Aibu and WWYD teens and London

[zebratrainedteens]

Ok first off Daily Mail Fuck the fuck off

Now my dd1 (13) and her friend want to go to comicon in London with her friends dad. I've never met him and been told before by friends mum " he's a flake and total man child" now apparently he's maturing and wants to take the girls into London ( we live in a village an 1hoir or so away. I asked to meet or at least call him before and was told he isn't interested in speaking to me him just wants to take the girls out for a nice day and I should loosen up. So WWYD ? I'm quite a laid back parent but this is too much for me but dh thinks it would be fine ?

I would say no. Just easier that way. I would end up taking dd myself probably. What an idiot he sounds.

I would be very wary that he wasnt willing to talk to you at all. This to me is very odd and would not help me to trust him

If you think your dd is sensible enough to be there with her friend then I dont see a problem. If they need a lot of looking after then no,

I would be happier with then going into London by themselves than with this oddball who openly disrespects you. By themselves at 13 they would go to comicon and go home (probably). Sounds like he would drag them all over the place to goodness knows where for 'a laugh'.

Thank you both, this is my point if I knew or had spoke to him I would consider it but his ex-wife said he has said he doesn't want to talk or meet me so I don't feel like I have any choice but to say no. Dh says dd1 is growing up and we won't meet or speak to half the people she goes around with now, so I should start getting used to it. We were raised very differently so I thought asking on here would be more unbiased.

I would say no if only because of the way he responded! Or go with your DD and let girls hang out together at the venue.

Garden I would not allow two girls who have grown up in a village go to London on their own for the day ? They have never used the tube or even been there except for school or family days out.

Drink that might be a plan

Who said he's not interested in talking to you? Can't you just get the number and call him? Generally speaking I would have thought that even a man child should be able to manage with 2 teenagers for a one hour journey to comic con. ( that's less than my commute into London so you're pretty close). I would have said that maybe the DD's are planning on going on their own but a Comicon sounds exactly like the kind of event a man child would want to go to 😀. Call him, be charming, job done.

So did he decline talking to you or did his ex-wife said he refuses to talk to you?

If you can, I would suggest going with your daughter or get your DH to go with her.

Sorry just seen your update. V weird parental behaviour and I wouldn't be very happy with it either

His ex and his dd said he didn't want to speak to me. She was quite embarrassed telling me so I don't think they are lying but I don't know where he lives or his full name ( ex and dd have exs name )

Sounds like the ex might be stirring things a bit. Are you certain he said those things?

I'm reading the responses to dh and he has agreed we will take her and then let them wander around together, we may even meet the mysterious dad

Can't you ask his ex wife for his number and just ring him up?

Sorry x post

Xi. I don't know tbh but don't have a choice but to believe what she and DD's friend are telling me.

I hope you all enjoy yourselves!

What's the plan? Is he picking them up or meeting at the station or something? Is there an opportunity for you to meet this bloke before they leave? I wouldn't want to stop my DD going because it sounds fun but he's not making it very easy is he?

Captain of course I did ask that's when I was told he didn't want to speak or meet me !

You taking her sounds more sensible.

Make her be in charge of tube navigation - get her to pick which line to get on, etc, so that when she's a bit older you will feel confident letting her go with friends and without an adult.

She should have still given you the number and allow him to tell you he doesn't want to speak to you himself.

But at least it's solved now and you'll have an awesome family day out.

That's a good outcome OP . You and husband take her, you would then meet the other dad I assume at said comiccon and if he is alright and you gel with him (so to speak) perhaps then there can be outings with your DD friend and her dad .

Sounds fun , might look into it myself

Told dd1 and she's taken it well as she still gets to go and I think deep down she was unsure herself. She's texting friend now so thank you all .

Good outcome OP. Definitely right thing to do, it seems quite likely he genuinely did refuse to meet with or speak to you and that is pathetic, potentially dodgy but also showing he can't respect/communicate with someone whose child was to be in his care. Very inappropriate.