To actually be really irritated by this male friend now

[Laughinggoittloud]

Met him through a mutual friend. Known him a year now.
Whenever im out with friends he makes a massive point of telling me how much he fancies this girl/the waitress/the receptionist/the dancer on stage/any reasonably attractive woman under the age of 35. He does this almost every 5 mins while he's talking to my friends and I.
He also ramps up his flirting with said women directly in front of me throughout the entire evening.

I have now taken to being out of his line of sight where possible to avoid the immature antics.

He does not do this once I'm not where I can see him (reliably informed of this information). Everyone has noticed and commented on it so if he thinks it's going unnoticed he is wrong.

What on earth!!??! I've neither rejected him nor flirted(not intentionally anyway)!!!! I've just been pleasant.

He's single. I'm single. But that doesn't mean I want to jump his bones.

I have come to a conclusion:

He thinks I fancy the pants off him and is very clumsily going about letting me know he's not up for anything. But I'm sure I've never flirted but must have given that impression 😡

I'm quite bubbly and happy which is mistaken for flirting a lot. But still, I've never flirted, teased him or physically touched him so it's unreasonable to be on a mission to show me he's not interested. I never thought he was anyway. AIBU to wish I could smack him and knock his stupid behaviour out of him?

I avoid going to events where he will be now as it's just so irritating. As soon as I arrive he avoids speaking directly to me and if he does he makes smart comments about the things I say and just immediately launches into his 'that girl is so hot' drivel.

It's just irritating. AIBU to wish he'd just grown some maturity and stop?

I don't fancy him. I think anyone would be irritated to be honest.

I can't stop seeing him. He's part of an establish group of friends I'm part of. If he wasn't I'd block his number and never see or hear from him again..very gladly.

There certainly are men who think that if you are beneath them (i.e. older, or above a size 8), you must automatically desperately fancy them and they must constantly let you know that they're not interested.

Yeah, I've met them, they're assholes, but you get off lightly if you're the one that they keep reminding that you're too much of a frump for them.. they're even bigger assholes to the poor girls they do grace with their penis!

I'm am positive I've read pretty much this exact post here in the past few weeks. It was maybe a colleague though?

Bang on about "silver foxes" who know what women like in return.

The OP can't just stop seeing him, he is friends with all of her friends!
I would just speak to him about it. Say, "why do you always go on about women you fancy to me??" Call him on it.

I don't get the impression you fancy him. He sounds about 13!

Its SOOO frustrating, because although they make a massive point of letting you know they're out of your league, they're invariably man-boy idiots that no fully grown woman would find sexy anyway.

He fancies you

I've had this experience too. Usually it's guys who are fancied by loads of women so they've assumed I fancy them too when I'm just being friendly /polite, and make a big deal out of making it clear they don't fancy me. I'm like, "I don't fancy you anyway, sort out your ego!!"
Is he the type of guy a lot of women fancy? If so, maybe he feels self conscious as perhaps your mutual friends would like to see you two get together. Still doesn't excuse his annoying behaviour

Thanks chipped!

I certainly do not.

I have tried to let him know I'm not interested but nothing makes any difference. He's obviously very sure I am!!!

Why don't you call him out on it next time?

", why do you make such an obvious show of making comments on other women in front of me? It's making me uncomfortable, and others have noticed you only do it with me. I definitely do not fancy you so I can only assume it's because you fancy me. In which case, the answer is no. I'd expect to be treated equally to everyone else in this group."

Oh, I should add: do that in front of the group.

He's a lot younger than me but a lot of women do fancy him yes. He does have quite a few admirers.
At the same time I don't think he's physically attractive. He would be a lot of women's type but then again, he wouldn't get any woman he liked.

A lot of women (sane ones) wouldn't be remotely interested. He is very much a ladies man. Always flirting and loving the attention.

Loves it when women hit on him. All rather irritating behaviours.

Acatcalledjohn I may just do that 😜

The only time I said another guy was hot he did seem put out as he likes to be top dog. Maybe he's annoyed I show him no attention.

Just say "oh dear, poor girl" and laugh your head off whenever he points out someone he'ld give one to!

Just call him on it. Assure him that though you're both single you don't have designs on him as you only date grown-ups.

Good idea tinseltwins.

To be honest looks wise I think I'm much better looking (obvs) so no idea where he has got this idea I must be massively into him.

But we all know a man like that. Thinks everyone is into them.

Or to be fair maybe something about me he finds creepy! Or irritating. It works both ways

He fancies you and he's showing off.

This is exactly what I was going to say!

Yes, I'm now thinking you may be giving off vibes that u don't fancy him (unlike most women he hangs out with) and it's getting right up his nose - what an arse!
I don't think I could stand it I'd have to give him a wide birth - can't u just say hi etc and be polite but not really engage him in conversation? If he calls u out on it just say "the truth is, I find u very full of yourself and irritating" and explain why!

I don't think it's necessarily that he fancies the op - just that he can't stand the fact she doesn't fancy him!

I've always presumed the reason he was th way he was was because he thought I fancied him. So once I realised that I made sure to not do anything that could suggest that. So I may have been standoffish but it's only because of the fact I thought I'd made him uncomfortable and he'd taken me the wrong way

And if he corners you and starts bleating on about how much he fancies such and such just stare off into the middle distance and go "oh, look! There's Tracey!" Or whoever, and run off to the ladies and hide for a few minutes. He'll soon get the message.

Yikes. All these different possibilities for his actions.

I don't even think I'd know where to start finding out which is the actual right one.

Maybe he does like you. Maybe not. I'm betting yes

But that is annoying. Next time he does that, tell him, "Go on then. Make a move. You're all talk and no action."

That'll shut him up.

Hmm, you do seem to be way over thinking about this , hugely bothered by him saying who he fancies and very very focused on It for someone who you say you don't fancy and and apparently limit your time with....🙄