AIBU to think I'm being unappreciated?

[Jannerite]

Before I start, this is going to potentially be outing, anybody who knows me will probably guess it's me, so hey to anybody who might potentially know me

My youngest nephew, my DBro's DS with his new girlfriend, was born about 6 months ago. Every Wed-Thurs I'll get a message from DBro asking if I'm having my nephew this weekend. This has happened for every weekend, bar about maybe 3-4 weekends since he was born, that's probably a generous guess. He comes on the Friday and leaves on the Sunday. Every weekend I am stuck indoors as I never have his pram here.

My DBro and his girlfriend weren't together, or it was really new, around the time my nephew was conceived. Nobody really knows as it was a bit secretive. She has DC from previous relationships, who spend time with their dad at the weekends. I have said to my DM that maybe this weekend I'll say no, but she insists I should do it as my DBro and his girlfriend hardly get any time alone together, and it's good for their relationship to have that time.

I really don't mind having my nephew with me. It can be quite nice (although I'm glad he's been sleeping through the night for a while now ). However, I've never been thanked for looking after him. I'm not expecting a party, or fireworks, or anything fancy, but a simple thank you every now and again would be nice.

AIBU for thinking I'm being unappreciated or am I just being a bitch for wanting a simple "thank you" sometimes? I can't quite work out which it is.

[AfternoonTeaBus]

A very similar thing happened to my sister. She would have her DGS from almost week 1 all weekend, this continues to this day, her DGS is almost 11 and her DS and wife split up 10 years ago!

[Quartz2208]

Bless you it seems that you are a strange family dynamic where your brothers needs are put ahead of yours and your life. This seems as much about your relationship with your Mum than your brothehr

[HolesinTheSoles]

Are you the dependable sensible one and your brother the baby that your mother feels needs help to look after himself?

It does seem like even if you enjoy spending time with your DN you need to be in control of the situation - not just the default babysitter. You don't need to excuse yourself if you don't fancy doing it all the time and your DB should provide a buggy or pram for his DS when he's with you.