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AIBU when out with my pushchair

262 replies

NotForSale · 17/02/2017 06:37

To want to ram it into the ankles of anyone in front of me who walks really slow/ stops/ or cuts across me?

OP posts:
CaraAspen · 17/02/2017 11:15

They block up aisles in shops too which is thoughtless behaviour.

jcne · 17/02/2017 11:19

please, mums with pushchairs are the worst for thinking they own the pavement. particularly when there is a bank of 2 or 3 of them and they are yakking away with no regard for the person desperately trying to negotiate their way around them.

PortiaCastis · 17/02/2017 11:22

What a bleddy entitled mare you are OP. Wheelchairs take precedence over pushchairs and you've bought a pram not the feckin pavement

Socksey · 17/02/2017 11:33

While I know this was initially posted in jest, I've had people ram into my ankles with their pushchairs... usually as they weren't paying the blindest bit of attention to where they were going...
One particular idiot rammed into me when I was stationary and had my back to her (lots of space for her to go around) cut my ankles and couldn't understand that I shoved the attacking beast back at her before checking to see what had run into me... she was annoyed that I would touch her pram... !!!

5moreminutes · 17/02/2017 11:36

You wish female parents wouldn't push prams towards other people Cara

Why do soany threads go from the sublime to the Ridiculous so fast?

OP was light-hearted I think

Some people responded in a similarly light hearted tone

Some people made valid points about disability and frailty

Some people pointed out that basically everyone is annoying and the only way to cope in a populated urban area is for everyone to be tolerant

All fine

Then along come the inevitable mum bashers who basically have a compulsive need to "tell off" anyone female who leaves the house with a dependent child and doesn't apologise and doff their cap to the much more important people whose way they might inadvertently get in, or whose eyes and ears they might offend by being seen/ heard - ironic given how the thread started...

Chloe84 · 17/02/2017 11:48

Thank you Awaywiththepixies

She's ok now, but I wish I had been with her at the time. Although, the women probably wouldn't have picked on her if she wasn't alone.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 17/02/2017 11:51

Nobody is telling parents not to go out in public with their child. Just telling them to not deliberately ram other people if they're going a bit too slow for them.

I was shopping in the city centre yesterday and came across a swathe of very rude people. One being a Mum trying to ram me in the legs with her EMPTY pushchair. Her toddler was busy toddling in front of me which is why I was going slow. You know, so I didnt trip and land on the poor sod. When going home. A grown man nearly knocked me flying as he literally cut me up to run across the road to the train station. I put two and two together = obviously running for a train. Until he slowed down and turned into the other direction and I'm still wondering why he legged it across a very busy main road and cut me up in the process. If it was an elderly person he would have knocked her flying. They could have really been hurt.

Despite all of this I managed not to cause any arguments. Just smiled and gritted my teeth and was glad to get home.

LucklessMonster · 17/02/2017 12:06

People with buggies are the most irritating pedestrians of all. Well, second maybe to people on scooters.

Get over yourself.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 17/02/2017 12:12

Just remembered when I got rammed by a pushchair coming towards me on morning on the way to work. Unfortunately for the lady with the pushchair, I had a cup of extra hot coffee from Starbucks. I felt awful that it went all over the pushchair but the woman seemed to be on a kamikaze mission and there was nothing I could do.

CaraAspen · 17/02/2017 12:15

PortiaCastis

What a bleddy entitled mare you are OP. Wheelchairs take precedence over pushchairs and you've bought a pram not the feckin pavement

Hear hear.

kissmethere · 17/02/2017 12:24

Yea good luck with not so polite person if you're fond of ramming with your push chair. An accident, meh, impatience? You'll be getting it, sorry.

Jenwen22 · 17/02/2017 12:33

YANBU. I ended doing this when my friends daughter was in a pushchair, as I got sick of jarring her to a stop when people would cut in front. When my little one is born in a few months I'll probably be the same again.

brasty · 17/02/2017 12:41

I have a chronic disability. When I have a flare up I get short of breath and walk slowly. I have been rammed in the ankles by pushchairs. Because obviously there need to go faster matters more than my disability.

5moreminutes · 17/02/2017 13:00

Why do people address / get angry about comments that have not been made?

This is not a thread about buses, nobody pitted wheelchairs against buggies, in fact both wheelchairs and buggies face the problem of people stopping suddenly in front of them or cutting them up.

Why then must people post that wheelchairs trump buggies? There is no wheelchair/ buggy conflict of interest here, whatsoever.

It's like posting that you wish your boss would not call you about work when you are home with flu, and being told to get over yourself because some other illness is worse. The other illness might be worse, but that is a separate issue and there is no conflict of interest between people with flu and people with more serious illness, the conflict is between the person off sick and the person expecting them to work when sick.

Sometimes people seem not actually to have read even the opening comment before posting, yet others will then agree with comments made mid way through that don't link at all to the actual thread and get forceful about them...

Dawndonnaagain · 17/02/2017 13:18

YANBU. I ended doing this when my friends daughter was in a pushchair, as I got sick of jarring her to a stop when people would cut in front. When my little one is born in a few months I'll probably be the same again.
Let's hope you don't do it to my dd then, otherwise we'll be meeting across a courtroom. Hmm

sunshinesupermum · 17/02/2017 13:28

YABVU if you actually do ram somebody! Some of us walk slowly because we're older, infirm or just more patient in getting from A 2 B.

These huge baby carriers so many Mums insist on using take up most of the pavement where I live! Bring back the old McLaren buggies that took up no space and folded up easily when on buses.

5moreminutes · 17/02/2017 13:42

sunshine my mum had an absolutely huge pram 40 odd years ago - she used it for so long that I conciously remember it. My sister was on reigns tied into the pram part and I had a seat on the front, like a shopping trolley, and there was a massive rack underneath to carry around the kitchen sink shopping and paraphernalia - in fact it probably was the size of a shopping trolley. I think prams used to be bigger, not smaller!

Of course ramming would be very unreasonable and everyone should be more tolerant, it works both/ all ways!

ElvishArchdruid · 17/02/2017 13:42

Cuntweasel - that is my new favourite word!

At least a pushchair is a temporary issue unlike wheelchair users...

CaraAspen · 17/02/2017 13:47

On reins.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 17/02/2017 13:47

YANBU. I ended doing this when my friends daughter was in a pushchair, as I got sick of jarring her to a stop when people would cut in front. When my little one is born in a few months I'll probably be the same again.

Jesus Christ!

Let me guess, you're only jesting too? Hmm

dustarr73 · 17/02/2017 14:01

Away the op actually hasnt rammed anybody.Everybody getting their knickers in a twist over something the op hasnt done.

I have felt the rage many a time but would i ram somebody,no because im not a fucking idiot.But if somebody stopped right in front of me and i didnt have enough time to stop.Well shit happens.

And

rubybleu · 17/02/2017 14:01

5more Actually I find men with buggies to be far more inconsiderate than women - they charge forward without breaking pace, expecting all to scatter in their path.

OP YABU if you ever (a) look at your phone whilst pushing a buggy (b) stop dead to attend to your child or any of the other oblivious behaviour I see in my area of North London.

SunnyDayDreaming101 · 17/02/2017 14:18

Please have a little consideration for people who walk slow too!

I have SPD and move like a snail, worse is my cousin who has a lung condition meaning she has about 20% capacity. Looks like there is nothing wrong at all but she can't walk far or fast for obvious reasons and has to stop suddenly when she feels dizzy or out of breath.

The amount of people who tut at her, walk round her glaring, make rude comments and are just generally arse holes is unbelievable. Once they see the oxygen lead they will sometimes apologise but not always.

We all need to be more considerate, give prams room, wheelchairs space, older/pregnant/less mobile our seats and for the love of god if someone steps in front of you walk around them without acting like a mannerless dickhead! Heaven forbid it slows you down a half second or cause you to take that extra side step! How inconsiderate of that person who could be suffering from an unseen illness to get in YOUR way. Get a grip - everyone has there own issues to deal with and if the biggest you have is someone walking in front of your buggy then you are a very lucky person indeed!

maddiemookins16mum · 17/02/2017 14:23

YAB as U as the mums who walk two abreast with their mini tanks up the road so nobidy can get past and then when I have to walk in the road they tut!