To think going to a spa for a first date is too much?

[lottieandmia]

Guy I dated for a short time last year, ended by me because he was clingy.

Recently he got in touch and I thought I might give him another chance. But now he is getting all over the top again as if we are in a relationship and this is before the date. I.e. 'do you know what happened last night? I had a dream about you. But I've been worrying all day that it will annoy you' and he's suggesting we go to the swanky spa nearby for this date. I would have suggested a drink.

This isn't going to work is it?

I thought he might have learned from last time. I have very few evenings to myself and there are about 3 other people who've asked me to go out so should I give this one another chance or try someone new?

If you really like him I would just text him and say dinner and a drink is fine and remind him why you split up last time - say its all getting a bit too much too soon, a bit intense and that you havent know him for that long. Can we take it slowly? He might just really like you.

He's Italian & ive dated lots of Italians and they do tend to be more open about their feelings than we reserved Brits. But with my ex he didn't make me anxious.

Trust your gut.

Reserved Brits? Now that's funny.

We are not reserved in the slightest.

But we do have an unwritten rule for a first date - a spa is not in it.

Though, something tells me you're looking for words on here that will encourage you to oblige to his date suggestion...

Personally I think it will be a disaster because he sounds like someone that will not allow you to breathe properly in a relationship, let alone under normal courting circumstances.

But if you are thinking about it - sometimes you just gotta go with the flow, and get out of your comfort zone a little. And if it ends up being a mistake, then it's ok - because we should be allowed to make our own mistakes. Live and learn...live and learn :)

No, I'm honestly not going to - I feel relieved at the idea of not going.

Good call!

lottieandmia I think we dated the same guy if you are in Scotland.Italian, Equally overly affectionate/clinginess that had me running miles.

I'm not in Scotland but I think he lived in Manchester for a bit!