To expect the teacher to support an upset child fully and not walk off!

[OopsDearyMe]

My DD1 has aspergers, I know that. I am fighting to get a piece of paper that also says that.
My daughter has had no real problems going to school for months, but never likes going. She starts to get upset the night before and I relialise I probably could have handled this better, I told her last night that she might be able to stay off school today, I did it because she was so upset and anxious, she barely sleeps 6 hrsa night as it is and so she would sleep, I lied (and hate myself) I told her that she would still need to get up and dressed for school and come with me.
Then at school, I asked how she felt about going in, she began to get very upset, her teacher came passed and at first went to walk straight passed us. But I called out to her and explained , her response was a half hearted , oh well we have Computing today so you'll enjoy that won't you? Then walked off!!!
Leaving me with DS who still needed dropping at his school, and a crying DD who is gripping my arm and pleading with her eyes to take her home. The only thing I could do was leave and take DS. None of her peers approached her and her only two friends were not there.

I am so upset, both at myself!!!

But could the teacher have no taken 5 minutes , her manner was so not child friendly either, so pissed off.

[Fairenuff]

There's something about OP's account that has been niggling me. I think it's this:

whatever stuff the teacher had to do, surely an upset child should have been more important, and the class could wait a few minutes

then:

his was not at normal drop off time, this was 20 minutes before and therefore school was not actually due to start for 20 minutes, so the teacher did not have to immeadiatly attend to class of kids

It can't be both

[OnTheUp13]

I was a teacher at an ASD school for nearly 10 years. We came across this kind of thing regularly. Parents wanting to drop of kids early, and they weren't keen on school. As soon as you step in you'd be left with the child, alone and very upset. All Whilst you had a huge amount of work to do before school actually started. So I can understand why the teacher didn't stop to intervene. Unless there was a plan in place that included a member of staff to help encourage a child into school we wouldn't intervene on a regular basis as it would leave us as childcare before school when it's time we need to prep and do the million other jobs we'd have to do in our own time.

[londonrach]

Just glad im not a teacher now! Yabu as you her mum was with her so surely sort the situation out.