About my Sunday dinner guest tonight...

[maddiemookins16mum]

I'm so peeved I've hidden in the kitchen, washing up.
Have friends round for Sunday dinner (so basically a main meal of sorts).
Me, DP, DD (12), 4 other adults. Two of each couple work with DP. I know one couple very well, get on great.

Other couple, know the male better as he works with DP. His wife I've met about 4 times, got on well, I work in the travel industry, we've spent many an hour talking holidays.

They came round at 4.30pm. Dinner was slow cooked lamb shanks, roast potatoes, carrots, broccoli and green beans.

Wife of 2nd couple (the one I discussed travel with), announced on arrival, "oh by the way, I'm not eating meat in January?"

I was slightly stunned but carried on getting drinks etc. (took DP aside and said "is she not eating the flipping lamb".

Turns out no, so I got an Iceland frozen salmon steak out t'freezer and cooked it with a pouch of Ainsley Harriot veg cous cous and she had our normal veg too. The roast potatoes were cooked with goose fat left over from Christmas.

The worst bit is, our cat (fluffballmookins), is unwell. She's about 15. She smells. I think it's her breath, her teeth are bad but she would need an operation under gas to clean them but she would not survive/cope with an operation.

Four times in the last hour she has said "that cat smells". She is sitting in the armchair and Fluffball is snoring above her head. Three times I've said, "swap seats with me", I'm on the end seat of a three seater sofa (there is also another armchair).

She picked at her dinner, drank 5 glasses of wine (I only had three bottles between 6 adults on a Sunday night), has smoked just outside my kitchen door, and told DD it's too expensive to train to be a vet so don't bother.

AIBU to want her gone now at half seven (usually they leave about 10).
Disclaimer - we plan these nights (all friends apart from one, have tomorrow off and one doesn't drink, he's the driver).

Cat is gorgeous (but I'd take her back to the vet personally for another check).

Guest was bloody rude, she wouldn't have got salmon from me, just "oh dear, I had no idea and there isn't anything else. Shall I just take the lamb off your plate?".

Pudding or not, I would have stil have brought wine.

Maybe you should bag up some of mookinscat's sick, the next time she throws up, bag up and stick it in the freezer and serve it up to awkward-last-minute-demands guest. If DCat eats dry food, you could possibly pass it off as puy lentils...? Evil, yet satisfying. Especially after poo-pooing your DDs dreams.

What the hell is wrong with giving up meat for January? I'm doing dry January, are you against that as well?

But dry January makes sense if you've over-indulged over the Christmas period. Your liver will be healthier, I imagine.

But giving up meat - but not fish - and for just a month? I mean, what exactly is the point of that? Unless you're desperate for attention, of course.

Sorry, vile guest. Forgot to mention we've given up feeding rude, tight and ungrateful stinky smokers for this decade. Silly us! Toodles!!

Ah, she's lovely. I love a fwuffy tab.

I'm told I'm a bit blunt but as a guest even I would have just left the meat part of the meal. I'd probably have mentioned 'the cat smells' but only the once.
She's just bloody rude.
I have a pretty, small and healthy Cavalier dog aged 4 who stinks of wet dog or fox poo most of the time apart from the day she's been bathed. I'm always telling her she stinks but I'd be annoyed if someone else said it more than once.

The meat thing was beyond rude. I wouldn't have given her an alternative. She could just eat the rest of it minus the lamb. I don't eat lamb or veal (not vegetarian, just don't eat lamb or veal), and on the very rare occasions it's been the main dish I simply fill up on the other dishes and don't even mention the lamb/veal.

The smoking - I don't ever allow smoking anywhere on my property, inside or out, so she would've been kicked out for that alone - or not even invited in the first place.

Overall, this woman sounds like a very rude and unpleasant person and there'd be no second invitation to my house for her.

Not to warn you she's not eating meat before coming for a meal is very rude. I'm allergic to onion and would never dream of turning up to someone's house without finding out what's on the menu!

I agree about the meat thing. To tell you on arrival is beyond rude. Although I do usually ask in advance if anyone can't eat anything, if you can't eat something, then you should say as soon as you accept an invite. As someone who's allergic to celery, I know to tell in advance . I once was served celery based soup, followed by salad with celery. The pudding has excellent. I think serving her salmon etc, was very nice of you.

If my cat smelled bad, I would put her in another room before guests came. I tend to forget how much cats can smell to non pet owners.

The smoking was out of order too.

Oh op. Your guest sounds horrible.

I'd have had your cat on my lap talking to her in a sickly voice, no matter how bad her breath is. Poor fluffy girl, she can't help it.

And yes it's fucking rude to announce you don't want meat as you arrive for a meal someone else has cooked for you. And to drink half the wine meant for all the guests.

Don't invite her back.

What is "spare wine"?

What's the point of giving up eating meat for one month? Bad as dryunary and octsober

Sounds like its the wine to me OP , she did't eat enough to soak it all up.

Chalk it up to experience ,, as for cat, poor old thing, it is his home too I think I would have told her.

I'd have served her the meal without the meat. To go temporarily vegetarian but not let a hostess know is just rude. I do always have emergency quiche in the freezer but I'm not sure I'd have cooked it for her.

Next time she says the cat smells reply, "well so does your attitude, but we don't harp on about that..."

Don't invite her over again!

llangenith, why would you tell your host that their pet smells even once? Don't you think that's rude?

I don't have any guest advice, but your cat is lovely. She could smell like death and kippers and I'd still give her a snuggle.

She looks rather like my old BettyPussPuss, who is 18 and similarly stinky. She has a snaggle tooth which catches you when she rubs her face on you, which she does all the time as she's very affectionate. Old cats rock!

Have you tried Logix toothpaste for the cat? Contains enzymes which are supposed to break down plaque. For dogs you rub it on their teeth, for cats you can put it on their paw and let them lick it. You could probably get a free sample from the vet's

I think I would have had to feign a migraine and said I had to go and lie down, please don't bang the front door on your way out!

"But giving up meat - but not fish - and for just a month? I mean, what exactly is the point of that? Unless you're desperate for attention, of course."

You'd have to ask the person doing it. Could be someone interested in vegetarianism, but not ready to do it permanently. Someone wants to get used to vegetarian food or whatever?