Pilly
You're a young woman, a writer and broadcaster. You have something to say. You should be listened to and you should also listen.
It's quite true that sexism ramps up as you go through life being a woman. The biology that determines female hood seems to hit certain hurdles that you simply can't predict before they happen.
I'm sure you know some perfectly lovely transwomen. There are some who post on here who are amazing.
But it's not about the niceness or otherwise of individual people. It's about what a group of transactivists are pushing for. The library for instance. If those people are Women they would be on the side of women. They would understand what happens to women. They would be guzzling every feminist book ever written.
They would have the same goals. And when women campaign or talk about what affects them, like menstruation, miscarriage, abortion, maternity rights, FGM, etc, they wouldn't say that those issues are exclusionary because it doesn't include them as they don't have the biology. They wouldn't insist that you take the word female out of FGM.
Normal people take issue with this and think it's ridiculous. However these activists are changing laws internationally.
No one wants transwomen to suffer any more than anyone else. But you cannot define the word 'woman' so that the definition excludes what happens to women because of their biology.
Ask your transwomen friends what it is about them that makes them the same as you.
I guarantee, there will be nothing In their answer that makes them the same other than the very stereotypes that modern women are trying to dismantle (hair, make up etc). It will just be 'a feeling'. Ok. But that is not what makes a women.
The transman who was raped in the back of the taxi sobbingly told the police 'But I kept telling him I was a man'.
You can't identify out of your biology.
And lastly, 75% of transwomen retain their male genitalia and are attracted to women. As such, they consider themselves lesbians. There may be some lesbians who are cool with a penis, but again I think that is redefining the word lesbian. (You might also google 'cotton ceiling').
There is no one actively pushing to redefine the word homosexual. Or the word man.
So who is doing this? Not women. Who is this damaging? Not men.