AIBU to think I need to report this? Or that I might lose job?

[PrincessCarrieFisher]

I've found out recently that a few people in my company do drugs.

Not at work, obviously, but they do it regularly outside of work. If they have done it outside of work, then I wouldn't know about it.

One of these people is a very very close friend, and it's no secret that we are good friends

Do I need to report? Drugs are strictly forbidden in our employee contracts. If it came to be known that I knew, and didn't say anything, I might get into trouble...

Part of me thinks that it's off work premises so it's none of my business

Are you actually the person with the personal trading account?

Oh plimsolls - same thought!

Op you still haven't answered why you went from saying it was a thread you had read about private trading accounts to saying it was your thread? You seem to keep changing your story to suit what answers you want.
You say you are a good friend and don't want to get your friends in trouble but if that's the case what motivation could you have for reporting them? They can't act without proof so perhaps the company brings in random drug tests and your friends get sacked?
If they do start making mistakes, as I said before, it won't be long before it is flagged up. Your friends aren't exactly going to say "well it's cos I do loads of coke but that's fine because princess knew all about it* are they? And so what if they did? Do you think your boss could sack you for a completely unsubstantiated claim?
And magic your comment about everyone saying not to grass them up are just druggies is incredibly ignorant and miles off the mark, in fact my ex of 7 years started taking coke when we were together and it completely destroyed our relationship so I certainly have no reason to defend those using it. However in my case it was because he spent all our money and wpuld disappear for days at a time. Yet he kept getting promoted at work....

Yeah. Nothing any of can be taken seriously, because we're all regular drug takers.

Op:AIBU
Everyone: overwhelmingly yes.

Well, well, that doesn't matter. Because you're all permanently high.

Is this a reverse? Do you friends know you're gettimg pranged off your tits on school nights and then stumbling through work, and now you're having a paranoid come down?

Agree with ClaryIsTheBest, if I'm disorientated at work, its probably NOT because I've just snorted 4 mahoosive lines of coke the night before. I wish.
It's probably because of :
my diabetes
ds1 being ASD
poorly children being up all night:

or

Apologies I should have been honest from the beginning.

Yes, I did post about knowing someone who has an undeclared trading account

No, I don't have one myself nor do I do drugs

I am worried about losing my jobs over the misdeeds of others which is why I asked the questions

I haven't come across as I intended on this thread- sorry about that as well

I'll leave it here-I won't be reporting on either issues without any hard evidence it's impacting the business

Previously I had been encouraged to report even based on hearsay and I am not comfortable doing that

Oh, so you were the trading account poster too?

How do you get any work done when you're spending so much time with your nose in others' business?

Plus, how can you not tell the difference between the possibility of financial fraud and therefore the need for certain boundaries and restrictions, and tattle-taling to your boss that your colleagues got up to naughty hijinks? How are you not getting what is a workplace concern and what is their own personal business? Why can you not see the line between those things?

Given that you can't discern between work business and personal business I suggest you report either both or neither and let management deal with you.

Why the heck do you know these things?

These are things you never know. You may secretly (!) suspect but you should not know. (Different if you were a supervisor)

There is no reason to look closely at certain things.

I mean, what the heck are you doing?

In fairness OP has admitted she should have been honest and that she has come across badly. Thankfully she has (wisely) decided to stay out of it and not report.

Yes OP you should have been honest from the beginning, if you make things up and get caught out then it destroys your credibility for the rest of the information you provide and people will not want to give you advice as they feel.they are being deceived. If you do have genuine concerns for a friend with a drug problem then that is the issue you need to tackle, reporting them wpuld be very unkind, losing their job will certainly make things worse for them. If they as close as friend as you made out originally then I would talk to.them about how reckless it is for them to be taking drugs (especially if they are taking it on week nights as you claim).

HA HA HA.
This has been the funniest thread I've read in ages.

People like you scare me. The pettiness. Report!! Report!! Just in case. Oh HR, I'm sure that women in accounts has too much goji berries on her salad at lunchtime.
Have you seen this?
No. But I suspect.

highly stressful for employee. And even if she hasn't eaten any kale or soy milk, she'll probably quit from stress anyway.

Come on, it appears the OP suffers frm anxiety "i am worried about being fired by others wrongdoing." I can relate to this, I used to make up hypothetical scenarious and worry about them.

OP, is this what this is? Anxiety is really real for sufferers regardless of how irrational it may seem to others.

Oblomov, you are out of order. The OP asked a for her, genuine question. What gives you the right to ridicule her in this way? It doesnt take a genius to work out that she is anxious, and she asked for help. If this thread is the funniest you have read in ages, then that is very sad.

You sound cruel, and your post in poor taste. A grown woman egging on ridicule in this way makes me cringe.

"She will probably quit from stress anyway"

FFS, are you for real?! Bully

Yes I do suffer from anxiety

I am looking for treatment for it at the moment

I don't want to reveal too much here, happy to answer via pm. The way is know about all this is that people have admitted things to me. Because they are close friends
They have likewise admitted to others in our circle as well so it's not a secret.

depends on the job your doing as others have said, if its going to affect the public in some way, then maybe its better to express your concerns. if its just themselves they are messing up, then maybe best to steer clear of any confrontation really. tough call though.

Lnd, no you are totally out of order. Bully? That's a bit rich.

If someone raises a concern about you, and made worse because its very flimsy evidence, as in the Op's case - actually she had no evidence at all. But it COULD result in an investigation. Hopefully dismissed quickly. But even having one is horrible. Have you seen the employment boards. People have investigations and its incredibly stressful. That could well make someone VERY 'anxious'.

Op was originally suggesting she might report. the stress of going through an investigation at work is monumental for most people. And people do quit over such things.

Op has drip fed, totally lied about previous thread starting, and now, right at the end, when questioned, with nowhere left to hide, she says she has anxiety.

This thread is practically laughable, the merry dance the OP has had us all on.

Op 'could' have reported. on flimsy 'heresay'. It 'could' have resulted in the other woman having an investigation. Other woman 'might' have quit through the stress of that.

Op would have felt bad then.
That's wouldn't have helped Op's anxiety. Knowing that she had contributed to someone quiting through stress.

People need to think about the ramifications and results of their actions.

Bet this thread gets deleted soon.
It shouldn't be. Op should be forced to stay to answer some of the questions. Why all the lies?

I do agree with oblomov about the investigation side of things. If you are in a job that is stressful to begin with this would certainly be a final straw for some people. When I had my first job out of university when I was 21 I couldn't drive so was reliant on 2 buses to get to work, had to be in for 8.30. Over the course of 6 months in winter when the weather was awful and buses weren't running well I was late twice (I'm talking 8.37am late). No clock in times so someone had obviously reported me. I was put in a disciplinary on Christmas Eve of all days. I suffer from anxiety and already was struggling. This tipped me over the edge and I left shortly afterwards.
I understand it must be difficult for the op if she has anxiety but she needs to think about how she would cope if someone reported her, her friend may also have anxiety issues.

I think I've honestly answered all the questions posed to me

If there are any further, happy to answer via PM or here

Oblomov, yea see your point. I was jumping to the wrong conclusions, I do apologise. I will report my "bully" post and ask for it to be removed. I am sorry Oblomov I should have kept a better tone myself, turned out I was a good one to talk hey?

Unless it affects their ability to do their work, it is no-one else's business. Be it alcohol, heroin or whatever. Employers don't own people. They are free to do what they please in their OWN time.