To ask how much child maintenance

[Toodlepip16]

How much child maintenance do you/your DP pay to your ex or receive from ex, and what are the circumstances behind it? ie approx salary of person paying the maintenance and number of days child is with them. Do they take them on annual holiday too?

Holidays aren't considered d you went through* CSA witsender*. You can't prove to CSA you will contribute to a child lifestyle in addition to a regular payable amount.
However if you are able to mutually agree an amount, and both parties know that the maintenance-paying parent will contribute lots more to that child's life in addition to this monthly payment, maybe it isn't considered so low

But maintenance isn't based on a joint income is it? To suggest you personally pay maintenance is somewhat disingenuous. And the ex could be a millionaire and your partner still have a legal (let alone moral) obligation to support his children. Pretending you are generous because there are two incomes going into the PWC's household just misses the point.

£475 pm for 2 children & ExH earns around £32-£35k. He sees them for the day every other week (moved 2hrs+ away) & oldest stays with him in school hols for a few days/2 weeks in summer.
It's CMS minimum but I have convinced him to stop adjusting for OW's dd living with him & although I'm luckier than lots of people because he pays on time no fuss every month it's a drop in the ocean compared to my £1200 monthly childcare bill let alone housing & feeding dd's & living.

I was getting £300 per month for two dc when h was earning £20K. He also paid for both their weekly swimming lessons. Also in north west. He had them over night once a week.

Wow that's awful bettycat81.

Point taken and received needsahalo. This post was worthwhile then

£80 per month. Sees our son sporadically throughout the year when it suits him despite me trying to establish regular contact. He works full time and also in the music industry so has a reasonable income.

We got nothing from ExDP. He was working full time. He moved to Thailand after a while so they couldnt chase him for maintenance.

He came back to England and stole something worth £12,000 from his son. Then told him what he'd spent it on. DS has gone NC and I expect he tells anyone who will listen that its my fault.

DP earns around 19k and we pay £150 a month. If people think £300 is low then they must be aghast at us but that is literally all we can afford after rent and bills. We have DSD every week from Friday end of school day to monday start of school day. We buy all her school clothes book equipment etc separately from money that goes to her mum and have her half of all holidays.

Less than 20 quid a week and he earns a decent salary
Already pissed off with it now even more so after seeing some of these amounts .

Sotheysentmea your DP earns significantly less than my DP so maybe people won't be aghast. Interesting that you say "we pay" as I was pulled not this thread earlier for suggesting that I contribute towards maintenance. As far as I see it, like you, "we" pay maintenance, the same way we look after DSC (when I was part time, I did school run on days DSC was with us, and therefore giving up part of my day off with my DC)

Clumsyduck was this agreed by CSA?

I earn even less than DP but we don't do separate finances and have a joint account that all money for bills including maintenance comes out of, so as far as we're concerned I do contribute to her maintenance. I agree with you - 'we' pay maintenance the same way we both look after her when she is here. I wash her clothes with the rest and cook her meals the same as us. She may be his daughter but she is a member of Our household.

Ours is a private agreement with DPs ex because none of us wanted CSA taking a percentage.

We pay £700 a month for one step child.

We have 2 dc.of our own and step son stays over twice.a.week every week plus half.of all school holidays.

Dh would love ss to stay round more, ss wants.to.stay more,.but his mother won't allow it to go above the threshold of nights where the maintenance is reduced by a further 7th.

No agreed between us a few years ago because he moved in with friends after we split up to start saving to buy a new house and I could manage without it to be fair ( not that I'm rolling in it ) I stayed in the house . Have now bought him out . We get on fairly well and he has a good relationship with ds but Iv been thinking about the amount recently that it needs to increase now he is financially secure earning more and has a house etc he can definitely afford it ! Also Now ds is older he is more expensive to keep ! When I tried to broach it he said I wouldn't get much more if I did it through csa and just brushed me off but as I say Iv been thinking about it recently and getting quite annoyed so a proper chat is on the cards because it's a pittance really !!

There is an online calculator on Child Maintenance Options that's is useful. Child maintenance service makes a calculation using HMRC gross (this already has pension deducted) CSA used taxable income

Wow essay sorry

£7 a week for two children. That he chooses not to see.
Was £0 for years.
Was earning c40K. I contacted CM. They calculated from the previous year where he was on Jobseekers for the majority of the time. They asked him if he agreed to £7 a week which he did.
Apparently he 'has the right to be believed' despite providing them with employment details. After constantly complaining, they finally declared he would have to pay c£400 a month. He then left job to avoid paying.
CM then declared he's to pay £0 as has no income. Despite back on Jobseekers. Again he has the right to be believed.
He's now working elsewhere. Again I've provided them with Employer details but they won't review for over 6 months.
Have just given up now.
(I work full time to support my children and always have done so).

Blankscreen it just goes to show that maintenance is just seen as another income for some mothers!

About 1500 per month. Actual csa due is a bit lower but they take a fee, stbxh offered to pay the fee but directly to me without CSA involvement if you get me.
He doesn't have her overnight yet, she's a young baby. Only child.

£105 a month, 1 child, low income, no other children, see DS twice a month.

Ouriana, but how do you know it benefits the child? No annual holiday but home improvements don't be fit the child. If we didn't pay it to the ex, we would spend it on DSC or put it in savings for them. So regardless of whether we or she has the money, it would 'benefit the child'

Blankscreen

Could you keep paying the same amount and still have more time?

My ex is self employed and just managed to get a nil assessment
Clearly he is not earning nothing but he is paying himself in dividends which CMS don't count.
Am so angry but what can I do.

Diet, is there a way you could report him for fraud to the likes of HMRC?
I believe x to be perfectly reasonable but since he's self employed the fact your situation is so common scares me very much.