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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think I'm overweight (refused access to an NHS funded diet program + pic included)

372 replies

user1485442361 · 27/01/2017 17:56

I used to be a svelte size 10. Put on weight after having my Son. My main issue is my stomach. It sticks out. I think this is because I have a small waist so the fat has a smaller area to cover (if that makes sense). In the morning it can look pretty flat but by the evening after I've eaten a meal it does stick out in tight clothes.

Anyway, I don't know what I weigh. But I have always considered myself considerably overweight. At least two stone overweight. I am 5ft7 and should be no more than 11 stone and around 10stone to me a very healthy weight. I suspect I'm about 13 stone. People do often tell me I am fine the way I am but my parents tell me I need to lose two stone.

Anyway, signed up for an NHS funded diet programme. I arrive and they tell me my BMI is not high enough to qualify. You have to be at least two stone overweight. But I am sure I am I said. They didn't even weigh me and said I was too slim to join.

I've just signed up to slimming world but I'm really annoyed. I know I should be flattered but I really wanted to go on the course and do genuinely think I'm overweight by around two stone and should have been allowed participate. I have struggled to lose the baby weight but I know I have to make an effort. AIBU?

Sorry for the poor quality of pics. I'm not in my own home and took them just now. They're not designed to be in any way flattering. I want genuine opinions and I'm ready for them!

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indigox · 27/01/2017 18:38

Haven't read the full thread but stomach sticking out could be bloat through a poor diet, not all fat.

harderandharder2breathe · 27/01/2017 18:38

How on earth does it affect your health to be a size 12/14??

Angryangryyoungwoman · 27/01/2017 18:38

I would agree with you that you are not slim and toned so therefore you are not a healthy weight. You are not obese though which is what the NHS courses are targeted at. Lose the weight yourself. Part of the problem is expecting other people to help shape your body. It's you that has the control. Eat less, exercise more.

Olympiathequeen · 27/01/2017 18:39

I'd say you are a stone at most overweight. You seem to put weight on the top half or be the apple shape, which is not ideal. I'm sure you will lose the weight easily if you also exercise on the difficult area.

But YABU to expect the NHS to pay for your weight loss when it's fairly easily remedied and they need to justify the expenditure on the more obese people.

Darlink · 27/01/2017 18:39

You're having a laugh!
Why should taxpayers help you to eat less and move more ?
It's simple but not easy !
Good luck. You can do it !

PickAChew · 27/01/2017 18:39

And no, it's not unreasonable. If they took you on the course, they might have to turn away someone who actually is 2 stone overweight.

Original poster
user1485442361 · 27/01/2017 18:39

I'm not as old as 30!!!!!

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OneWithTheForce · 27/01/2017 18:40

The AIBU is was it unreasonable for them to refuse me without weighing me?

It was unreasonable for you to apply without weighing yourself. Stop wasting NHS time and resources.

I sincerely hope no-one with your body height/weight isn't getting NHs funding to tell them to sit back from the table.

Floggingmolly · 27/01/2017 18:40

You don't know what you weigh, and you actually imagine you should be allocated a government funded place on a diet program??
Join weight watchers like everyone else Hmm

Pettywoman · 27/01/2017 18:40

You look like you could be about 11 1/2 stone. You're a similar look to me. I'm only about half a stone overweight and am currently trying to lose it with lots of exercise and My Fitness Pal tracking app.

I'm sure you feel really fat because you're used to being slim but you're really not that bad and there are people who need NHS help much more.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 27/01/2017 18:41

It would never occur to me in a million years that the NHS should be funding my efforts to lose weight, nor anyone in a non life-threatening situation. I haven't read the whole thread but I suspect the majority of answers will be along the same lines.

EpoxyResin · 27/01/2017 18:41

I think you're going to have to let this one go OP.

Floggingmolly · 27/01/2017 18:41

I'm not as old as 30!. Maybe they were referring to your IQ?

AyeAmarok · 27/01/2017 18:42

So you know what, if I want to use an NHS funded programme and I feel it would benefit my mental and physical health I would feel absolutely no guilt whatsoever doing so.

Hmm Your mental and physical health would benefit from you putting on your trainers every day and going for a run. And that costs you, and more importantly the NHS, nothing.
HappyFlappy · 27/01/2017 18:42

Can I add that being overweight in your mind is not the same as actually being overweight.

In my mind I am the world's wittiest person when I have had a bottle of vodka drink or two. When I have sobered up I suspect that my assessment of my scintillating repartee may not be quite accurate . . .

mambono5 · 27/01/2017 18:43

I don't understand why people are so mean on here. You are trying to be healthy and get a beating. What's wrong with posters!

OP, well done on wanting to change and going back to a size that is healthy and makes you happy. Looking at your photo, respectfully, you are overweight. Hard from a photo, but your hands and arms do not look that slim to me at all.

However, I don't think you are obese You are doing right to join slimming world, getting slimmer is 70 or 80% diet, and 30 or 20% exercise max! It never hurts to tone up, you will end up looking much better. Someone who is just slim, but with no muscle definition is not necessarily attractive. it looks (sorry..) that you could lose 2 or 3 stones, but don't forget if you start toning up, muscles are heavy, don't just focus on your scales.

It's sad that the NHS budget is so low they can only concentrate on the very worst cases. It doesn't mean that other people don't have problems. Good luck to go back to a size 10! You can go back to a flat stomach after having babies, but it takes hours and hours of specific exercises. To be fair, it takes hours of hard work to get a six pack before baby anyway...

Original poster
user1485442361 · 27/01/2017 18:44

I walk every day. At least 2 miles and I do eat very healthily. I just eat fattening foods like nuts and meat. But I don't eat any processed foods or refined sugars.

I eat when I'm bored and really wanted to company of the group to keep me motivated.

I will be allowed back if I have an official weight from my GP and then they will have to at least weigh me.

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SharkBastard · 27/01/2017 18:44

In celebration of this odd thread I'm ordering a curry. Cheers OP

mumofthemonsters808 · 27/01/2017 18:44

Bum - it's called "10 minute solutions blast off belly fat".

Zaphodsotherhead · 27/01/2017 18:45

You don't have a weight problem, OP. You have a parent problem.

likeaZombie · 27/01/2017 18:45

You would look better if your posture was better, a yoga or pilates class could help you have better posture and lose weight.

Original poster
user1485442361 · 27/01/2017 18:45

it looks (sorry..) that you could lose 2 or 3 stones

Thank you! I agree. No apologises needed.

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watchoutformybutt · 27/01/2017 18:45

Christ on a bike.. get a fucking grip. Go weigh yourself in Boots and stop fishing for "Aw you're not fat hun" comments.

OneWithTheForce · 27/01/2017 18:46

really wanted to company of the group to keep me motivated.

Surely that's exactly what slimming world offers? Did you just not want to pay for it?

Original poster
user1485442361 · 27/01/2017 18:46

I normally have good posture. Just slumped like that to take the picture.

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