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AIBU?

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About my Sunday dinner guest tonight...

120 replies

maddiemookins16mum · 15/01/2017 19:42

I'm so peeved I've hidden in the kitchen, washing up.
Have friends round for Sunday dinner (so basically a main meal of sorts).
Me, DP, DD (12), 4 other adults. Two of each couple work with DP. I know one couple very well, get on great.

Other couple, know the male better as he works with DP. His wife I've met about 4 times, got on well, I work in the travel industry, we've spent many an hour talking holidays.

They came round at 4.30pm. Dinner was slow cooked lamb shanks, roast potatoes, carrots, broccoli and green beans.

Wife of 2nd couple (the one I discussed travel with), announced on arrival, "oh by the way, I'm not eating meat in January?"

I was slightly stunned but carried on getting drinks etc. (took DP aside and said "is she not eating the flipping lamb".

Turns out no, so I got an Iceland frozen salmon steak out t'freezer and cooked it with a pouch of Ainsley Harriot veg cous cous and she had our normal veg too. The roast potatoes were cooked with goose fat left over from Christmas.

The worst bit is, our cat (fluffballmookins), is unwell. She's about 15. She smells. I think it's her breath, her teeth are bad but she would need an operation under gas to clean them but she would not survive/cope with an operation.

Four times in the last hour she has said "that cat smells". She is sitting in the armchair and Fluffball is snoring above her head. Three times I've said, "swap seats with me", I'm on the end seat of a three seater sofa (there is also another armchair).

She picked at her dinner, drank 5 glasses of wine (I only had three bottles between 6 adults on a Sunday night), has smoked just outside my kitchen door, and told DD it's too expensive to train to be a vet so don't bother.

AIBU to want her gone now at half seven (usually they leave about 10).
Disclaimer - we plan these nights (all friends apart from one, have tomorrow off and one doesn't drink, he's the driver).

OP posts:
ShowMePotatoSalad · 15/01/2017 20:18

It really irks me how some people feel the need to effectively moderate the boards and imply people shouldn't be posting.

Anyway, OP, she sounds like a blinking nightmare. I wouldn't invite her again. The no meat in January announcement really takes the biscuit though.

MistyMinge · 15/01/2017 20:18

What bad manners she has. I'd be serving up her pudding with a spoon I'd given a good old lick!

Guitargirl · 15/01/2017 20:18

Grin at singing smelly cat. You need to do that OP and come back and update us.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 15/01/2017 20:19

Losing track, but where are the guests now? Are they still there? It's only 8.15pm.

What I posted in my first post isn't rude or offensive at all!

ShowMePotatoSalad · 15/01/2017 20:19

Why are people asking her why she so in MN.

She said she was in the kitchen, doing the washing up. It takes a couple of minutes to post a new thread.

RosyGold · 15/01/2017 20:20

PupPupBoogle now I have "Smelly cat smelly cat, what are they feeding youuu" stuck in my head GrinWink

OP she sounds like a nightmare YANBU I wouldn't want to deal with a guest like that myself - v inconsiderate to spring surprise vegetarianism on you last minute, and if she drank all my booze I'd be fumin 😂😂😂

NavyandWhite · 15/01/2017 20:21

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Lilaclily · 15/01/2017 20:21

5 glasses , she must be pissed as a farther on a Sunday night too Grin

maddiemookins16mum · 15/01/2017 20:21

I was only "portioning" the wine (for want of a better expression), to make sure it lasted. She seems happier now Mookins is banished (she'll survive by the way, the cat that is). DD has gone for her shower before bed upstairs so I have an excuse to be out of the room for ten mins (I don't usually by the way). I was just so looking forward to it, planned since early December.

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 15/01/2017 20:22

If someone else posted "I am out at a dinner party but the host has disappeared to another room with her phone - aibu to think this is rude?" 99% of respondents would say yes it is rude.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 15/01/2017 20:24

Waffles80 - I've been a member here since 2006, so my post is no sort of "new rush" whatsoever.

expatinscotland · 15/01/2017 20:25

YANBU

NavyandWhite · 15/01/2017 20:26

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thecatneuterer · 15/01/2017 20:26

I'm going to totally ignore the point of the thread and just focus on the cat.

What does the vet say? The pain of rotting teeth is appalling. It would be better to risk her dying under GA. However there is a lot that can be done to make sure she survives it. Extra hydration during the op for example. Even the most doddery of old cats generally come through GAs ok in our clinic. Get her seen to.

DearMrDilkington · 15/01/2017 20:27

Poor mookins, I'm sure she found the fag smell that was lingering from your guest quite unpleasant but she had the manners not to comment on it!

I love lamb shanks! Invite me next time, smelly pets don't bother me and I mainly drink waterGrin.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 15/01/2017 20:28

You are so right Navy.

YouTheCat · 15/01/2017 20:29

Announcing you've given up meat on arrival at a dinner party is just so fucking rude.

Gwenhwyfar · 15/01/2017 20:31

What the hell is wrong with having 5 glasses of wine??? Most hosts are happy for guests to drink as long as they don't get stupidly drunk. What's the limit supposed to be?

Trills · 15/01/2017 20:32

Not warning you that she was not eating meat - rude.

Drinking more than half a bottle of wine even though it's a Sunday - not rude, weird of you to be counting.

Gwenhwyfar · 15/01/2017 20:32

" if she drank all my booze I'd be fumin 😂😂😂"

You're not very well prepared if you only have 5 glasses of wine.

TheWoodlander · 15/01/2017 20:34

I hate to say it, op - but what you've described is not that bad.

The meat thing is annoying, yes. I'd have kept quiet about the roasties though, and just given them to her.

Smoking/cat/wine - really not a big deal. Chill. Enjoy your guests, rather than posting on here, posters on here live to get people riled up.

DodoRevival · 15/01/2017 20:36

What the hell is wrong with having 5 glasses of wine???

Nothing. Just generally when someone's a twit, wine makes them an increasingly annoying twit, so in this situation the volume consumption of wine matters.

LanaorAna1 · 15/01/2017 20:42

Frightful trout, YANBU. Jolly nice of you to produce salmon and couscous, sounds delish.

But 15 ain't that old for a cat, so as TCN says, whip her round the vet tomorrow. Cats can have teeth out at all ages, you know, and it is agony for them until they do.

In the meantime, give the kitty the lamb (in shreds) and give yourself the rest of the wine.

Doobydoo · 15/01/2017 20:45

Sorry but the rudeness re your cat would be enough for meAngry Bang out of order. Hope they go soon.She is feckin rude.

JustSpeakSense · 15/01/2017 20:46

You are on MN while hosting a dinner party?