To Fucking hate periods and contraception and my GP and all this womanly bullshit.

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I am 2 weeks in to my period (yes, 2 Fucking weeks of bleeding) and it shows no sign of stopping.

I've been down this road before and I'm fairly confident that it's due to my contraceptive pill.

Trouble is, I've tried pretty much every contraceptive available and none of them work!

I've got pregnant twice using microgynon,
The injection and the patches made me bleed constantly,
Had a Mirena coil which caused me lots of pain, and other sexual issues,
I have some sensory issues and HATE condoms. Honestly, the feel and smell of them makes my skin crawl.
I don't like the idea of rhythm method as I had hypermesis in my last pregnancy so I know I couldn't cope with a surprise pregnancy.

I need a GP appointment, to at least get some advice spiralling this nonsense, but our surgery is the sort where you phone on the day and despite phoning for 3 days, there haven't been any left.

So, wibu to whip out my entire reproductive system and I dunno, just throw it out the window?

myfave you can't book an appointment in advance, but you can turn up first thing. There's usually a queue lol.

I suppose I'll have to try that next, I don't relish the thought of getting the kids up and out by 7:30 though

No, some combined pills have slightly more oestrogen but they're all rated as the same effectiveness in terms of contraception.

Reliabilty can be affected by sickness, missing a pill, taking antibiotics or taking too long a break between packs. Or your husband has super sperm!

Probably the super sperm. TMI but dd2 was conceived with just one attempt, so one or both of us must me extra fertile.

Have you tried cerezette? I had one or two periods when i first started and then none.
I didn't work well on the injection either.

I also agree that trying to blackmail the op's dh into having a vasectomy is wrong. If this was reversed they'd be pitchforks.

If I were you, I would see if I could go to a Family Planning Clinic for advice instead of my GP. You get a longer appointment and can discuss all your options.

Failing that see if one of the GPs in your practice has the DFFP and make an appointment to see that GP - it's the qualification in family planning so that GP will have a special interest in it.

You prob will also find the Family Planning Assocation online test useful to see what your options are:

www.fpa.org.uk/contraception-help/my-contraception-tool

Go to a proper FP clinic. I have to tell my GP what I need, drives me nuts.

I do wish there was a magic solution to get rid of periods/pain/PMT and all the associated bullshit. Drives me nuts.

Vasectomy has a 10% chance if PVPS - that's significant, life-long, untreatable bollock pain.

Plus there are the haematomas and granulomas as fairly significant (but treatable) side effects.

It is his body, his choice.

And I have the same opinion of someone considering someone who doesn't think 1:10 is good enough odds a 'wuss' (would love to see that in an antenatal test thread for example, as I do of someone who told me to woman up and have my tubes tied.

getting him snipped may not solve the problem, and fortunately OP is reasonable enough to see that.

what is not reasonable is that she is not allowed at 26 with kids to say 'job done, get rid of the kit'. Although I hope that there is a less extreme treatment.

Can't believe people are pushing the OPs partner to have the snip

The OP is struggling massively with trying to sort out a contraceptive. She gets pregnant, they make her bleed and feel bad.

Sterilisation for a woman comes with a range of problems, not least the dangers of a general anaesthetic and invasive surgery.

It seems perfectly reasonable to me to suggest the man steps forward to take some responsibility. Why does it all fall on the OP's shoulders to provide contraception?

Implant in your arm? , lasts for three years and works exceptionally well,

Implant in your arm? , lasts for three years and works exceptionally well,

And makes you fat and depressed with zero libido....

I have been on various threads raving about hysterectomies. I had my uterus (not ovaries) out on Friday, and have basically been skipping around all week NOT BLEEDING. Wish I'd had it out years ago.

Not recommending for you as you seem much younger, but would definitely suggest it for anyone who is sure they have finished their family. Not having to put sanitary protection in after every day for six months is just wonderful.

Hope you find something that suits you.

Diaphragm. I used it happily for about 10 years. I'd use it again if i needed contraception. The only issue i had was i reacted badly to the new spermicide they introduced, but you can still buy the old stuff (Gynol II) online.

Me and any form of hormonal contraceptive were a terrible combination.

Condoms?

Ignore me. Just read OP properly!

OP I feel for you.

I am struggling on the mini-pill. Been swapped to another type and double dose to try and stop the bleeding. Ive been bleeding for 6 weeks 😖

Just want to offer you sympathy, the relief when I could finally have womb ablation and sterilisation was huge.

Keep the break through bleeding, being hyper fertile, every pill tried and failed, horrific ness of the mirena. Tried the diaphragm too in desperation at one point...

hope you get to see a GP and get somewhere.

Sorry - my comments re vasectomy were out of line - my general rage against contraception largely coming down to the woman.

As I said, there are effective natural methods, they require some commitment from both parties, but work. We use the sympto thermal method - have used it successfully for 7 years.

It's not 'all falling on OPs shoulders', men are limited in contraceptive options: vasectomy which carries risks, abstinence which OP doesn't want and condoms which OP doesn't want.

I don't think he's being a dick.

A male contraceptive Valsagel is supposed to become available this year. It is being trialed as an injection. Although not available yet.

Step 1 is change your GP - 2 weeks of bleeding is not normal.

I've been on quadruple doses of a progesterone only pill (the gynaecologist was happy for me to be on triple with no worries or concerns), but only for a short while and due to other hormone issues associated with oestrogen - my situation is different to yours but it was decided by specialists, not a GP

I could have written this! I was on the pill and the patch, and still got pregnant! So the double up method didn't work for me.
DH got a vasectomy in the end, and I'm 2 months into contraception free.

it'sall not everyone has those reactions to the implant. It seems to work well for one of my friends.
Some people will have side effects, some won't.
My one friend swears by celeste, she hates cerezette.
Cerezette changed my life.

I've lost weight since using the implant. Pregnancy isn't well known for making you skinny so the fat argument isn't a very good one! Also the libido isn't an issue either. It was an issue when I was on the Combined Pill though, as I was so grumpy I'd snap if he even tried to come near me; I was not a pleasant nor sexual being on the pill. I don't bleed at all on the implant but Sister in law has just has hers removed as was bleeding constantly. I too would recommend the FPC as mine are brilliant. Even if you have to go a little way to go to one, it's worth it.

I just do not get this with men not 'being keen' on a vasectomy when the wives are gong through all this shit. My DH literally skipped down the road to get his vasectomy done after our second one was born.