To ask how much child maintenance

[Toodlepip16]

How much child maintenance do you/your DP pay to your ex or receive from ex, and what are the circumstances behind it? ie approx salary of person paying the maintenance and number of days child is with them. Do they take them on annual holiday too?

I am looking into that. It's all down to me to prove which is frankly ridiculous as I have nothing to do with him.
He doesn't know yet about the nil assessment they called me today. Am awaiting gloating text.
It just sickens me that he doesn't want to contribute for his kids.

Also what he is doing is possibly legal not moral but legal

DH pays £1400 for 2 kids. He is self employed and pays himself in dividends. It has never gone through CMS but my impression was CMS does count dividends?

£285 for 4 DC approx 2 overnight stays a year. His salary is £35000+ a year plus the income from lodgers who rent the DC's old bedrooms from him (and he doesn't declare) which stops him from having them the 2-3 nights a week he claims.

Exh pays 1500 a month for 5 children. He has them overnight 4 nights a week but I have them more during the day.

He's on 100k, until recently was on 70k. He owns a medium-large company.

DH pays £250 directly to his ex for DSS, and £250 on travel due to the circumstances of the situation.

We have DSS EOW and all school holidays (bar two weeks in the summer and a week at Christmas). We also pay for his phone contract, school uniform plus shoes and any extra curricular activities he wants to do.

THis is a private arrangement no cms.

Oh, and we have two other children as well.

Ouriana there are no childcare costs. After school, DSC is looked after by family members of both her family and my DPs family until she or my DP or myself finish work.
No career break, just standard mat leave on full pay when DSC was born and her and my DP were still together.
No childcare costs in school hols either

I have a question that I'm sure you can all help me with - stbxh left me last year, divorce is still going through (he's massively dragging his heels over returning the financial paperwork), ATM he just gives me 50% of childcare bill each month (approx £250 now DD gets funded hours - I work full time, he's self employed). He has her 2 nights/wk (both wk days so no wknd time off/sleep for me!) but I've now asked that he has her a wknd (from Sat afternoon, Sun, has her Mon anyway) + sun each month too because I'm just exhausted & never get a break.
Is the fact that he pays 1/2 of the childcare sufficient, should he contribute more to her upkeep or would maintenance need to cover childcare costs too?

Cat, not from what they have said today however I am waiting for the letter to see all the details.
Ely what does he earn?

£74 per week is the CSA rate based on 2-3 nights with you so you're edging towards the lower end/too little.

I get 225 a month. He has no contact with her.

Kiki CMS count nights don't they? So your situation is incredibly lucky! If it went through CMS you would have to pay him!

£600 p/m. 1 child. DD stays 3 nights with XP eow.

At best he does 2 weeks in school holidays, in total.

Just under £10 / week. One child. And that's through the NZ equivalent of the CSA.

DD's father says he has no income, but since she was born has used 'working' as an excuse not to see her, and has travelled to the UK at least 4 times with one or two other children for a couple months each time. We're talking £6000 in airfares alone each time. Should see her for 1/2 of the school hols but frequently cancels this at the last minute, leaving me with last-minute holiday programmes or whatever to arrange. He's a gem.

Ouriana, i don't want to lower it. I don't plan on changing anything. I was just generally interested to see what others pay/receive in comparison

Op what it is paid by your dp is lower than the amount set by the csa which is 15% for nine child but it seems to have been agreed between him and his ex so really what's the issue

And yes maintenance is part of my money coming in, I provide a home, pay bills, clothes, food and all the other costs

I simply wouldn't have many of these costs if I didn't have a child (I wouldn't need a bigger place) so the money may not just go towards just clothes/toys/trips his own seperate food it's goes towards the costs of providing a home for our child

And yes his dad does take him away and pay for many extras, he is in a position to and even if money was tight for him (as it is for me) he still would becuase he is a good dad and doesn't limit what he spends on his ds only to the maintenance he pays nrp who do out of choice are incredibly mean

One child

Not nine that would be expensive

Enthusiasm, there is no issue. Like I've mentioned a couple of times, it was just a post out of interest. As it always annoys me to hear about parents who don't pay maintenance and don't have their child stay over either

I did his tac return last yr and it was £30k taxable, but I know he has some other income this year from investments within his family business (that's what I know about - I don't doubt he has other income now as well, he has expanded his business for one thing).

I'm hoping to include it within the divorce arrangement- just wanted an idea of whether him paying towards childcare would offset any maintenance - she will start school in sept but there will still be after school clubs & holiday clubs to enable both of us to work full time.
He thinks that what he's paying now is all he needs to pay, just want an idea about how we can make a 'friendly' arrangement.

Not a penny. Ever. And has never clapped eyes on him. Denies that he is his father.
His loss. A massive one. Time will tell.