My partner stripped for others

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How would you take this ?

After a pub night out a group of us went back to a friends ( including a couple of people neither me or my partner had met before )

I went to bed almost immediately as I had a long drive on Sunday .

My dp instigated a " fun" stripping session with some of the girls with some " funny" whipping and spanking . She drew the line when it got a bit sexual and came to bed .

I am really upset . If I had walked down in the middle of it I would have been horrified and not known if the line would be drawn .
( two of the girls have form for this and things to be sexual with others )

What do you think ? Is this ok?

My dp feels bad . But should I take action ?

Sorry, crossposted with the OP. Further info came to light as I was typing.

I can't really tell what happened - it's a bit confusing and dripfeed-y.

What did she actually do? Strip in front of a group of men and women and let them spank and grope her?

Olmpia there is no need to kick someone when they are down .

I think I have offered clear explanations of the situation and the genders .

She's apologetic and upset and wishes it hadn't have happened

If she says it was partially the alcohols fault then Id agree to her avoiding alcohol for the forseeable future or youre done but that means you have to drop it and move on but feel free to ltb if she drinks again tho

I'm not sure how more clearly I can say this /

My dp instigated a stripping session . She took her clothes off as did others in the group in my friends kitchen .
They then messed about dancing and whipping and spanking each other .

When it got sexual my dp stopped and came to bed upstairs where I was

olympia what is drippy about it? person and partner go out, person and partner go back to friends house with several friends. person goes to bed. partner continues drinking downstairs with friends then strips for said friends. One friend turns it sexual, partner calls stop and goes up to bed with person.

What do the sex's, genders or orientations of person, partner or friend have to do with it?

Thank you babybitchface I was beginning to think I'm going mad

Olympia, you're just saying drip-feed because the DP in question is a woman. It's not drip-feedy at all. The facts are clear from the OP, as is the gender of the DP. What do you find so garbled and hard to understand?

OP, I would speak to her. Sounds pretty stupid and disrespectful but some people, myself included, do idiotic things when drunk. She would have to promise never to do it again though.

When you say she stripped , to what her full underwear, just knickers, naked, what?

I also think it was just drunken deftness. Unless she got naked, then I'd maybe have a different opinion.

What an interesting first post on MN....

Thanks all chatted I will be speaking further to her .
I feel quite shaken up from it all.
I don't know whether I should question our five year relationship over it .

It's not a first post I have name changed

and an interesting user name too no?

*They then messed about dancing and whipping and spanking each other .

When it got sexual my dp stopped*

In what alternative reality is semi-nakedly dancing around whipping and spanking each other not sexual?

"Hmm, I think if it was only with her female friends it wouldn't be so much of an issue, the presence of blokes there too is worse."

Why?

Yes they were mostly all naked I believe a man had pants on and one girl had pants on

This will be in Wednesdays Mail

Wtf?!
How 'stripped' were they? Naked?
And what did she mean by 'she left when it got sexual' - how much more sexual could it have got than stripping and spanking?!

That is seriously humiliating to you, I'd leave

I think it is all bad . The girls involved are all bisexual . The men are heterosexual

Jeez people, leave the flippin op alone. Troll hunt elsewhere and just report the bloody thing if you are worried.

Honestly, yielding pitchforks must give you all strong biceps.

OP, I'd be furious if it was my DP. It would have me seriously questioning my relationship.

It's not that drip feedy at all actually and I'm usually the first to jump in and accuse of that happening if it is!

OP - I'd be really pissed off if I were you as if could have quite easily have got sexual had she not given her head a shake. Also what would she have done if you weren't upstairs, let it get sexual?!

I'd be really annoyed especially as your relationship is that serious if you're going to have a child together, she shouldn't even be doing this, drunk or not.

Oh X-post - so she was naked!?!

Very clear to me too.

And YY I would talk to her about what your boundaries are and what you feel is accceptable within your relationship.
My feeling is that she HAS her own boundaries, she stopped when she felt the game went to far and over those boundaries (that's her view of Hingis got sexual).
The issue here is that your boundaries aren't the same than her.

I would put at the same level that two partners having a discussion on porn and what is or isn't acceptable (again what boundaries do you have).
The most important thing for me would be that those boundaries are respected and in that case, as you have the stricter boundaries, that YOUR boundaries are respected.
If your DP at any point later one wasn't respecting them, then it would a LTBh ground iyswim?

Get out and run for the hills. How humiliating for you op! No thanks. Not a relationship for a child to come in to. Sorry.

Oh shit, I just saw 2 of the men are heterosexual not that that makes it any better but it makes it way worse... What if it went further?!

Yes, as babybitchface says, I'd be questioning my relationship with her too.

Xpost.
If they were naked, then it's a whole different story IMO.
Surely not being naked in front of people that you could get sexual with is a line too far for anyone.
What was the thing that made her stop as it got 'sexual' if it isn't the beng naked?