When I was a teenager, I refused to vote for the Women's Officer at university, preferring to spoil my ballot paper by scrawling words to the effect that this was unnecessary sexist crap.

For quite some time, probably until I had DC1, I genuinely didn't feel particualarly hard done by as a woman. I had gone through school, got good grades, gone to university, got a good job etc etc etc. No direct discrimination, no men getting opportunities that I didn't - I thought the battle had been won!
And then... Slowly, and rather invidiously, I began to see the female penalty being applied around me - more and more bright, talented women had babies and never really came back to work. More and more so-so men began to be promoted, leapfrogging these women into sought after positions. Looking back, the incidents I had experienced when younger (sexual harassment, sexual assault, boys at school getting opportunities that the girls didn't....) seemed more than "just some things that sometimes happen". I could see what the patriarchy looks like in our lived lives, how it impacts almost all women and how there is still so much to be done before we can declare that we have achieved equality.
I genuinely fear for what the world will look like in ten or so years when my DD is PillyPolly's age. We are going backwards so fast, that unless there is a movement akin to that of the 1960s, she won't be able to take anything for granted that teenagers today currently do. And I find that scary in the extreme.
So, in short PillyPolly, you might want to listen to those of us on here who are twice your age (or more!). We might have some rationale for our beliefs beyond being nasty transphobes. Honestly, we really might