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To say DH is a twat and has ruined my birthday.

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furrypets · 15/02/2017 18:43

It was my birthday yesterday. The intention was we were going in town and i was going to choose something for him to get me. Before town we drove to a local beauty spot so we could walk the dog first.

i don't normally like my photo took but i thought with it being my birthday i'll give him my phone and ask him to take my picture. Just a normal everyday thing that people do right? No, he had a huge moan because he had the dog on a lead in one hand and in the other a filled dog poo bag.Wouldnt a normal person just put down the poo bag and take the picture? No not him, he made a big show of not managing to take the pic, blaming it on the "stupid phone".

I told him it's the easiest phone in the world, just press the big circle at the bottom. Nope, couldn't do it, threw my phone down in the wet grass and stormed off like a big spoiled kid.

So that was my birthday, no present (not bothered) but we're still not speaking, apart from him telling me it's my fault for asking him to take my picture.

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Ohyesiam · 15/02/2017 19:19

Sorry your birthday was pants. FlowersWine

Sounds like there is more to this, who would have a tantrum over nothing on their DW 's birthday. Is there something else he could be upset about?

booklooker · 15/02/2017 19:23

Agree with Whocansay

You sound like you were being a bit princessy to want your photo taken when he had dog in one hand, and dog pooh in the other.

(He shouldn't have thrown the phone though)

Fidelia · 15/02/2017 19:23

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Whocansay · 15/02/2017 19:24

Pictish - she didn't say 'fair enough' though did she? She pressed on with it, telling him where the button was. I think they both made a big deal out of nothing. But I think asking someone for a picture when they clearly have their hands full is a bit daft and she should have waited.

wizzywig · 15/02/2017 19:26

God he sounds hard work. Give him a dummy and a muslin and see if he gets the hint

diddl · 15/02/2017 19:28

But when he started to moan, why didn't you take the dog &/or dog poo?

I know that I couldn't take a pic one handed whilst holding a dog on a lead with the other.

Thattimeofyearagain · 15/02/2017 19:30

Does he have form for ruining things for you by any chance?

2017SoFarSoGood · 15/02/2017 19:34

What an ass he is being. I hate when it is something like a birthday (or Xmas) when the tantrum occurs, spoiling it for everyone. We don't actually get a do over ffs!

Flowers and happy birthday to you. Hope he gets back on track pronto.

Original poster
furrypets · 15/02/2017 19:34

I understand it might sound a bit princessy to ask for a photo at that moment. But i'm so not like that. I never normally ask him to take my pic, i don't think i'm photogenic. I'm constantly taking pics of the family but usually hold out when it's me. It was just a spontaneous thing, the moment felt right, the sun came out, a bit of spring in the air.....and because it was my birthday i'd made a better effort and thought i looked ok. He could have easily dropped the lead, dog never runs off. To me it didn't seem a big deal, because it wouldn't have been to me iyswim.

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furrypets · 15/02/2017 19:36

Ahh diddi i didn't want a bag of poo in my hand for pic did i? Grin

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SoupDragon · 15/02/2017 19:38

6 of one and half a dozen of the other IMO.

AnyFucker · 15/02/2017 19:39

It wasn't a big deal, love

SoupDragon · 15/02/2017 19:39

i didn't want a bag of poo in my hand for pic did i?

But if you were a normal person you would have put it down apparently, Wink

StarryIllusion · 15/02/2017 19:39

I thought marrying a toddler was illegal.

Olympiathequeen · 15/02/2017 19:41

Some men just enjoy playing the hard done by drama queen, and yours is one of them.

booklooker · 15/02/2017 19:42

How old are you both?

If you are about 15/16, then fine.

If you are much older then you both need to grow the fuck up.

Pagwatch · 15/02/2017 19:45

He did make such a drama out if nothing. It's just normal conversation to say 'let me get rid of the crap bag/ give me a minute my hands are full/ whatever '
It's all a bit pathetic
Do you normally get nothing for your birthday?

Butterymuffin · 15/02/2017 19:47

What a drama llama. Even if my partner did something irritating (which some posters see the photo request as, though I don't) on their birthday, I'd try to get over it after any initial response at least because, well, it's their birthday and I'd want it to be nice for them. What's he been doing since then? Are you just walking past each other in the house and not speaking?

dalmatianmad · 15/02/2017 19:47

Happy belated birthday Flowers sorry it was spoiled by your arse of a husband.

SoupDragon · 15/02/2017 19:47

He did make such a drama out if nothing

He didn't join a social media site in order to complain though.

smartiecake · 15/02/2017 19:48

OP I hope you are going to do something nice to make up for your birthday being spoilt and also don't forget it when it's your H's birthday. My birthday last summer was ruined by my H - not in the same circumstances as you though. I already have 3 plans for my birthday this year that don't include husband or kids.

Cakingbad · 15/02/2017 19:48

Throwing the phone down is a bit crap. Sulking all day and trashing a birthday is unforgiveable.

Pagwatch · 15/02/2017 19:50

Ah , are you sure

Beeziekn33ze · 15/02/2017 19:52

Sounds as if DH thinks you should know what he is thinking without being told! Possibly the other way round too ?
Rather sad, you were being spontaneous in the sunshine, thinking he'd cope like you would and he just went grumpy.
💐🎂🍾🎉 - your birthday package!

gillybeanz · 15/02/2017 19:52

I don't think you were being princessy at all. The thought crossed your mind at that time and you asked.
He could have answered in a civil manner, stopped when he was struggling, said he couldn't manage as hands full, can we do it in a minute.
Lot's of reasonable solutions that don't include a 4 year old paddy, stomping off and phone in the mud.
What a prize dick you've landed OP.
To sulk as well, sounds like a right baby
Happy belated birthday, sorry it was ruined.
Does he do this often?