Mums never turned up!

[hungryhippo90]

My child's just started a new school, there's a group of the parents that I've become friendly with, despite my apparent social anxieties.

I was invited to go to breakfast with them this morning straight after drop off this morning,
I was ecstatic! Of course I said yes, /!; I was at the restaurant by 9:04.

The restaurant is a 3/4 minute walk from the school.
I've been sat here for half an hour, looking at the door, but it's dawned on me that no one is going to come.

I feel really embarrassed, I told the lady in the restaurant I was looking for a group of mums that I was supposed to be meeting, and that they were all probably sat down already so she knows I've been stood up too!

How do I navigate this?

Lol! Haha, such a bad choice of words with the "I'll just bring breakfast up!!"

Oh my gosh, the menu was set alight lol!

I've only seen one of the mums since, which is the one that never speaks to me, but today we had a bit of a natter. She doesn't go for breakfast as she has other commitments, but she was friendly and we laughed about me turning up yesterday, on obviously the wrong day! It's broken the ice with one of them. Every black cloud and all that.

This new school tends to promote independence, most kids aren't taken to their playground by their parents. It's perfectly safe to leave them once they are within the grounds (but I'm a bit of a smotherer! Must keep watch until DD is in her classroom)

So I don't see the parents as often as I would have in many other schools.

So was it a misunderstanding or is it more of a casual arrangement that didn't happen this week?

Can't confirm yet, but I'm choosing to believe it must have been a misunderstanding, I think PPs are right, grown up women wouldn't go out of their way to be spiteful in this way, especially when our children have formed friendships.

Mum I spoke to this morning couldn't confirm or deny, I spoke about it and said " when was breakfast, I went yesterday. I'd obviously turned up on the wrong day! The restaurant was virtually empty! We had a laugh about it, she said she couldn't help me out, because she doesn't know when the breakfasts are, she has to run straight after the school run, and she's done it for so long she doesn't really take part in the conversation.

hungryhippo90 you sound amazingly nice, cheery and willing to make an effort for friends. Please channel this into receptive mums, go direct for coffee from drop off, together, invite someone round for coffee etc but do it straight after drop off or pick up so no misunderstandings.

Maybe join the fundraising group or parent teacher group whatever to make friends at the school.

Good luck.

Glad you can laugh about it now and you didn't bring the breakfast up

(but I'm a bit of a smotherer! Must keep watch until DD is in her classroom)

You don't think that's put people off, do you?

At my school there are two definite tribes; the hangers on and the leavers. And never the twain shall meet!

I am so sorry it didn't happen and hopefully it was just a misunderstanding

Awwwh OP you sound so lovley. If you live on the south coast of Hampshire I'll go for breakfast with you haha. It is so hard in my opinion to make friends. We moved down here 6 months ago and despite my son being at school i havnt made any friends. We're 60 miles from all our family/freinds and my dh is away for weeks at a time and i get quite bored!

You DO sound lovely! If they have stood you up (which I'm sure they haven't) then they are clearly jealous horrors who do not want you to outshine them!

You sound like me OP. I'm not far from Bedfordshire and I'd totally have breakfast with you!

Pink, sorry to read this - i have moved around with little ones in the past ( dh's job) and found it hard too - an area we lived in the kids knew each other from birth almost, the mums and dads all socialised and we were looked down upon for living in the wrong part of the village i think! And only renting too, the scandal. Dh was on a normal wage - not the mega amounts their husbands all earned. It was made clear this wasnt up to standard! lol.
I never really fitted in and people would write in the local paper about how we were taking homes away from their children by being there.. which made me feel sad and alienated. Not everyone was like it, but it was a hard two years , the children loved it though, the schools were great and they made friends.
i hope you;ve found out what happened OP and able to meet up with them soon for lunch or breakfast. let us know what happens.

Taking homes away from their children- wow ive heard it all now! Some people are just insane!

Pink, its ok. They were just against incomers! I went back to. Essex where we belonged! Lol. It didnt bother me, but it happens!

@hungryhippo90
Did you find out what happened? I've been keeping my fingers crossed that it was a misunderstanding and you would manage to get together for breakfast another day.