To wish people were more positive about my baby's name? <kind of serious>

[Truntscump]

DH & I loved the name Luca for a girl throughout my pregnancy. I know it's generally used as a boy's name especially in Italy but her middle name is Rose and I love that it means 'light'.

Anyway, my dear mum very sadly died last summer of Leukaemia and my (usually lovely) Granny (aged 96 and grieving) first said that Luca reminds her of the phrase 'dirty Luca' then a week later she asked if it was too late to change the name beaches it reminds her of Leukaemia.

I was so upset, my baby (3 weeks old) really suits her name and I love that it's a bit different but now I can't stop thinking about the link to Leukaemia :(

Most posters like it as a boys name

Quite!

"I'm not being funny but if granny is 96 it's not worth changing the name of a tiny baby with her whole life ahead of her to suit someone who isn't going to live to see her grow up

No, you're not being funny. There are plenty of words to describe you and your comment, but they'd all get this post deleted. I'm sure you know yourself though.

Reuset. I am disabled yes. Yes my posts screenshot ting my deleted thread were always going to be deleted, I expected that, I wasn't going to let people think I posted things I hadn't.

I was going to NC when I saw it had been picked up by the sun. I am now posting to ask to report the thread to MN, so they are aware and can contact the poor OP to let her know.

I have also asked MN to delete my entire posting history from this username (1 of about 100 I have had) from this post and all my posts as I don't want any link to the sun, or to be stalked further. MN is a place of support, not beating people and new mums when they are down.

Can everyone report the original thread so MNHQ pick this up quicker and are aware that this is on the sun, in case the OP isn't aware as it is just cruel and MN can contact her.

No, you used disabled language toward me. Why would I ask if you were disabled?

Reused? Me? I'm not the only one commenting, but pick me out again for your 'special' attention again. If it wasn't for the bizarre humour in it I'd be finding this even weirder.
I didn't beat any 'new mums' anywhere. Lots of the pages of banter between some of us was nothing much to do with the OP and mostly tongue in cheek. Only the utterly humourless would miss that.

Don't you think some of us have reported the Sun link already?

Again, I have not said you "beat any new mums", I have just posted several times to remind you and other posters that yes you are posting "in banter" about how Luca is definetly a boys name to each other, you are actually posting on the OPs thread. She will be reading these comments.

I want to remind people that she is a new mum, who recently lost her own mum and has used a perfectly lovely name to commemorate her mum on her mums birthday and who isn't not the first to use it for a girl in this country or others. That is just being a kind decent human being to someone who is grieving.

OP for your loss.
I think Luca is just fine for a girls name, I actually really like it. I would never make the connection to leukaemia, even after it had been mentioned.
Oh, and congratulations on baby Luca!

My friend told me a funny story when he named his daughter Luca, his DM asked him to repeat the name 3 times before announcing " I sorry I just dont get it"- he apparently just laughed it off, Luca is now a beautiful teenager. It's a great name x

I made a perfectly valid point actually. It's not as though the baby's father hates the name/ her great grandmother does! Irrelevant.

It has very unhappy associations for the grandmother, who is a bereaved mother. Why would you not be kind to a woman who has lost her daughter?

I think this is awful. The poor lady has lost her daughter and remembers the disease that killed her every time she sees her new granddaughter. It's been three weeks so the baby will never know or care that her name was changed.

I can't understand the pigheadedness of ignoring this because "I like the name."

Stick with your choice! My friends and family couldn't accept our son's name, (Levi) as he is white (I know, I was shocked they mentioned that too) and they couldn't let go of the Jeans brand. But now it's just his name and he suits it!
And about Luca being a 'boys' name, in most other languages, objects are gendered, but does that make them only for girls or only for boys? No... (I think Luca is very pretty ) Congratulations on your new baby!

And about Luca being a 'boys' name, in most other languages, objects are gendered, but does that make them only for girls or only for boys?

Unless you were planning on calling your baby Apple or Tablecloth, what does gendered objects have to do with names? Nothing, is what.

Luca is a boys name, end of story.

Unless you were planning on calling your baby Apple or Tablecloth, what does gendered objects have to do with names? Nothing, is what.

I roared on reading the gendered objects example Hilarious.

Haven't RTWT but wanted to say to the OP that she should name her baby what she wants - it has significance, was thought through, and was her choice! Also wanted to say that my name - real name, in real life! - is Lucas. And yes, I'm a woman.
I can honestly say that I don't know if others consider it to be a boys name, as I simply consider it a name, for a person - which I am, so that's fine.
Plenty of people will criticise any name you decide on, so go with what feels right for you.

Meredith, Hillary and Ashley were once just boys names "end of".

Think Luca is a girls name in Hungary. Also Suzanne Vega sang about Luka (who lives on the second floor).

Sigh. Suzanne Vega's Luca was a boy.

Oops...really? I always thought it was about a girl.

I'm another who thought 'my name is Lula' was about a domestically abused women I just assumed it was either a unisex name in the States (this being a nation where it's ok to call a kid Chip or similar so didn't strike me as unusual) or that the lady in the song was foreign

I have had issues growing up with a boy's name, I don't think there were many Irish men in 1970s Chelmsford even now I get 'the pause' when people realise I'm
not a man. But there are worse things in life I could have changed it to Kiera admittedly but never really hated it THAT much

I like the suggestion (several pages back!) of granny maybe calling the baby LR (Ella) as a pet name though

a friend in Belgium has just named her baby girl Luka.

Do you all know this thread is being " reported" in The Sun. Is that a step-up from The Mail?

The world is in a state of flux - to say the least - and this is the sort of thing on which The Sun focusses? hmm]

CaraAspen

The world is in a state of flux - to say the least - and this is the sort of thing on which The Sun focusses?