To actually be really irritated by this male friend now

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Met him through a mutual friend. Known him a year now.
Whenever im out with friends he makes a massive point of telling me how much he fancies this girl/the waitress/the receptionist/the dancer on stage/any reasonably attractive woman under the age of 35. He does this almost every 5 mins while he's talking to my friends and I.
He also ramps up his flirting with said women directly in front of me throughout the entire evening.

I have now taken to being out of his line of sight where possible to avoid the immature antics.

He does not do this once I'm not where I can see him (reliably informed of this information). Everyone has noticed and commented on it so if he thinks it's going unnoticed he is wrong.

What on earth!!??! I've neither rejected him nor flirted(not intentionally anyway)!!!! I've just been pleasant.

He's single. I'm single. But that doesn't mean I want to jump his bones.

I have come to a conclusion:

He thinks I fancy the pants off him and is very clumsily going about letting me know he's not up for anything. But I'm sure I've never flirted but must have given that impression 😡

I'm quite bubbly and happy which is mistaken for flirting a lot. But still, I've never flirted, teased him or physically touched him so it's unreasonable to be on a mission to show me he's not interested. I never thought he was anyway. AIBU to wish I could smack him and knock his stupid behaviour out of him?

I avoid going to events where he will be now as it's just so irritating. As soon as I arrive he avoids speaking directly to me and if he does he makes smart comments about the things I say and just immediately launches into his 'that girl is so hot' drivel.

It's just irritating. AIBU to wish he'd just grown some maturity and stop?

Well, anyone would. It's irritating. Definitely doesn't mean I fancy him.

I doubt many people would observe this behaviour and not at least wonder what is going on

you sound like I did when my wife was pursuing me and I was trying not to admit to myself that I was falling for her. Like- the protesting too much thing.

He's used to women throwing themselves at him and because you've showed your not remotely interested, he's trying to 'show you what your missing'.

And I used to say and repeat all the time that a) it was ridiculous that she fancied me because I'd made it clear I wasn't interested in anything with anyone, including her, and b) it was even more ridiculous for anyone to think I fancied her because I absolutely didn't. A year later we got married.

I can assure you I'm not protesting. Only explaining to people who have claimed I fancy him (honestly no idea why anyone would see that) that I couldn't fancy him less if I tried.

I doubt many people would observe this behaviour and not at least wonder what is going on

You say you think you're "better looking than him" - could it be that you really dont think he fancies you and that's why he's so irritating to you?

If you honestly don't fancy him and he irritates u so much I don't see why u would continue to speak to him. It's quite easy to be within a large group of friends and not really speak to one particular person.

Not explaining myself. There's 5 of us. It's not like I can spend the whole night completely away from him.

I do now try and avoid him though. I'd
not spoken to him for a few weeks I met him yesterday day time with friends but did my best to just keep away but I'm meeting up with my group in an hour so my annoyance is turned on again. As I know what to expect.

Urgh!

It's a restaurant as well so we will be around a table so no getting away.

I have many male friends who mention their girlfriends or women they find hot. This is completely different.

He's only like that with me there and it's all he talks about when in my presence. He's deliberately doing it for my 'benefit' so of course it's going to irritate me.

Try to ignore it, when either of you gets a new partner it will all be a distant memory

He had a girlfriend for a while. He still did it. It literally made no difference.

I show absolutely no emotion whatsoever when he does it. I just ignore it and carry on with the conversation I'm having with someone else.

I know that's the best thing to do.

Can you not being a male friend along or just pop in with them in tow, introduce them and see if that stops him?

Agree with him when he next says a woman's hot, excuse yourself to the loo, and then tell him you got her number on the way back.

It just sounds like one long campaign for attention. Who knows why he's doing it.

I would just let him know subtly that you find him really irritating. There's nothing more squashing than to be found annoying.

I have a really good bored face apparently. Use yours.

Haha thanks for the advice. It's odd behaviour. I've never had it before.

I don't really care. It's only that it's irritating. I do manage to enjoy myself though. I just concentrate on my friends and enjoy the evening.

He gets enough attention. No idea why he needs mine too. Hopefully he will change when he's a bit older. He's early twenties now.

I have actually half grown to have a silent chuckle at it all. He actually thinks I've not sussed him out that he's only going this for my benefit when I realised about about a month. So he's just making an idiot of himself. Not fooling anyone.

He very obviously fancies you. I think you like him a bit too, to make a thread about it on MN. Underneath it all.

I bet if you both got really really drunk and ended up in the same house you'd shag

Fingers crossed he will stop soon. I'm going to bring my male friend along today. A really hot one.
Hopefully that will put an end to it all.

literally ignore him start up a conversation with someone else

he definitely fancies you

A hot male friend should set the cat among the pigeons. Make sure you cozy up!

Good luck

Yeah, ask hot friend if he'd object to having a massive snog right in front of Mr.arsehole. I'm sure no red blooded male would mind!

I will be instructing him to have his arm around me at all times.Maybe even put his hand over mine.

Get him to whisper in your ear. A lot.

I'm going to say we're just friends but just taking it slow and seeing if anything comes of it

I'm with 'haveacupoftea' on this one.

If you were that annoyed by it, you'd say with a bit of pointed humour 'oh for the love of god, put a sock in it. Either go over and shag her brains out or DO shut up. This repetitive reversed 'look at me' business, is getting on my tits'.

But then, I'm not diplomatic and I have no patience. :D

I would never shag him. He remind me of a butch lesbian. I honestly do not fancy him.

But, I don't think he's a bad guy. Young and immature/irritating. But not evil or intentionally nasty.

I think he just thinks I fancy him and wants to or me off.