to think i am a rubbish mother

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Sitting down watching a programme with DH.

DH rushes out of the room saying 'oh dear, child upset'

I hadn't heard a thing

(DCs are 3 and 4)

He turned out to be correct.

Am i a rubbish mother for not hearing them?

No.

Why would you be a rubbish mother for not hearing them? If you heard them and ignored them then you'd be a rubbish mother.

Darlin' if that makes you a rubbish mother, I should be in prison! Done far, far worse.

Hope your DC are ok and that you are too.

A rubbish mum because you didn't hear your kids? Er, no.

Is it just this once or regularly? A friend of mine realised she had hearing loss when her partner could hear the kids upstairs but she couldn't. Not sure why you would think it would make you a bad mother though???

No. During the evening, I would be the one to hear of the dc are upset. But once we are asleep, it will be DH who wakes in the night. Once I am asleep, I'm really hard to stir.

In fact, I have recently bought a baby monitor for when dh is away overnight. Even though my dc are old enough to come in and wake me, I feel better having the monitor as well.

This does not make me a rubbish mum. It makes me a deep sleeper.

Of course not. There are many reasons why you might not have heard them.

It's not like you were ignoring them on purpose.

Don't be silly. You didn't hear them. Why did your dh say you're a rubbish mum for not hearing them?

He didn't say I was rubbish. I just hadn't realised how difficult It was to hear them now. (We have recently had some work done to the house and I hadn't realised how difficult it would be to hear them). It's the first time I haven't heard them so I feel a bit guilty