad . But should I take action ?

So men and women then?

Yes, except lots of people call women 'girls' and men 'guys' well into adulthood. I think it would be pretty clear from the OP if the issue was that minors were stripping with adult men. Especially since she actually stated the age-range of the people involved.

SuperFlyHigh I wouldn't do it now, was 12 years ago and as I said was alcohol dependent. Was just pointing out that the drunk brain doesn't think rationally.

apologies Troodie I did read after I'd replied that you'd be an alcohol dependant! I know that that can make one do unwise things.

Glad you're in a better place with alcohol now.

'Fab DF material' means 'the kind of thing that desperate, subliterate Daily Mail hacks pick up and turn into a 'story'. Probably called GIRLFRIEND'S' SAUCY LESBO ROMP AS I SLEPT.

Nothing to do with the person involved's potential for being a good father. Especially seeing as how she is female.

However more this goes on the more I think OP's DP isn't quite telling the truth here about what actually happened.

Me too. I think they are being economical with the truth tbh.

@Superflyhigh. I wasn't especially referring to your post- immediately after two clarifying posts there is one assuming that OP must be a bloke and his terrible wife is stripping for other men.

I must say I disagree with you (in this situation, if not in theory). People can fancy what they want, and in a monogamous, middle aged, child rearing relationship DP must have known this was very naughty (probably the point); whether men were present seems pretty marginal to me.

I read DF material to mean Daily Fail material not dear father in this context.

Thank you for all your replies and advice I have used various snippets for this nights discussion with dp

She has sworn to never do anything like this again

I can confirm I am def not daily mail or a journalist at all just a sad woman who feels betrayed and a fool .

You're a better person than I am OP. I sincerely hope she doesn't do this sort of thing again.

I highly doubt she won't do it again
Maybe she just won't tell you next time

Have to agree with you NoCapes this would be a deal breaker for me.

Also agree - not on in anyone's book.

Doubtful this will be a one off, sorry op.

Fucking hell, I can't believe that some people wouldn't see this as cheating? If she had gotten completely naked with one other person, and indulged in some spanking with them etc, it would be seen as cheating, why is it different because there were 5 people? I actually think it's worse.

There's no way, there wouldn't have been kissing and fondling as the clothes were removed. There was plenty of time, to have a re-think, before she was totally naked. "Hmm, I'm removing my blouse, should I be doing this?" "Now I'm unclipping my bra, should I be doing this?" " That guy is touching my breasts in front of everyone, should I be doing this?" "Now I'm unbuttoning my trousers, should I really be doing this?" "Now I'm slipping my knickers off, whilst watching Bob get his dick out, should I be doing this?" You get my drift.

And, fwiw, I would imagine that sex was had, but she has to tell you something (minimise), as it will come in conversation at some point, as the "wild" girls don't have to keep anything a secret. At which point she can say "I told you what happened, the sex must have started after I left"

Yeh. Right.

Absolute deal breaker for me. Sorry.

Couldn't trust after this, but then I don't see 'drunken fun' as cheating, cheating is cheating in my book and alcohol intake is a lame excuse