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AIBU to be upset by this letter.

219 replies

welshcath · 28/01/2017 20:07

I got home today to find this letter, which had been sent in the post. Yes our garden has a few stray bits of rubbish in it as it goes straight on to the road and it's been very windy the last few days. It was on my list of things to do this weekend but now I feel like not tidying, in the manner of a truculent child. WWYD?

AIBU to be upset by this letter.
OP posts:
38cody · 28/01/2017 22:16

Have a good look and so long as you are happy that it's not a disgrace then leave it - I would be tempted to spread a little more non-stinky litter around as they are bound to be checking - but then I am quite petty with things like that.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 28/01/2017 22:23

I wouldn't be tidying it up either. Its that old clique of. You're not fucking barking out orders at me. If they're that bothered. They can get up off their butts and clean it up

AskBasil · 28/01/2017 22:23

I am with Anothermoomin's idea of laminating the letter, but as well as that I'd blow it up to about 4 times the size if possible and put it on a sign in your front garden. Along with a couple of strategically placed litter pieces.

Like an art installation.

You might even get it in the Tate, you never know.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 28/01/2017 22:24

Im Loving the idea of the erect middle finger, but. I'm also an arse hole. I'll hold my hands upGrin

childmaintenanceserviceinquiry · 28/01/2017 22:44

I have posted on here before about Pavement Chalk-gate where one of my neighbours got her knickers in a twist about pavement chalk. (I got great advice on here which allowed me to shame the neighbour's behaviour in the politest way!). But apparently several of the neighbours had bitched for sometime. These would be the neighbours who have never once asked me how I am coping with my divorce from an abuser or how DC with special needs is getting on. I wave greetings politely and help with parcels and their alarms going off in the middle of the night but I think dark thoughts. Neighbours can be friends but not all. Hope you find a good solution.

Draylon · 29/01/2017 00:21

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LoupGarou · 29/01/2017 01:00

Draylon come on, fess up - you sent the letter didn't you and just don't want to have to open your curtains every morning to mooning gnomes, flamingos and middle finger drawings Grin

HappyFlappy · 29/01/2017 09:48

I would dance named at dawn to celebrate the litter. Well maybe not

Agree Moomin.

The trouble with dawn is that it takes place at such an ungodly time in the morning . . . Wink

HappyFlappy · 29/01/2017 09:55

I am continually amazed at the number of you who are desperate to escalate this into neighborhood war!

This is our life, Draylon Grin (and almost al of these suggestions are tongue-in-cheek - we don't really expect OP to incur £50,000 of credit card debt to buy rude-bottomed gnomes and plastic poo (Though I like the idea of a single accusatory flamingo . . . )

Besides, what is life without whimsy?

Exactly Loup.

Plus as you say, the worst thing is being seen as a soft touch. This causes bullying to escalate until the victim cracks and has to be talked down from their roof by an armed police response team who are concerned that they will actually use the kalashnikov they are wielding so haphazardly in the direction of Nasty Neighbours' house.

HappyFlappy · 29/01/2017 09:56

Link to Pavementchalkgate, Childmaintenance?

Anothermoomin · 29/01/2017 09:56

I was actually going for naked but autocorrect made me see reason.

iamavodkadrinker · 29/01/2017 09:58

Post a copy to every house in the street.

ToastOfLondon · 29/01/2017 10:11

It's a really weird note to write for two bits of litter. I definitely have more than two bits of litter in my garden. 😂

SteppingOnToes · 29/01/2017 10:12

It takes seconds to pick up a few bits of rubbish - you are BU and lowering the tone of your street...

What happened to the good old days where people had a bit of self respect and soaped their front door steps, swept the leaves etc?

Didn't read the other responses and everyone probably disagrees with me.

cowgirlsareforever · 29/01/2017 10:15

Sometimes I wish I was one of those people like ToastofLondon who didn't care about/notice litter. It's bloody everywhere and it really annoys me.

ToastOfLondon · 29/01/2017 18:41

I've come back to the thread to say that I've picked up the litter in my front garden. 😊 It consisted of an unused Waitrose paper coffee cup that had fallen out of my car and three small Evian water bottles that had previously been stashed in my car that I had 'placed' on the side of the driveway to dispose of later. Seeing as these are very middle class bits of litter I am hoping my neighbours have forgiven me 😂

cowgirlsareforever · 29/01/2017 18:51

Most middle-class litter ever!

CouldntMakeThisShitUp · 29/01/2017 18:57

I used to have a plaque on my kitchen door...it gave ample warning to the 'neat freaks'.

It said:
"A Happy Kitchen Is A Messy Kitchen
And This Kitchen Is Delirious!"

I'd take the piss and paint sarcastic/character faces on the bins, so anytime the Nasties look over they know you don't give a fuck Grin

childmaintenanceserviceinquiry · 29/01/2017 19:03

Happy - here you are www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a2123726-Pavement-Chalk

The great advice I got here was to go and wash the chalk off the pavement around the neighbour's house and that is exactly what we did. All of the kids who had drawn that day, some of the parents, all armed with buckets of water and brushes. I knocked politely to let the neighbour know what we were doing (although it was on the public pavement). She was very embarrassed. I keep good relations with my neighbours and would be very upset to get a note through the post like the one OP got.

Draylon - your dig at me is unjustified. I have plenty of support from neighbours and give plenty. It was interesting to observe that the ones who dont contribute to the neighbourhood were the first to complain about a very passing phase.

RedHelenB · 29/01/2017 19:03

My lovely neighbours both sides will do my lawn or trim the hedges if it starts to annoy them! And I certainly dont object but I am not as garden proud as they are!

Daydream007 · 29/01/2017 19:06

Not very well written, I'd ignore it. Coward sent it anonymously too.

CouldntMakeThisShitUp · 29/01/2017 19:07

middle class eh? Grin

you could stick cut outs of politicians faces on each of the bins....
..............Boris for plastics, May for papers, Pickles for food bin, Corbyn for garden waste and Cameron for general waste Grin Grin Grin

Usernamegone · 29/01/2017 19:16

The week after my mother died we had someone from the council pop round as the next door neighbour had complained about the state of our garden as our grass had not been mown for about 3 (maybe 4 weeks max). Somehow she (and the other four people living in the house) hadn't noticed the ambulance outside our house with the siren going and flashing blue lights at 4am on a Sunday morning or the hearse a fortnight later. She was a right curtain twitcher who watched us all the time (and her grown up married son used to stare at me when I was teenager whenever I went into the back garden to hang washing on the line, etc)

Funnily enough when my dad explained that he had been working/caring for his terminal ill wife and two children/been arranging a funeral/grieving the past month so had overlooked the grass the chap for council told us the garden was fine and he wouldn't bother us again!

FrancisCrawford · 29/01/2017 19:57

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