To ask how much child maintenance

[Toodlepip16]

How much child maintenance do you/your DP pay to your ex or receive from ex, and what are the circumstances behind it? ie approx salary of person paying the maintenance and number of days child is with them. Do they take them on annual holiday too?

£300 is very low on his salary. He should up it to at least the minimum of 15%. As it is I think 15% is too low.

I pay £100 per month. I have ds 14 nights a month plus extra in the holidays. I pay for hair cuts, school shoes, half of all school trips and clothes and everything else he needs at my house. I also organise and pay for his hobby.

£7 a week here. He sees DS once every two or three months for about 2 hours. DS has no idea who he is and doesn't want to interact with him sadly (he's only 2 and has severe separation anxiety and language/processing delay so I have to be there for visits or he just screams for me). ExH refuses to contribute to shoes/clothes/activities etc and says he's currently not in a position to, when we meet I have to pay for soft play/food/drinks etc for DS. ExH was emotionally abusive and currently seems to quite like telling me how poor he is and how he can't afford to contribute anything, despite the fact he's living rent free in a three bedroom house his parents bought for him, has his own car, regularly out with friends etc. Bah. I content myself with two year old snuggles!

OH pays £500 a month for 2 kids plus pays for mobile phones and provides a lot of clothes. Have then EOW and half the holidays. He earns 40k.

I get £300 from 2 exes for 2 kids (3rd is 19) 1 doesn't see her at all and does nothing else (driving instructor and charges her for lessons only time he sees her) and the other has him EOW and some of the holidays.

I feel I get a raw deal.

toodlepip based purely on the info you have given your DP is paying the CMS minimum.

im about to start on this battle with abusive ex dp.

can i opt for collect and pay as i know he will use it as a way to control me!

"Considering the ExP also has two incomes in the household"

His wife or partner's income has absolutely no bearing whatsoever on childcare maintenance. She's not responsible for contributing to maintenance AT ALL.

I get 38.99 a week for my ds. Ex didnt engage with cms so its set at a default amount. I was getting 64 a week but now his arrears are cleared its now the default amount

We get £180 per month, dd gets fortnightly sleepovers. The biggest issue I have is my dd's maintenance being reduced due to her stepsister living with ex, despite his partner receiving maintenance money csa (whatever they are called now) messed us around for years but finally sorted it all when dd was 3.

DH earns £14k a year so only pays £30 per week - it's not much but he can't afford any more than that and his ex doesn't complain. We have DSD 50% of the time and split all other costs - school uniform and trips are 50/50, she has her own clothes at our house that we pay for, we take her on holiday (UK break) once or twice a year, and pay for any childcare she receives on our days, so it works out a lot more. He would pay more if he could and does pay more when he receives bonuses.

DP earns €60k and pays about €400 pm maintenance for his DS. However he also pays half of any/all 'big' costs that come up like school trips, birthday parties, summer activities etc. We/he have DSS at ours 4 nights out of 14, plus he goes on 1 holiday a year with DP and his parents doing an activity they all love and I hate, and 1 with me and DP in the summer.

DP and his ex have a very good relationship so have no problems discussing money issues and working things out together. His ex is comfortable financially as well in her own right.

Ex earns about 16k ( for his main job, although I'm fairly certain he has another job on the side ) and he pays £29 a week for DS

That's if he remembers. I spend a lot of time chasing him up.

Actually someone here may be able to answer this question... Ex has recently separated from his wife, with who he had 2 children. So he now lives with no children but has to pay 3 lots of maintenance. Would this affect how much he should be providing for DS?

My 2dc get £245pm, plus half of all haircuts, clothes, school trips and hobbies. Sees them eow when they stay for one night. Weekends are longer during school holidays depending on his and my work patterns/annual leave. Plus one full week in the summer hols.

My ex pays £180 a month for our child, he has her for a week in the summer that is it, occasionally he will send extra money directly to our daughter.

Ex has recently separated from his wife, with who he had 2 children. So he now lives with no children but has to pay 3 lots of maintenance. Would this affect how much he should be providing for DS?

You may find your money going down now he has 3 kids to pay maintenance for.

Ex earns around £28k, I get £182 per month. He has DS 2 nights one weekend and 1 night the next weekend. He'd have him more but he lives too far away. He has him in school holidays as much as he can and takes him on an annual holiday.
To be fair he's a good dad just a crap partner!

Zero!

He had an amazing job but as his alcoholism took hold, he's now on benefits.

My ex pays £175 a month when he can be bothered i.e. When he's not going on holiday, or in need of money for drugs/parties/ taking his partner out. He has admitted that he pays a lot less than csa minimum but won't tell me his income.
He also used to demand babysitting money for access visits and some months on spent more money on travel and babysitting than I got in maintenance. He also does not pay for food for the kids when they saw him so I had to provide money for food as well. On top of this he has had our children over at his place one night for younger one and a week for older one. His partner bullies our younger son.
Younger son (15) now only sees his father when it's present time as he has no relationship with him. He knows ex resents him having special needs and that ex does not want him at his house. Older son thinks his dad is a shit for not paying maintenance.
Recently ex said he was looking forward to elder son turning 18 as he could finally stop paying my bills. I took great joy in telling him he would have to pay until son left school so an extra 5 months in line with child benefit.
Both my sons know their dad is more interested in his partner than them and that he doesn't pay much. Children do see who is there for them and who buys their food. Plus my sons are already choosing old people's homes for us. A crappy one for their dad and a nice one with hot carers for me ( not that I have any idea why)

Never had a penny from my ex, the old Csa were useless and I haven't bothered with cms. No idea how much he earns, he hasn't had any contact with DD for nearly 10 years, since she was 2. Not even a birthday or Christmas card.

We get absolutely nothing from DSC mum, nor are we ever likely to, even though she earns a significant wage.

It was £150 a month for four children.
CMS reviewed in December and decided that he had to pay £250 a month from this month.

He argued with them, I filled in a form stating how often he has the kids. Two nights eow. Sent it back before xmas and still haven't heard anything.
It was meant to be paid Monday and ex h hasnMt paid.

It makes me so angry.

£300 a month is very low on a £50 k income. Some dc get a bad deal when their fathers view financially supporting them as " income for their mother".

Eurgh, this thread makes me angry in a way I usually ignore. Ex-H pays £250 per month in total for 2 children. I have no idea what he pays himself, but he runs his own business which is worth millions. I took a decision when we divorced that I would just accept the £250 on the table and walk away, because it wasn't about the money, but when I'm struggling for money it really rankles. It's my DH who helps pick up the pieces, because we function as a joint unit, but my god, ex ought to pay for his own kids. He showers them with expensive gifts when at his house, but they all have to stay there!

Exh pays 1500 a month for 5 children. He has them overnight 4 nights a week but I have them more during the day.

Wow. It's overnights that count for csa and residency so technically your ex is the resident parent and you could end up paying him CM!

Days don't count, only how many nights per week, if your ex ever took it to the cms or to court for residency.

Have you thought through the possible implications if he ever decided to make changes? You could end up with nothing.

The gifts I mean. The DC live with me, and stay with him 4 nights a month when he's in the country