DP wants tattoo

[Hyggemama]

Okay so basically my DP announced he is getting a large tattoo which will cost around £1000 in total . We are just starting our family, 1 DC and planning for another and don't have tons of cash, don't go on fancy holidays etc and I'm only on SMP which will run out in May. I like tattoos but I don't feel I can support him in this.
He says he wants my support through it but I simply can't understand how he is okay spending so much purely on himself and how he looks. He says he has wanted it for ages and has done loads for me and DD (both true). I just feel like that money could be put towards something he will get more fulfillment from (doesn't have to involve me or DD) like a bike or a holiday. We are hardly talking ATM as he says this is just me being too frugal and trying to control him as usual. AIBU by not supporting him? Advice please!

He says he has wanted it for ages and has done loads for me and DD (both true).

That's just parenting and normal family life. Not something that should be rewarded.

Don't worry a wedding is a long way off and we will sort finances out then.

I would gently suggest that the sooner you talk about how your finances work the better.

He sounds like a man-child and I'd be running for the hills, but it sounds like you're happy so... great.

Me and Dh both want new tattoos. We can't just afford it though. Any money we receive on birthdays or next Xmas, even the one after that if necessary, will be saved towards it. I would never use family money for it.

If it's his own money he can do what he likes with it and what's SMP.