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AIBU to think that people who don't have young children who park in parent and child spaces are selfish?

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Kjc105 · 01/02/2017 18:37

I was reading an article on the Daily Fail about a young couple with a baby who were left a note saying that parent and child spaces are for people with children (they were with their baby) but what annoyed me were people commenting under the article who were saying that they always park in parent and child even if there are other spaces available as they feel parents are entitled to too many things and why should they be inconvenienced by people having children. Is it me or is this totally selfish as the reason why those spaces are they are for the safety of the children, more space so other car doors aren't dented and closer to the store so it is generally safer for children and less likely for a child to be hit by a car. AIBU to think these people are selfish?

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TheChosen1 · 01/02/2017 22:05

Oh and no I don't have hold of the pram. I prefer to push it along with my forehead.

Bettersleepoutdoors · 01/02/2017 22:05

*And as usual, the usual fucking snowflake parents who can't bear the thought of their precious offspring having to be carried or walk across a car park because there are cars there.

Jesus wept.*
This comment is bloody rude and uncalled for.

TresDesolee · 01/02/2017 22:06

Oh right ok purple, I don't agree with that then! (Didn't RTFT, been on MN too long and seen too many of these, I already know what I think)

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BriantheWife · 01/02/2017 22:12

Personally I think they should be at the bottom of the car park, not next to the entrance. Solve all problems then, they're just for extra room after all,

They are near to the entrance so that it is easier to get a trolley while trying to manage small children. Unless you think it wise to force parents often singlehandedly trying to manage two or small children all the way across a busy car park and back again with all the increased risks that entails? Hmm

BusyBeez99 · 01/02/2017 22:14

You must have a very tiny car if can't get buggy in boot. I had a tiny fiat when DS needed a buggy and found one to fit in without having to take wheels off. Plus fitted the shopping in. Can only assume you have a huge travel system. Suggest you go get a smaller pram and also stop carting child round in a car seat - it's no good for their backs.

We used to park far end car park where we could

Bettersleepoutdoors · 01/02/2017 22:15

Yes Brian Many people think that is wise and that to suggest otherwise makes one a precious snowflake.

Bettersleepoutdoors · 01/02/2017 22:18

I have massive car and can fit a buggy and a small pony in the boot.
Also, never had a "travel system"
Still found it difficult to get babies/ toddlers out of the car without the extra space and still find it irksome that some people think it's OK to take the piss.

user1485982179 · 01/02/2017 22:18

I dont have kids but I park there when I take my grandmother out. She is not registered disabled but the extra room really helps her and she feels more confident about coming out with me in the car.

Bettersleepoutdoors · 01/02/2017 22:20

that's nice

Bettersleepoutdoors · 01/02/2017 22:23

the extra room really helps those people with small children.
why do you think it is OK to abuse the P&C space.
The extra space would really help some of my fatter friends.
why is OK to use the P&C space if you're not a P with C?
Because most of the P are women and we're an easy target, especially after having "C"

Bettersleepoutdoors · 01/02/2017 22:25

the extra space is always good.
I have friends who are smokers. They could sit with the door wide open and have a cigarette while they wait for their DP to finish the shopping.

Andrewofgg · 01/02/2017 22:27

DS (single) once told me that he used them after about 8 p.m. (the local Tesco being 24 hours except Sunday) because children small enough to need them should not be out at that hour. I see the logic but somehow I couldn't bring myself to do it.

user1485982179 · 01/02/2017 22:29

I'm not sure if you're having a go but I'm going to continue to use the space if it helps her. She is approaching 90 and the standards for disability have become a lot stricter so she would not qualify for a badge. There are also a lot more parent and child spaces than disabled ones, and usually tons that are empty. I don't think I am doing any harm. If I had a kid I wouldn't mind someone elderly using the space over me.

Bettersleepoutdoors · 01/02/2017 22:34

the extra room really helps those people with small children.
But so m,any people don't give a shit
TBH, There's no arguing with them.
Will they change? No
Do people like to take the piss out of parents mothers with children? yes.

Original poster
Kjc105 · 01/02/2017 22:41

100% agree. People give parents a hard time about using the spaces but they genuinely help make our lives just that little bit easier. Not sure why others have such a problem with this.

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PlayOnWurtz · 01/02/2017 22:44

People aren't attacking parents legitimately using the spaces. They are attacking the idea that ONLY parents can use those spaces.

People are too fucking entitled these days

Original poster
Kjc105 · 01/02/2017 22:46

There's that entitled word again 🙄

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Bettersleepoutdoors · 01/02/2017 22:48

they are attacking the idea that only parents can use those spaces
What, the P&C spaces? The ones that state they are for parents with small children?

PurpleDaisies · 01/02/2017 22:48

You haven't addressed the substance of playonwurtz's post at all.

Where are the hoardes of posters attacking parents for using p and c spaces? The anger is that anyone would be self centred enough to begrudge someone the use of a space which means they can get out of their car.

Whathaveilost · 01/02/2017 22:49

Allthelight I totally agree! I have a 1 year old and I these spaces are so necessary

Are they heck necessary. You dont need to be at tbe front door just because you have a baby. I used to park away from all the congested spaces and had as much room as i wanted to get a baby and toddler in and out.
I think parent and baby spaces are more trouble than they are worth. In fact i still iark well away from all the other cars. Its much easier for loading your shopping in and out and taking the trolley back to the trolley station.

Bettersleepoutdoors · 01/02/2017 22:50

Parents who are shopping with their young children are actually entitled to use the parking spaces that are specifically allocted to.......
Parents accompanied by young children.
So yes, entitledNot "entitled"

user1483972886 · 01/02/2017 22:51

The spaces are for parents with small children. Fullstop. They are as described.
They are not for people who are lazy to walk further. There are other spaces for disabled people.
I would say in our local supermarket at any one time 50% of the fa mm ily spaces are parked in by other people. It drives me nuts.
Try grocery shopping with 2 small kids, having to return the trolley, kids running across the car park etc.
I have never parked in a disabled bay so I don't expect to find able bodied people without kids in the family bays.

PurpleDaisies · 01/02/2017 22:53

The spaces are for parents with small children. Fullstop. They are as described.
They are not for people who are lazy to walk further. There are other spaces for disabled people.

Many disabled people don't qualify for a blue badge, despite having significant mobility issues.

Very few parents take your "full stop" point of view and have some compassion for those people who find it very difficult to get into and out of their car.

Dawndonnaagain · 01/02/2017 22:55

There are other spaces for disabled people. And sometimes they're taken. And sometimes not using them would mean a disabled person has to go home. And sometimes it's about sharing. And sometimes I wish to fuck people would think about the practicalities of being disabled and engaging in society before posting.