To ask if you think breast milk after 12 months is very beneficial?

[Skatingonthinice16]

Dd is nearly 14 months and I'm starting to feel like I'm going to have to stop giving her breast milk soon for my own sake. I spoke to my dr about it and she said that really all the benefits would have happened by now.

I just feel selfish stopping something which may benefit dd for my own sake. But does it make much difference now? Does it ever make much difference in reality?

He's never so much as washed a bottle or changed a nappy since we had her. In fact he's never fed her.

What's his excuse?!

He's never so much as washed a bottle or changed a nappy since we had her. In fact he's never fed her.

Why?! Is he deathly allergic to babies?

I'm a sahm so it's my job.

No it bloody well isn't just your job! When you're home on your own, yes, but when he's around it's a shared responsibility. Otherwise you get no break or down time from your "job"! And he's shirking his role as a parent as well.

I think you said in another thread that you barely see him?

I think you should give it a month without the 2 am pump and see how it goes - if she wakes for it at first then you could offer moo milk or indeed water.

Re: partner ... Either looking after a baby is hard work, in which case you need help when he's at home; or it's easy, in which case it's no bother for him to pitch in when he's at home. Which does he think it is?

That's really tough that your partner is not supportive.

I would maybe dreamfeed her at 11 when you go to bed and then see how long she sleeps for. I wouldn't wake up to express in the night.

Your supply should be fine but if it did drop and you wanted to go back to expressing in the night, you could do this (not saying you should but just incase you were panicking that once you stop in the night that's it).

Maybe cut the night expressing first and see how you go. Just one small step at a time.

It can be very emotional stopping expressing. If you were getting a proper sleep at night, you may find the expressing in the day is easier to cope with.

Definite try dropping the night expressing if you want. By now your supply is really robust & if you feel your baby needs more you'll be able to boost your supply again by expressing more.