To actually be really irritated by this male friend now

[Laughinggoittloud]

Met him through a mutual friend. Known him a year now.
Whenever im out with friends he makes a massive point of telling me how much he fancies this girl/the waitress/the receptionist/the dancer on stage/any reasonably attractive woman under the age of 35. He does this almost every 5 mins while he's talking to my friends and I.
He also ramps up his flirting with said women directly in front of me throughout the entire evening.

I have now taken to being out of his line of sight where possible to avoid the immature antics.

He does not do this once I'm not where I can see him (reliably informed of this information). Everyone has noticed and commented on it so if he thinks it's going unnoticed he is wrong.

What on earth!!??! I've neither rejected him nor flirted(not intentionally anyway)!!!! I've just been pleasant.

He's single. I'm single. But that doesn't mean I want to jump his bones.

I have come to a conclusion:

He thinks I fancy the pants off him and is very clumsily going about letting me know he's not up for anything. But I'm sure I've never flirted but must have given that impression 😡

I'm quite bubbly and happy which is mistaken for flirting a lot. But still, I've never flirted, teased him or physically touched him so it's unreasonable to be on a mission to show me he's not interested. I never thought he was anyway. AIBU to wish I could smack him and knock his stupid behaviour out of him?

I avoid going to events where he will be now as it's just so irritating. As soon as I arrive he avoids speaking directly to me and if he does he makes smart comments about the things I say and just immediately launches into his 'that girl is so hot' drivel.

It's just irritating. AIBU to wish he'd just grown some maturity and stop?

Dont give him the time lf day. He is an idiot.

Or come out as a lesbian. That'll shut him up.

You say this.

I have a 'friend' like the OP's friend, who I rarely see because he's annoying in this respect. He's a very nice, intelligent man (though he also, to my mind, looks exactly like a Hobbit), but he is convinced I fancy him. Nothing will shake his view. When I did come out, he asked a mutual friend to 'tell LRD I can talk to her about this, any time - I know what's going on'.

Needless to say I have not taken him up on his kind offer.

His to be fair I'm hotter comment is hilarious

Yeah, that would have made me laugh. Did you contradict him?

I didn't contradict him. We all knew he wasn't hotter though.

It's like a race between a hamster and a greyhound

Very quick update. He's started texting me quite a bit now. It's happened suddenly from nowhere. I'm guessing he thinks I'm dating the guy I brought to the party. So feels threatened.

So overall, I never thought I would say this, but I do think he has feelings for me. What a pathetic way to show it but judging by several posts I've seen on Mumsnet this does seem to be a common tactic among a certain kind of Man.

After reading your update it definitely sounds like he has feelings for you. Either that or he gets off on thinking that you fancy him, and his nose has been put out of joint by your friend.

His comment about being better looking was really arrogant. Talk about blowing your own trumpet.

Is his new GF history already?

Forgot to say it's odd that he's doing this when he has a new girlfriend.

Just be careful that he doesn't start being really nasty now...

Tell the friend who brought him into the group to tell him he's quite quite safe from you.

As a pp said, and as his comment about being hotter than your friend demonstrates, it might well be that its not because he fancies you but because you clearly don't fancy him that he is finding difficult to cope with!! Sounds tedious and immature to me. Like the sound of your hot friend though!!

I had a reply all ready, but your update makes it moot. Well, not entirely. I think i was mainly going to say, by alm means do all the navel-gazing here with us, but i worry that you're too concerned with it in real life and around your friends, esp if it might get gack to him, thus confirming how much you really do fancy him. >boak!

Ha ha the "I'm hotter" comment - FFS!!

yes Laughing, he lurrrves you

Some people "just have to have everyone fancy them" and he sounds like one of them. So the one person who isn't interested has to either: think he's out of her league or be hiding her feelings.

I'm not sure if he does fancy you (although he might like a quick shag just to prove how irresistible he is). Its a bit sad, as he must think how hot he is is all that defines him.

Gaaah! Sorry. #hatetheapp

He's still with his girlfriend but obviously can't be that into her. He obviously doesn't like to be single.

Yeah he might not actually fancy me but may just want my attention for some reason. It's hard to know without knowing if he messages other women to this extent but I do know I'm the only woman he does the whole 'that girl is so hot' thing with.

It's not just that. He noticed I'd not wished him happy birthday on facebook and the next day text me saying hi and that it was his birthday yesterday. I genuinely think it was an attempt to alert me to his birthday so I would write on his facebook wall (ultra pathetic).

When I wished a mutual male friend happy birthday on facebook he immediately liked a post of mine. I think he was jealous again and was hoping I would like one of his posts back.

I mean, he's never made any moves. It's all just attention seeking stuff so maybe he just wants me to stroke his ego.

If he was a former work colleague or a distant friend of a friend he would be long forgotten but unfortunately for me he is part of an established group of friends and so I will see him regularly for years to come.

If he's just acted normal I wouldn't have even noticed him.. It's a shame he's made thing awkward by being such an idiot and attention seeking.