To want to never go to the cinema again?

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Every. Single. Time. I go to the cinema, there's at least one person who talks/texts/crunches through the film and generally does their best to ruin it for everyone. I usually feel too hesitant to say anything as they've already proven themselves lunatics who care not for others.

Last night it was LA LA Land. Absolutely brilliant, gorgeous film, ruined by some tosser who decided to loudly tap his foot throughout every musical number. He wasn't even in time.

I love watching films but AIBU to not spend any more money on going out to see them, because no one knows how to behave politely? We have Netflix, Google and Amazon video I suppose...

Lady Melbourne would like to say:

You know how those "there was an English, Irish and Scotsmen jokes where the Irish man was always the butt of the joke were eventually deemed to be unhelpful because it perpetuated negative stereotypes about Irish people?
Well it's the same.
Perpetuated the ignorance of "no, no, no, this person was just Rude" is also not helpful.
You hate harming people with disabilities by refusing to understand your own ignorance.
You are so ignorant you can able recognise your ignorance.

Now that's not an insult. It's just how it is.

Now. Instead of just being coy and protesting confused innocence, you could accept an opportunity to learn and. Evoke less ignorant.

Your choice.

Attacking those who are pointing this out, as your defence, is just a missed opportunity on your part.

It's ok to be irritated. Lord Melbourne knows I get irritated by all sorts everyday.

But if you've been caught out. Ring ignorant, instead of being defensive, try seeing it as an opportunity to see things from another viewpoint.

There's a lot of wise people on this thread . Don't ignore their wisdom.

You've been very kind to offer your time

Either than or just an idiot

Apologies - you are harming not hate harming

Fwiw AVirgin I don't think you're an idiot, I think you did a good thing.

AVirgin if you're an idiot then we're all idiots for still being here! There's nothing wrong with retaining hope that people are willing to learn, and some people are... unfortunately I don't think that's the case here.

And other spelling errors. I type too fast and don't proof read well

I think you're unreasonable to expect those just having a grumble about being annoyed in the cinema (no more, no less) to have SN/disabled people's needs at the forefront of their minds at all times - and that anyone who doesn't is an ignorant twat who is CAUSING PROBLEMS for these people.

Madness.

Lady's Melbourne believes it is reasonable to always have the needs and requirements of those with any kind of disability, visible or not in mind - Lady Melbourne dies but find this particularly difficult or time consuming to do so and it is exactly that - a mind set.
A perhaps more knowledgable. Compassionate and reasonable mind.
In fact reasonable is a very apt word in these circumstances.

In addition, Lady Melbourne considers herself to be reasonably sane.

I think the moral to this thread is, you cannot always tell when someone has a disability, nor would anyone expect you too. However, a bit of empathy can never do any harm

Lady M, you legend!

user5709 summed up a whole day of arguing in one post. I was beginning to wonder if we'd been speaking in riddles!

Many disabilities are invisible. In fact the only visible element may. E behavioural or something being. It quite right and not being able to put Ines finger on it.
A good place to start is to assume that everyone may have a condition you are not aware of. Makes for a much calmer existence.

Well I'm being referred for an ASD diagnosis as an adult right now and am increasingly aware I'm anything but NT.

I honestly can't cope with the noise and awfulness of other people in the cinema so stopped going - the only one I've been to in 10 years (Force Awakens) was an amazing experience for the first few minutes, and I was so happy to be there and be part of a new wave of Star Wars films - which was then almost ruined by someone crunching the whole way through, and someone else texting, so I agree it's a problem. Luckily I'd brought ear plugs and a hat which helped (thank god it was dark) but that meant there was stuff I missed until we saw the DVD.

I really would like to have a few screening options where people are quiet, and I'm sure they'd be sold out by fellow people who've also avoided the cinema because of this stuff.

I also think it's a shame that's considered too much to even daydream about as one possible option in a dreamworld, and I say that as someone who fights damn hard not to fidget and bounce constantly or make involuntary sounds all the time.

Slope Lady M has heard of a new captioning device at cinemas by which the subtitles show up on back of the seatbin front of you sonone may wear earplugs but still understand the dialogue.

I've never understood why anyone would dress, go out and pay money to sit in a room full of strangers (who often behave annoyingly) to watch a film, instead of watching it at home, in pjs, on the sofa, with whatever food or drink they want. In silence.

To the poster who said talking to your neighbour during a film was "jolly" - how about a bingo hall?

Every time you post you sound more and more self-absorbed. People have simply asked you to consider a possibility that affects a great many people, and the lack of understanding of that possibility is a large and persistent issue within society as a whole. Yet you brush it off as though irrelevant and then wonder why people who deal with this dismissive attitude of themselves and their loved ones on a daily basis, get a wee bit agitated that yet another person would rather ignore them than put a bit of thought, or (heaven forbid) some effort into understanding that which is beyond your own experience. It's simply lazy. And you'd rather be right than do what's right.

Skyye you have articulated absolutely perfectly how I feel. Thank you.

Oh skyy Lady M does enjoy reading an eloquent post like yours!

YOU'RE ALL MAD.

My, how rude

Me: eloquent post about societal oppression of those with disabilities.

OP: infant school comeback

Well consider me put in my place

Skyye

YOU'RE ALL MAD.

Rude.

Lady where are these devices?

Im afraid Lady M is not quite sure - She read it in the internet and saw a photo of it in action. She think it's a personal device which can be hung in front of the person and may be app led. Lady M was most excited.