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to decline a gift

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motherofthemall · 15/01/2017 21:23

My parents have very generously offered to buy me an expensive watch for my 30th birthday. I am delighted and really would like it. However, i know that my husband will be annoyed, he often gets grumpy when i get expensive gifts and calls me spoilt and that i don't need such things etc etc.

OP posts:
Soubriquet · 15/01/2017 21:24

Accept the gift and kick your dh out

Why on earth does he moan about that?

Is he jealous?

coconutpie · 15/01/2017 21:25

^^^ What Soubriquet said

iklboo · 15/01/2017 21:26

He sounds like a whiny toddler.

MLGs · 15/01/2017 21:26

What? of course you can accept the gift.

he sounds horrible!

PidgeyfinderGeneral · 15/01/2017 21:26

Erm, what? Why would you decline a lovely present from your parents because your DH is a twat? Tell him to get a fucking life and keep the watch.

Leeds2 · 15/01/2017 21:26

Don't tell him how much it cost.

VeryBitchyRestingFace · 15/01/2017 21:28

Do his parents not buy him expensive gifts?

Does he expect your parents to do so?

Diddums.

Crispbutty · 15/01/2017 21:28

It would be incredibly rude and ungracious to refuse a gift like that, which would be a very sentimental item too, from the two people who have been in your whole life.

He sounds a jealous knob.

Pumpkintopf · 15/01/2017 21:28

Is he upset because he can't afford to buy you such expensive gifts himself, therefore resents others doing so?

GahBuggerit · 15/01/2017 21:29

hes jealous. get the watch, wouldcbe a lovely keepsake, unlike him

harderandharder2breathe · 15/01/2017 21:29

Accept the gift and tell DH to grow the fuck up

Screenburn · 15/01/2017 21:30

Wow what a joyless fucknugget your DH is.

Accept the watch - it sounds like a lovely gift from great parents.

Original poster
motherofthemall · 15/01/2017 21:33

Thank you. He doesn't have a relationship with either of his parents. He can afford to buy me such things, but I don't think he would ever choose to. I really want to be excited about the gift but I am dreading the atmosphere it will create. A first world problem, I know.

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VeryBitchyRestingFace · 15/01/2017 21:35

A first world problem, I know.

Not really. Jealous, controlling husbands are an issue the world over.

I'd be getting that watch.

austenozzy · 15/01/2017 21:36

Sounds like a miserable, controlling tightwad. Does he lay down rules and restrictions for you on anything else? Clothes, food, friends, social life?

Catsize · 15/01/2017 21:36

Lovely gift, accept it.

PollytheDolly · 15/01/2017 21:37

What a knob-jockey.

Accept the lovely gift. It's not your fault he's 5 years old mentally.

LostSight · 15/01/2017 21:37

He sounds mean. Does he often deliberately spoil things for you?

thesourceofLoveandLight · 15/01/2017 21:37

my dh is a bit like this - if i get anything nice he goes on about it and it takes the shine off, tbh.

I think its jealousy. I call him out all the time and he denies it, but the next time I get a present it starts again. You have my sympathy, OP. accept the watch and ignore him.

EmeraldScorn · 15/01/2017 21:42

You're allowed a gift from your parents no matter how much it costs and you do not have to feel guilty about it or question it in any way.

Your husband sounds like a self centred man-child but to be fair you sound as if you feed his childishness by even paying attention to his whims - Ignore him, accept the watch and enjoy wearing it.

You don't have to justify why your parents are buying you a birthday gift, don't be a door mat, it's your birthday your parents, and he is blatantly a jealous, insecure moron.

tinydancer88 · 15/01/2017 21:51

Ignore your husband. Enjoy your gift, and your generous parents.

RandomMess · 15/01/2017 21:58

Your DH doesn't sound very pleasant!

kittybiscuits · 15/01/2017 21:59

Soubriquet gave perfect advice!

mumgointhroughtorture · 15/01/2017 22:01

Accept the gift otherwise your parents miss out buying something for their Daughter (you still are their child) that they want to buy so hes almost controlling them too because it's like you can't accept this to keep him happy. He needs to deal with it .

GinIsIn · 15/01/2017 22:01

What others have said - keep the gift, replace the husband!

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