To want to never go to the cinema again?

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Every. Single. Time. I go to the cinema, there's at least one person who talks/texts/crunches through the film and generally does their best to ruin it for everyone. I usually feel too hesitant to say anything as they've already proven themselves lunatics who care not for others.

Last night it was LA LA Land. Absolutely brilliant, gorgeous film, ruined by some tosser who decided to loudly tap his foot throughout every musical number. He wasn't even in time.

I love watching films but AIBU to not spend any more money on going out to see them, because no one knows how to behave politely? We have Netflix, Google and Amazon video I suppose...

My DP will not go to the cinema with me anymore because if someone is talking/on thier phone/generally being annoying I will
ask them to stop. It's embarrassing apparently.

I'm with you OP
I do think people should sit quietly during the film
We are def a minority though so I hardly ever go
Last time I was able to go at a quiet time, a couple came in about fifteen minutes late with a load of supermarket shopping in rustling bags and kept taking stuff out to eat. They also tried to have a chat so I told them to shut up.

Then on the way out we heard them saying to each other how they didn't understand so much of the film. Something to do worth being late perhaps.

Dawndonna, I'm sorry you are upset by this thread.
Of course some people genuinely cant stay quiet or in their seat. The guys repeatedly texting and talking and kicking my chair while eating nachos probably could if they wanted.
FWIW I sometimes used to take ds to autism friendly screenings of kids films in a nearby town, which would be a cinema full of children with all kinds of needs,(and tics) and it was not a problem. Not too loud either!

I love going to the cinema. I'm pretty introverted and love the whole immersive thing of just relaxing and getting pulled into the film. Therefore I can usually zone out noise around me. The only time i was seriously annoyed was when I was sat next to someone wearing a huge leather coat that not only creaked with every move but STANK!

I'm lucky as I can frequently go to the daytime Silver Screenings at our local Odeon. They are aimed at, but not restricted to, older people. Tickets are dirt cheap and it's usually relatively quiet.

Dawn don't take it on, just ignore. They can't imagine why someone might shout out a bit, or need the loo more than once. We love a busy cinema, everyone chatting through the trailers then going 'shhhhh', munching our popcorn throughout the entire film, kids asking inappropriate questions (usually quite funny), don't give a monkey's if people go to the loo fgs, we are paying for the experience, including the super-loud music, they just haven't got the hang of it. I have never had a film ruined by anyone else ever, as I 'get' the cinema experience, it's not the same as a classical music concert so I don't expect that. I haven't had a problem with people chatting in the film/texting as it explicitly tells you not to do that and people generally 'get' it.

It's quite funny that the people most disturbed by others go only once every 15 years and still find something to moan about. We go about once a month and always have a great time!

Dawn, this is why I go to quieter screenings and we sit where we do. Dd is an aspie and can't be doing with other people and I'm quite likely to need the loo so where we sit minimises any disruption for other people as well as making the experience more pleasant for us.

I think most people on this thread are referring to the selfish twats who actually don't need to munch, crunch, chat and use their phones.

Gosh, I can't stand going to the cinema on so many levels- people talking, coughing, eating, slurping, munching, crunching, banging your seat. Like stfu, pls!! Such a shame because although I love film, I have undiagnosed high functional autism and find too much noise, distraction, people too close to me highly distressing and have the desire to lash out!

I go on my own to oap screenings because it's cheap- films have been out for a few months by this time- and the oaps GLARE at me, even though they are the ones that then make noise by chatting and with malfunctioning hearing aids etc etc. I'll still go now and then, tho, as seats are £3 with refreshments- yay, a cuppa and a fig roll cheer this 30 something up no end!!

Went to Passengers last week and aside from the person who obviously couldn't fit their legs in properly so had to keep banging my seat when rearranging himself, the fricking seats were £12.25 each- almost cheaper to go the theatre!!

Just thought
They need to add to special screenings
A silent, no phones, no food, STFU screening
And posters saying it's a social experience
No....talk about it afterwards.

I saw collateral Beauty the other week. Youd have hated me as i ate popcorn and cried the whole way through. There were only 6 other people there though. All well space out.

Good grief, I (and I think nearly everyone else) clearly wasn't talking about people with physical or psychological impairments - just inconsiderate people, who clearly can control themselves if they choose to.

We go to our local posh cinema (actually no more expensive than a normal one) or the little one at the arts centre nearby. People seem to be much better behaved

When I was on maternity leave with my son, we used to go to the baby screenings - the sound was quieter and no-one minded if the babies made a noise or if you had to wander about (plus you could take food and drinks in, which they usually didn't allow!). Occasionally you'd get a dirty look from people there without babies, but they'd come to our screening so they couldn't say anything

But you cant tell from looking at someone what their impairment are!

I've given up on the cinema as I find it too uncomfortable to sit on that kind of chair for hours. Am I the only one?

I haven't been to the cinema for a few years now because I hate people. It's not exactly cheap either. i could put up with a bit of noise etc if it cost a couple of quid to see a film.

I think I can quite safely assume there's no rude-texting-in-films impairment.

Haven't been for many years for this reason - too many annoying tossers for it to be an enjoyable experience these days. There's no film I would want to see so urgently that I'd ever go back!

Good grief, I (and I think nearly everyone else) clearly wasn't talking about people with physical or psychological impairments - just inconsiderate people, who clearly can control themselves if they choose to how can you tell the person I go with has an impairment then? You can't, it's completely invisible! But sometimes they laugh a bit loud or in slightly inappropriate places, not a lot but enough that some people on here obviously think is too much in a public place or are inwardly tutting. One day you might be that person who needs the loo more than once in a film, have some compassion.

It's like the bus threads, apparently people shouldn't talk on buses either, or on trains. We should all move about in complete silence.

I take the view- you go out on a public bus or to things like the cinema, there's a chance people will be loud, talk, talk about things you don't think are ok, and that being able to cope with that is part of being a well socialized human being. Or drive everywhere in your own cocoon, and stay home and watch DVDs. You can't control others when you are out of the home, that's the whole point, and expecting absolutely everyone to abide by your chosen social norms (which aren't even the social norms of the cinema anyway like not eating popcorn) is not realistic.

I agree with you OP.
My husband and I have been to the cinema on three occasions in the last few months.
First, Bridget Jones' Baby: Woman behind us sat tapping her foot against the metal rim of my chair, and then the floor, all the way through the film. Right in my ear as her seat is higher due to placement. Could have happily stapled her shoe to the ground by the end.
Rogue One: father and daughter came into the film late, around 15 minutes after it started (which would make them around 45 minutes late as 30 minutes of credits are normal where we are) and then proceeded to talk at full volume right next to us, not even a hushed whisper but normal volume.
Assassins Creed: Woman sat in front of us on her phone checking facebook, sending texts and groaning and going on to her boyfriend and boyfriend's dad) about how boring it was, theatrically yawning and pawing him for attention. My husband asked her to turn the brightness down on her phone and she had a proper little madam-tantrum, "But it's booooooring." She was, at a guess, mid twenties? No excuse.

I wish you could pay a service cinema prices and stream a film in your home - I'd much rather do that then put up with inconsiderate people to be honest.

We went to the cinema on the 27th December me oh and 3 children cost an arm and a leg cinema is a very rare treat in our house.I ended up sitting next to a 2 year old boy on his first trip to the cinema he was running up and down the stairs climbing over me getting in and out of his seat asking his dad what was happening every two minutes I missed most of the film.

Used to love the cinema and think of it as a treat but I don't go now for all the reasons mentioned. There's always, always some git being a git and I just resent paying £30 or so to be subjected to it. Plus films are on TV or streaming services so quickly these days. It used to be a couple of years now it's a matter of months. Wouldn't make much financial sense to go twice a week as in days of yore.

"you go out on a public bus or to things like the cinema, there's a chance people will be loud, talk, talk "

You can't compare the bus and the cinema. People go to the cinema to see and hear a film so of course it's not Ok to talk through it.

One day you might be that person who needs the loo more than once in a film, have some compassion.

Yes and I would sit at the end of a row to cause the least disturbance. It was me who mentioned the blokes getting up to the loo several times during a movie I went to see last night. There were seats available at the end, they chose to sit in the middle. The cinema has those recliner sofas so everytime they went to the toilet everyone has to put their foot rests down to let them past, they then had to walk to the front of the cinema and past the screen. Young blokes in their 20's and as they were drinking beer I'm pretty sure that was the reason for their frequent visits and they weren't 2 young blokes with medical issues.

Foureyesarebetterthantwo for pity's sake - can you just assume I am not talking about people who do have impairments/need to go to the loo lots etc.? I haven't mentioned those kinds of things at all, and am just referring to the majority of people who are fully able - just very, very rude.

Part of being a well-socialised person is also consideration of others. Why should social spaces just be reserved for loud, thoughtless people?

You can't tell if the person at the front with the tics, you know, the chap who fell off his chair is drunk or has a disability. My ds is almost 22. He has been thrown out of cinemas twice now, bad move really because most of the rest of the cinema were on a uni trip with him. They lost a couple of hundred people in one go and the uni got a refund. The other time was because a woman decided he was drunk, a woman, a member of the audience. How the fuck would she know? It's horrible. How do you think he feels? You just don't know, you can't tell in the semi-dark if someone has tics, if they're pissed, if they're being deliberately disruptive unless it's 'phones etc. It's all well and good saying we're not referring to people with a disability, but it's not a judgement call that's easily made in these circumstances.
Yes, autism screenings are great, but they need adult autism screenings too. People forget that those children with an ASC grow up into adults with an ASC!

I agree Gwenhwyfar. Comparing public transport to the cinema is ridiculous.