AIBU when out with my pushchair

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To want to ram it into the ankles of anyone in front of me who walks really slow/ stops/ or cuts across me?

Dawndonnaagain if it's a clearly able bodied person barging in front of me, it's pretty bloomin obvious. I think most people can tell the difference.

Wow, that's a breathtaking level of arrogance. Do tell me how you immediately recognise a 20 year old with both an Autistic Spectrum Condition and Ehlers Danlos syndrome, do please.

Here's a novel idea... why not just say excuse me and walk round them???

Dawndonnaagain okay, I think you're deliberately misconstruing me. I'm not interested having a protracted argument. I found the post light hearted and amusing. Clearly others do not! Enjoy your evening.

LaurieF

Here's a novel idea... why not just say excuse me and walk round them???

No way would most consider that rather sensible option. Anyhow, they have to use the invisible fast lane.

if it's a clearly able bodied person barging in front of me, it's pretty bloomin obvious. I think most people can tell the difference.
Lighthearted. Misconstrued. Wow! Just Wow!

Dawndonnaagain Have a cuppa & chill out.

Dawndonnaagain Have a cuppa & chill out
Your remark was disablist. So no, I won't chill out.

It's them fucking old woman trollies that do my head in. Ram them the fuck off the fucking planet. I'm also a bus wanker and recently they seem to have taken over the world. Are they breeding?
May be slightly irrational about these.

Dawndonna - clearly your DD is being inconsiderate by not carrying a placard detailing her medical conditions in order to be given the basic civility of not being run into from behind.
Damnit Frances, perhaps I should stitch something to her coat...

Here's a novel idea... why not just say excuse me and walk round them???

I would love to be able to walk round them. But people rarely leave enough space for pram to pass. When I call 'excuse me, please can I squeeze past?' most look at me blankly, a bit startled, before very slowly making space. People seem to like to spread out across the street, in their own worlds, oblivious to others.

When I'm walking with toddler on reins I'm conscious we're slow and meandering, so keep to the side. I check over my shoulder frequently to make sure we're not blocking people. If someone needs to get round us we stop and make room. I look before changing direction. When we need to stop I find a suitable place where we won't trip people up or obstruct pavement/doorways/route to bus-stops.

I appreciate its horrible to get clipped by a pram, it's happened to me in the past. Yes parents should be careful, but if other pedestrians allowed prams a bit more space there would be less ankle clipping!

I've never rammed anyone with my buggy but I did once have a woman push in front of me in a supermarket queue when I had a basket and SEN DD in a buggy. Woman refused to move so I just pushed the buggy so that DD's feet were parked just behind her legs and waited...sure enough, DD start kicking her in the calves!

In my slight defence it had been a very long day.

So, usually nowhere of actual importance then?

Maybe not to you, but it's important to me to be punctual and use my time efficiently, I can't stand being held up for no good reason. With a pram you can't nip in and out of people easily.

Time efficiently to where? And how do you know the slow person in front of you irrating you just for existing isn't going somewhere equally as important.

Then again when I need to be somewhere on the dot I tend to plan better and even commuting to uni in a different city for years whilst dropping DD off at her day nursery I've managed not to ram anyone with her buggy. It's your responsibility to get to your appointments in time, not a random slow walkers responsibility to telepathically guess.

^It's them fucking old woman trollies that do my head in. Ram them the fuck off the fucking planet. I'm also a bus wanker and recently they seem to have taken over the world. Are they breeding?
May be slightly irrational about these.^

Ever so slightly irrational jojo My mum has rheumatoid arthritis and used a shopping trolley to get her shopping with and to lean on. It used to drive me crazy as above all else I found it unsafe. If she was to fall it wouldn't stop her. It'd go down with her. I finally convinced her to get a proper triwalker thing. The difference in her back posture was amazing.

I'm reliably informed it was a good job I wasn't on a certain bus the other week. A lady got on with a shopping trolley and asked a bloke on two crutches to move for her. I'd have placed them crutches somewhere unspeakable for him the poor soul.

Anyway. I digressed. As you all were...

My god there's a level of selfishness among some of you.

You wouldn't be able to tell that I'm visually impaired when I cut in front of you or have injured my hip when I walk slowly. If I get in your way and that causes you a problem - tough - get over yourself. You are not that important and you might just need a lesson in humility.

Slow down, be patient and be grateful that you can walk fast and have complete awareness of everything around you. As your children grow, think how you are going to teach them consideration for others.

I need to share this story and this seems like a good enough thread. I was in my wheelchair yesterday in a supermarket, wheeling myself along slowly, because I only have one good shoulder. I stopped to pick up from a shelf and as I was doing so, a fucker grabbed my chair and wheeled me out the way. I'm afraid that I was too stunned to say anything. Twats are everywhere.

wayfaring omg!

time efficiently to where? And how do you know the slow person in front of you irrating you just for existing isn't going somewhere equally as important

They're not irritating me by being slow. And obviously someone with a visual impairment cannot help accidentally blocking others. But the majority of people are not visually impaired, they are just too wrapped up in their own worlds to realise others are trying to get past.

If you walk slowly, in a busy street or precinct, why not walk behind others who are going at your pace? Instead of stringing out across the breadth of the street so nobody else can pass. Why walk 3-abreast when you can walk single file in crowded places eg a street with bus-stands? If you're holding hands why not close the gap between you instead of spreading out taking up the whole pavement?

But the majority of people are not visually impaired,

There's a wide variant of what classes as visually impaired. Unless you have access to their medical records you wouldn't know.

They are just too wrapped up in their own worlds to realise others are trying to get past.

You could say the same about many ptam users who are in a rush to nowhere it seems . The lady who made a point of trying to ankle ram me with her EMPTY pram last week was that wrapped up in her own self importance she didn't even register the reason I was walking slow is because her young child was toddling in front of me and I didnt want to knock her by accident.

Silly me. Next time I'll just step over her.

*pram users. Bloody phone.

If you walk slowly, in a busy street or precinct, why not walk behind others who are going at your pace? Instead of stringing out across the breadth of the street so nobody else can pass. Why walk 3-abreast when you can walk single file in crowded places eg a street with bus-stands? If you're holding hands why not close the gap between you instead of spreading out taking up the whole pavement?
Are you for real?
You want me to find someone else who is walking at the same speed and direction as me and walk behind them so I don't get in your way?
Or when I am walking with my children either side of me, I should insist we walk in single file instead?
Maybe if you are in such a rush to get places, you should leave earlier so you don't get so stressed about other people getting in your way.
Such a lack of tolerance and patience from people!

The irony is that more often than not it's folk with buggies causing the obstruction / delay