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Original poster

Mums never turned up!

89 replies

hungryhippo90 · 07/02/2017 09:38

My child's just started a new school, there's a group of the parents that I've become friendly with, despite my apparent social anxieties.

I was invited to go to breakfast with them this morning straight after drop off this morning,
I was ecstatic! Of course I said yes, /!; I was at the restaurant by 9:04.

The restaurant is a 3/4 minute walk from the school.
I've been sat here for half an hour, looking at the door, but it's dawned on me that no one is going to come.

I feel really embarrassed, I told the lady in the restaurant I was looking for a group of mums that I was supposed to be meeting, and that they were all probably sat down already so she knows I've been stood up too!

How do I navigate this?

OP posts:
DearMrDilkington · 07/02/2017 09:40

Oh God! Any chance you've got the wrong restaurant? Can't you give them a ring and see what's going on?

DontTouchTheMoustache · 07/02/2017 09:40

Oh dear. Are you sure you have the right day/time/location? What time were they supposed to meet? Do you have one of their numbersto drop them a quick text or call?

mumonashoestring · 07/02/2017 09:40

Do you have a mobile number for any of them?

brassbrass · 07/02/2017 09:41

could you be in the wrong place or got the date wrong?

Maudlinmaud · 07/02/2017 09:41

I agree with others, most likely a mistake.
Get yourself a coffee.

Rachie1986 · 07/02/2017 09:42

Mobile number or Facebook message etc, was it today we were supposed to be meeting or did I get mixed up?!

ALemonyPea · 07/02/2017 09:44

Oh no! I hope it's just a small misunderstanding. Do you have any of them on FB or mobile number that you could message?

GinIsIn · 07/02/2017 09:44

Are you sure you have the right day/place?

Mooey89 · 07/02/2017 09:45

It will be a misunderstanding. Text them.

winniewigs · 07/02/2017 09:46

Hoping that it's all just a misunderstanding.

Lilaclily · 07/02/2017 09:46

You poor thing

The80sweregreat · 07/02/2017 09:48

Was it just a general thing ' we sometimes meet up at such and such' without anything being set for today?
if you have facebook or a mobile for one of them, just send a generic message ' was it today your meeting up and where?'
If not, ask them tomorrow at the gate. sorry its happened to you though.

ohfourfoxache · 07/02/2017 09:50

You have nothing to be embarrassed about Thanks

emsyj37 · 07/02/2017 09:51

It will be a mistake/crossed wires. Grown adult women do not conspire in groups to make someone sit alone in a restaurant and be embarrassed - except in movies! Contact one of them if you have details, tell the waitress you must have got the day wrong and go on with your day. If you suffer with social anxiety then this may feel personal, but it won't be - I promise. Nobody has set this up, it's just a mistake. If they serve nice breakfasts then maybe stay and have one anyway and enjoy a bit of peace - or a few MN Classics threads!

MadMags · 07/02/2017 09:56

Sounds like crossed wires somewhere.

Can't you text someone??

Suzytwoshoes · 07/02/2017 09:57

Just tell the waitress you must have the wrong date, no need to be embarrassed. Order a nice breakfast anyway!
Message the other mums to find out what happened!

NavyandWhite · 07/02/2017 09:58

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Rugbyplayersarehot · 07/02/2017 09:59

Text the one you know best love. Misunderstanding

SomedayMyPrinceWillCome · 07/02/2017 10:00

I'm so sorry OP, I had this exact same thing with my "friends" from NCT. They changed the venue, managed to tell everyone in the group except me. I never saw any of them again 😡😢

Floggingmolly · 07/02/2017 10:00

Oh, you poor thing! It'll be a misunderstanding; did you see any of them at drop off?

BenLinusatemyhomework · 07/02/2017 10:01

Oh no! Holding your hand - it's quite likely just a mistake on their part.

TheLivingAsheth · 07/02/2017 10:02

If it was straight after drop off, would you not all be walking down together? Perhaps they thought you would all be walking down together so if you weren't there, you weren't coming, and then they decided to go somewhere else.

Coconut0il · 07/02/2017 10:02

Hope you got a nice breakfast and coffee anyway. Don't be embarrassed.

Original poster
hungryhippo90 · 07/02/2017 10:02

I'm sure that it was today, as there was a fund raising event, the one who invited me said that after breakfast she would bank the money. Also sure of the venue because she told me where and I'd eaten a roast dinner there several weeks ago, and noticed they did breakfasts, we were talking about the cost (all you can eat buffet type for about a fiver!) and it's the only place like it in the area.

Maybe it was cancelled and because they don't have my details they couldn't make me aware.

I'd ran past a few of the parents who I don't know as well, but they didn't say anything.

It just feels like a big thing because I made such an effort to go, and I've been kicking myself for seeming like such a wet blanket. I hoped that today I would feel a bit more comfortable and they might even think I'm a laugh..... So Much riding on one breakfast!

OP posts:
BastardGoDarkly · 07/02/2017 10:03

Ah bollocks! It's a mix up, for sure, a whole group wouldn't be so twatty.

Get a large coffee and a muffin, and find out what's going on, if they're local, they'll probably pop down, I would! :)

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