Husbands day off and he's buggered off

[riojaandcorrie]

We're off for half term and it's DHs day off. We'd talked yesterday, about him taking kids swimming in the morning so I could get shopping, pick up prescriptions, walk dogs. This morning I said to him about swimming and he said why can't you go, I said about shopping etc and he said, "you should take them shopping if you want them to be better people" (whatever the f&£@ that means). He then said bye to the kids and buggered off.

I'm with the kids 24/7, I work when the kids are at school (I do school run). I do all the runs to clubs etc after school sand evenings. He is always telling me off about parenting. You're too soft on her, that sort of thing and he goes on the piss for days at a time leaving me with everything. AIBU

He treats you pretty badly

Question: why do you accept to be treated like this?

Erm, where's he gone? When he goes 'on the piss for days'...do you mean he goes out and gets drunk in some bar and sleeps somewhere else or what?
He sounds like a shite husband and dad

He goes on the piss for days? He sounds like a right catch. YANBU.

"He then told me never to speak to him like that again"
Massive red flag.

You sound intelligent and articulate. Why are you allowing yourself to be treated like that?

I suggest you book your own day off work and he can look after the children then. I totally understand someone needing a day to relax and de-stress but it should be fair. If one parent gets it then so should the other.

A selfish man you will never be happy .. I know it well ... a good talk and a heart to heart 😘

Scorpio, are you for real? I was a single parent for ten years and believe me, it's a thousand times better than being with an utter loser, which is what this man sounds like. OP, I really hope you can sort this out. for you on this Valentine's Day.

WTF Scorpio?? Give him a blow Job as thanks to have the kids? HIS kids?

It is NOT typical male behaviour. The OP isn't the hired help and she is not responsible for looking after him and being grateful he might look after his own kids.

Half term, Scorpio? 🤔

Yeah brilliant. Offer a bj to get treated with respect. Wtaf?

Scorpio , can I ask - are you on glue ?

Are you op's partner, Scorpio? Offer him a blowjob? Seriously?

If not, what terribly low standards you set for your own relationships. Please don't inflict them on others as if they're the one true way.

I bloody well did divorce the last man to treat me like the OP has been treated. Just thank goodness I didn't have kids with him, though I would still have left him if we had been parents by the time I saw sense.

Scorpio, would you mind fucking off back to the 1950's love, you're rediculous advice might be more appreciated there.

OP, you don't need this shit. Don't cook for him, sod his washing and I'd be tempted to bin his fucking prescription.

When the kids are back at school go see a solicitor and get rid of this dead weight. You are modelling horrible behaviour for your children. You don't want them growing up thinking this is what relationships look like.

Who the fuck does he think he is? Why does he get to 'tell' you to do things?? He has no respect whatsoever and I would be putting his stuff in a bag right now.

scorpio1981
You have a very skewed view of many things. I can't be bothered to list but you have.
Op: leave him or kick him out, whichever is better for you. He is a lazy fucker and it would be easier without him.

Scorpio, you might want to live your life being treated like a walking cock receptacle with your legs and gob open in exchange for basic parenting in a partner but do not present it as rational "advice"

It's bad enough that we're reading about a woman who allows herself to be spoken to this way - but now here comes another woman who thinks a father should get a blowjob as payment for looking after his own kids? I fucking give up.

I really hope this is one of "those" thread's and the OP isn't really living or should I say..existing..with this man.

OP - he isn't going to change so what are you going to do about the situation?

I've heard it all now.

OP, while he's asleep, get onto this website to work out your entitlements from the state and this website to work out your child benefits.

Assume he won't have the children more than twice a week - no matter what bullshit he gives you, he hardly does anything with them now, so why would that change?

He's useless and selfish and he's setting your children a really bad example and making you unhappy. Time to move on.

I think Scorpio is a man.

I actually agree with a few aspects of Scorpios blood pressure inducing post.
get a grandparent/childminder in to babysit or take them off your hands for a few hours so you can go and totally spoil yourself or whatever

I think this is perfect short term solution, do you have any youngsters you can call on to literally watch them for one hour or two hours?

You are not going to get any joy from your DH. You wont change him the best you can hope for is to get through the day and try and have a heart to heart with him when the time is right, about what he wants from his family, you and life.

You then need to say you need more help and you will not tolerate a single word of criticism over child rearing going forward. and discuss a special savings accnt for more baby sitters and paid help?

OP I am so angry on your behalf about what your husband said. Why does he think he has the right to boss you around and forbid you from criticising him (even when he bloody well deserves it).
Has he always acted like he considers you his inferior?

scorpio may even be her DH