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To hate having my breasts touched?

95 replies

Darlink · 06/02/2017 20:32

By my husband , that is.
I just hate it.
Is this unusual ?

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Floofborksnootandboop · 06/02/2017 20:38

I don't know if it's "unusual" but I'm the same. I have never liked it.

RagamuffinAndFidget · 06/02/2017 20:40

I don't enjoy it either. Even more so since breastfeeding but it was never particularly enjoyable for me even before that..

TowerRavenSeven · 06/02/2017 20:41

I don't like anyone touching my nipples it makes me cringe and my stomach turn inside out. I don't minding the sides or bottom of breasts to be touched.

So no I don't think it's unusual. I will not let dh fall asleep with his arm around me touching my boobs because he involuntary clenches his sissy in his sleep and once (on honeymoon) he grabbed it so hard I thought I was going to pass out. So do you have any 'bad connotations' associated with this?

TowerRavenSeven · 06/02/2017 20:42
  • fists not sissy for heaven's sake!!
GooodMythicalMorning · 06/02/2017 20:42

I hate having mine touched by anyone. Ergh. Not at all. I prefer them to be left alooone.

Darlink · 06/02/2017 20:43

Tower, yes that's it , it's more about the nipples. !
No bad connotations and a very relaxed attitude to bodies, nudity, sex etc. but as I get older I just dislike it more and more

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ArriettyClock1 · 06/02/2017 20:44

clenches his sissy

What?

PetalMettle · 06/02/2017 20:46

I thought sissy was a name for penis then!
I've always loved having them played with but now I'm bfing I really don't

ShowOfHands · 06/02/2017 20:46

I can't bear it. Breastfeeding made it worse.

Niskayuna · 06/02/2017 20:48

Before kids, fine.

After kids - totally no no, and yeah I've googled it because I'm really curious and I kind of want it fixed. I mean, it makes things very awkward. It's like saying "hold my hand but don't touch my middle finger." It's annoying for me. He's pretty patient. I'd like to fix it.

I can only assume it's some nerve issue pertaining to breastfeeding, that perhaps I now associate it only with feeding.

HarryPottersMagicWand · 06/02/2017 20:51

I've always loathed having my nipples touched to the point I had to stop BF as I couldn't bear the feeling at all. I keep a bra on with my pyjamas until I'm getting into bed because they rub. Urgh urgh urgh. Makes me cringe. Don't mind around the nipples but it does nothing for me.

sonyaya · 06/02/2017 20:51

I love it but it's personal so YANBU

Magicpaintbrush · 06/02/2017 20:53

You are not alone, I only like them to be touched when I'm 'in the mood', but at all other times I'm like 'back off!'. It's the nips, they are so sensitive that a slight touch is like an electric shock, which is fine whilst in the throes of passion, but at any other time I utterly detest it. So much so that I have started wearing a sports bra to bed as I just cannot stand my nips brushing against the material of my pyjamas or jiggling about. It sends me into a rage. If DH jokingly tries to touch them to wind me up he is very likely to lose a limb.Shock

ClopySow · 06/02/2017 20:54

Clenches his sissy is making me laugh.

gamerchick · 06/02/2017 20:56

involuntary clenches his sissy in his sleep

I knew what you meant but that properly made me chortle Grin

DaphneDeLaFontaine · 06/02/2017 20:57

Literally makes my skin crawl. Yuuuuuuck.

Alwaysfrank · 06/02/2017 20:59

I'm another cringer who hates having nipples touched. Breastfeeding was never going to work, was it - don't know why I kidded myself it was even worth a try. Good to hear it's not just me!

SpackenDeDoich · 06/02/2017 20:59

I hated my ex touching my breasts after I gave birth. It was like he was trying to reclaim them from our DD.
That says far more about him than it does about me.
He was extremely abusive after our DD was born and is now part of my distant past.

Frouby · 06/02/2017 21:04

Before bfing ds for 18 months I loved my nipples being touched. Now at best it irrates me. At worst it really really fucking goes right through me.

Trifleorbust · 06/02/2017 21:05

Doesn't bother me but does nothing for me.

1wokeuplikethis · 06/02/2017 21:07

I liked it before children. But after the first child when I was breastfeeding for almost two years, I couldn't enjoy my nipples being sucked by my husband in a sexual way when it was something my child was doing in an innocent, pure way. It felt the same, and I got a bit confused because it was hard to 'decide' to be turned on or to be neutral.

Haven't breastfed for 3 years now and I've never reverted to enjoying my breasts being touched again. I hate it. Complete passion killer, it sets my teeth on edge. I have very little sensation in my boobs any more and my nipples being played with just feels like a vaguely fuzzy annoyance that I have to bat away.

I can't change it. Much to my husbands dismay. Tough tits. Literally.

alexsmashes · 06/02/2017 21:07

This is good to read, I agree with you all. Can't stand it!

FurryLittleTwerp · 06/02/2017 21:08

I used to have really sensitive & sexy nipples, but since pregnancy & breast feeding they have become a mixture of numb, unresponsive & horrible.

Gileswithachainsaw · 06/02/2017 21:10

Oh I hate it too.

Mainly cos dd1 chewed me up and it bloody hurt. Now I hate having them touched

Gileswithachainsaw · 06/02/2017 21:11

Was so not worth the pain and sacrifice fir three poxy weeks of bf