To wish people were more positive about my baby's name? <kind of serious>

[Truntscump]

DH & I loved the name Luca for a girl throughout my pregnancy. I know it's generally used as a boy's name especially in Italy but her middle name is Rose and I love that it means 'light'.

Anyway, my dear mum very sadly died last summer of Leukaemia and my (usually lovely) Granny (aged 96 and grieving) first said that Luca reminds her of the phrase 'dirty Luca' then a week later she asked if it was too late to change the name beaches it reminds her of Leukaemia.

I was so upset, my baby (3 weeks old) really suits her name and I love that it's a bit different but now I can't stop thinking about the link to Leukaemia :(

I haven't checked this personally, was just referring to a pp who obviously had and stated '11 girls were given the name Luca last year, the most ever ' therefore it was more popular last year than at any other time. We now know there will be at least one this year and I'm positive it won't be the only one!

Why comment and expand on something when you don't have any idea what you're talking about

OP have you registered the birth yet?

She says she has already registered the birth earlier in the thread, Grace.

I know two girls and 0 boys named Luca (two of them spell it Luka though).

Ignore your grandmother. Eventually she'll learn to associate the name with the baby and not with filthy lucre. My grandmother hated one of the names we picked because it reminded her of someone, but she's grown to love it as her first association now is her great grandson.

That should say *three girls. They're ages mid-20s, 22 and 4.

I'm in Australia though, and the pent upness about unisex names is nowhere near as bad as in the UK.

I really like it Trumtscump. Very pretty and unusal without being too "out there". I don't really get on board with this whole "boys name, girls name" anyway!
You and DH's both love it. It's been your daughter's name for three weeks now so stick with it.

I am so sorry about your mum, it can only imagine what you have been through the last year or so. But I would never have made the connection and clearly it never crossed your mind until Granny mentioned it.

As another poster said, its never been an issue for boys with that name.

Annoys me so much when people think they can dictate to you what you name YOUR child.

"Ignore your grandmother."

Yeah, good plan. Obviously someone's inalienable right to choose the name they want for their child is far more important than the feelings of a bereaved mother. Just ignore her.

I really like it Trumtscump. Very pretty and unusal without being too "out there".

Explain how a top 50 name, with almost 1200 registrations last year alone, is unusual.

Honestly

If that helps, Luca is a girl's name in Hungary - but pronounced something like "Lutsa". Pronounced as "Luka", I've only ever encountered it as a boys' name. So to me it sounds the same as if you named a boy "Lucy". Which would be within your rights too.

Yes, somebody already mentioned, though we knew, that in those countries where Luca is used for a girl the pronunciation is different. Long thread!

Yeah, good plan. Obviously someone's inalienable right to choose the name they want for their child is far more important than the feelings of a bereaved mother. Just ignore her.

This was the OP's mother. There is no monopoly on grief. The OP isn't reminded of leukaemia when she looks at her DD Luka. Eventually OP's grandmother will feel the same.

You have a right to choose any name you like. Someone is always going to dislike it for one reason or another. Eventually their association with the name will conform (though they may objectively still dislike the name). OP's grandmother had the right to choose the names of her own child; she needs to extend that to her granddaughter and not make things more difficult.

God, there are some insensitive arseholes on this thread.

"If you love it hun, use it" taken to extremes.

Why comment and expand on something when you don't have any idea what you're talking about

I commented and expanded, referring to previous posts on this thread. I assumed they were correct and still do, I'm afraid I can't be bothered to actually research it to be sure!

I commented and expanded, referring to previous posts on this thread. I assumed they were correct and still do, I'm afraid I can't be bothered to actually research it to be sure!

What on earth! Again, why would you comment on a one line statement, and expand it, then theorise, when you obviously don't have a clue what you're talking about. It's just bonkers.

I think you should call her whatever you want.
We called our son Felix. I didn't tell anyone until he was born and named as the association with Felix cat food is very strong. Everyone had the same muted reaction but now no one gives it a second thought.
I loved the name Tabatha for our daughter but I just couldn't do it. The bewitched and cat association would have been a step too far.
My husband said we'd have to have two dogs called Edward and Charlotte or something to offset the cat insinuations.

Go start another one. You keep going and going at a greifing daughter

A greifing daughter? I've discussed the name Luca only, nothing personal to the woman. Other people have called her selfish etc etc but as you like...

Do try reading the whole thread before ranting and frothing, lonely.

I had read the full 18 pages and was in no way just commenting on a one line statement
I agree with lonely and feel you are just focusing on pulling apart anyone who actually agrees with or supports the op. I still think Luca is beautiful for a girl and your strong feelings otherwise on this won't change my mind

" Seriously you sound unstable now and have absolutely no compassion?
And the "ignore Granny" "Granny is mean" "Granny got to name her own children""Granny won't be around much longer" people? What have you got to say about them?

I've reported your little rant, lonely.

No, booboo. I have mainly provided facts and corrected the those comments about the name (as you discovered). Other people have made negative personal comments about the OP and vile coments about the grandmother. I wasn't one of them.

I think Lucia with Luca as a pet name might work. As someone said upthread people might see the kid/hear the name and think that you didn't realise Luca is a boys' name.

I have a random very foreign sounding name, people always ask me if I have any history with that country and I just tell them no, my parents just liked the name. Never caused me any issues so your DD may very well love and not mind explaining.

Ok I fully admit using information taken from this thread in my summaries rather than looking in to it my self. If that information is incorrect then pull the people staring it up and not myself. My point was that having 11 girls named it in one year, in my opinion, doesn't make it that unusual! By mid 2016 nobody had named a child Donna, Sally, Deborah (I checked that myself )

By mid 2016 nobody had named a child Donna, Sally, Deborah (I checked that myself smile)

Do give it a rest you're just repeating the same thing. You work for ONS do you? No of course not. Registrations below 3 are not given anymore because of data protection, so you don't know that nobody had a Sally etc Sally et al are also not currently fashionable, hence dip. What that has to do with this topic anyway I don't know. And I'm groaning at the idea of another confused, disjointed explanation being proffered, which frankly isn't worth reading.

Truntscump it really is a beautiful name.

And the people here handwringing over it being a boys' name are talking rubbish IMO.

The female Luca I know never has any issues like that AKAIK. The thing about unusual names is - unless they're really awful (and this isn't, it's lovely), people get used to them being that child's name, overriding the preconceptions they had about it, pretty quickly IME.