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AIBU to be upset by this letter.

219 replies

welshcath · 28/01/2017 20:07

I got home today to find this letter, which had been sent in the post. Yes our garden has a few stray bits of rubbish in it as it goes straight on to the road and it's been very windy the last few days. It was on my list of things to do this weekend but now I feel like not tidying, in the manner of a truculent child. WWYD?

AIBU to be upset by this letter.
OP posts:
HappyFlappy · 28/01/2017 21:06

I wish these weren't so expensive:

You could get a dozen.

Mooning Garden Naughty Gnome Solar Glow Light

It's on the site Garou recommended!

Crunchymum · 28/01/2017 21:08

I'd be inclined to go an tip the contents of every bin and the recycling on my lawn!! Just for shits and giggles.

And provided your garden really isn't a shit tip to begin with!!

mrsBeverleygoldberg · 28/01/2017 21:10

Pure class luckless, you must make that sign!
Some people are so rude. I came back to my car and found a note on my windscreen complaining about my parking. I was in the lines!

welshcath · 28/01/2017 21:13

As I have previously said, it's 2 pieces of rubbish. Obviously cannot provide picture of garden as its dark outside but could provide photo of letter as it's light inside.
Maybe there was more when they wrote the note as it was sent via Royal Mail but it's obviously blown away.

OP posts:
GimmeeMoore · 28/01/2017 21:14

I'd laminate it and visibly display in my garden

LoupGarou · 28/01/2017 21:18

We spend a few hellish months living in the real life version of Stepford in the deep south US. We have a guard dog, so always put up a small "beware guard doig on duty" sign as you are supposed to.
We kept having it taken down and put in our mail box with notes about how it lowered the tone of the neighbourhood, and how it was scaring other peoples' visitors. Fuck knows how, you could only see the sign if you were trespassing on our property! Still I'd had enough, it was the proverbial straw so I smeared our dog's poo all over the back of the sign, so you couldn't see it but anyone trying to take it down would get poo all over their hands.
When I got back from grocery shopping later that day you could see the finger prints in the poo where someone had tried to take it down again and stopped rather quickly. Never happened again Grin

JenniferYellowHat1980 · 28/01/2017 21:21

Ignoring does not equal accepting. If I were the OP, I'd try and take a critical look at my garden. Is it messy enough that a neighbour might be wound up enough to complain? Could I be a bit more considerate of my neighbours? If that sensible appraisal reveals that no, the garden is not 'Out Of Order' in this respect, Ignore.

But what if, as a family with two working parents, incapacity or whatever, you simply don't have time? We're surrounded by retired people who I swear have time in their lives to manicure their lawns with nail scissors. We have a 6 and 4 year old and full time jobs.

Had a similar issue last year actually. My DB left his car on the street outside ours while we went to visit our DM who'd been unexpectedly admitted to hospital four hours from home. We were told when we got there that she was DNR and could die at any moment. We stayed the week until we could get her ambulanced to the local hospice but got home to find a shitty anonymous note on his car Angry

As it is, one of our crappy inherited shutters blew off in the wind months ago now. The brickwork is untidy underneath so we don't want to take them all off until we can afford to tidy it up. We can't put it back up as we don't have a long enough ladder and it would be difficult to secure. My car is also filthy - I travel a lot of miles for work and the roads are horrible right now. I know the neighbours judge us but it's tough.

Definitely going to sprinkle some dandelion seeds if we get any further moans.

Cobweb89 · 28/01/2017 21:22

People who write these mean notes have too much time on their hands. If it was a question of two or three stray items of litter, then the author could just have picked them up straightaway - problem solved. There is someone like this living on my street. Old retired couple. No members of their family will speak to them because they are total cunts. They never had kids. They have nothing to do. Nobody wants to know them. Even a local business refuse to deliver to them as every time, they make complaint after complaint and rip the business off. However this gives them a lot of spare time to terrorise everyone on our street. Reports to council (who come and say wtf?, reports to police). Spying on immediate neighbours (not me I am not immediate thank fuck!). One immediate neighbour was so harassed they sold their house because of it.

HappyFlappy · 28/01/2017 21:23

I smeared our dog's poo all over the back of the sign

Loup - you are truly worthy of the title "MumsNetter" Grin

LoupGarou · 28/01/2017 21:28

Happy Grin I am torn by being ashamed at my childish behaviour and triumphant at which bitchy bunny got dog crap up their false nails Grin. I was going through chemo at the time (which they knew) and frequently was told I should make more effort with my clothes and makeup as I was a disgrace to DH. Like I said, the proverbial straw.

SignOnTheWindow · 28/01/2017 21:29

Loup Respect! Grin

LoupGarou · 28/01/2017 21:31

Sign Blush Grin thank you!

Draylon · 28/01/2017 21:33

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HappyFlappy · 28/01/2017 21:36

I can see where you're coming from Draylon, but I bet anyone who sends a snide note like this would refuse to take in a parcel, lend a driveway, give an emergency tradesman's number or even ring the fire brigade for you! Some people are just nasty, and will only respond to being paid in their own coin (Loup has cleverly sussed out the appropriate currency).

EweAreHere · 28/01/2017 21:37

Install a single bright pink plastic flamingo in the middle of your front garden.

The letter writer will know.

londonrach · 28/01/2017 21:37

So many images now....someone in a dressing gown and slippers. dog poo on their falsh nails, planting seeds around ghomes and solar lights before retreating to their sofa in the front garden....

Anothermoomin · 28/01/2017 21:37

I would add to the litter collection. I would laminate the litter collection. I would nail it to the floor. I would hold litter parties. I would dance named at dawn to celebrate the litter. Well maybe not the last one.

Nothing would be more guaranteed to make me ignore it than this letter.

Draylon · 28/01/2017 21:39

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sonyaya · 28/01/2017 21:39

Whoever sent that note is a total dickhead.

cowgirlsareforever · 28/01/2017 21:40

I hate litter with a passion. The UK is like living in a skip at the moment. That letter however is awful.

PelvicFloorClenchReminder · 28/01/2017 21:41

I would collect up the rubbish as requested, and then scatter it artistically in the neighbour's garden. If I wasn't sure which neighbour had committed the offence, I would be rifling through my bins for more in order to spread the love equally amongst the street.

Draylon · 28/01/2017 21:44

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LoupGarou · 28/01/2017 21:48

Draylon I agree with Happy people prepared to be that petty are not likely to be ones who will help in an emergency. Sometimes if you do nothing things escalate too, happened to us in Stepford. Tried to be neighbourly and nice about things and they took it for being people they could push around so they got worse very quickly. Besides, what is life without whimsy? Grin

Ellapaella · 28/01/2017 21:48

Grinloving the idea of a light up plastic flamingo and a dozen mooning gnomes - it's got to be done OP!! Please, please do it and update us on what happens next!