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BlueParrott · 13/01/2017 00:17

Hi. I posted last week sorry I don't know how to re hash that thread. I'll try to keep it short.

I have an 18 month old son and have recently become engaged. Last week my son called my fiancé dada infront of his sister. She didn't like it and said as much. The reason she dislikes me is because I'm stealing her brother and I had a short relationship whilst pregnant with a man she liked.

Anyway after last weeks drama she invited me out to clear the air. We went for a few drinks this evening and FFs it was painful. She started asking why I'm marrying her brother, have I taught my son to call him dad and do I want to be a sahm? I fielded these questions well then she moved onto the relationship I had whilst pregnant. According to her it was wrong for me to sleep with some one whilst pregnant and that her brother (my fiancé) secretly thinks I'm a slag. At this point I lost it and asked her why would her brother marry a slag?!? She couldn't answer so I walked out of the pub. I haven't told my fiancé yet as he's asleep but I swear I'm done with this shit.

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OneWithTheForce · 14/01/2017 09:34

LOl at trying to justify their judgemental posts with "concern for the child's health" Grin everyone can see the posts you know!

Newsflash, a woman's vagina does not belong to a man just because she is pregnant with a child he has donated sperm to.

BlueParrott · 14/01/2017 09:35

Thanks for the advice. Mil is mortified and came round last night to apologise for her daughter. She texted fiance and he just told her to keep her distance because hes angry.

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Bambamrubblesmum · 14/01/2017 09:39

That's your viewpoint Force I know what mine is.

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OneWithTheForce · 14/01/2017 10:22

It was never nudging the baby's forehead. did you do biology at school?

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BlueParrott · 14/01/2017 11:56

Thanks for the supportive threads on here. I'm happy and so is my fiancé both with my past and the present. I can't change the past and I wouldn't want to as it gave me my son. I did have a short relationship whilst pregnant and took precautions to protect mine and the baby's health. I've now been with my fiancé (someone I've known along time) for over a year. I have no plans to give up work either

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KimmySchmidtsFakeXmasSmile · 14/01/2017 15:19

Out of curiosity, why didn't it work out with the second guy? (Yes, I know I'm being nosey). Heidi Klum met Seal when she was already pregnant. Don't recall her getting any flak. I hope you and your fiancé are happy together. I also think it's no bugger's business how much maternity leave you decide to take.

ExpatTrailingSpouse · 14/01/2017 19:33

BlueParott - i've been spending a lot of time on MN reading tons of threads lately, and i honestly can't believe all the morality police on here compared to some other threads. it's got to be because of the whole you dared have sex with a man, not the father of your baby, while pregnant. if you took out the DS part of the story, i think the reaction would have been much much different on here.

Best of luck to you.

BlueParrott · 14/01/2017 19:43

Kimmy it was a fwb really. Neither of us wanted anything serious and with a baby on the way I wasn't in the headspace for a serious relationship

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KimmySchmidtsFakeXmasSmile · 14/01/2017 20:08

Fair play (although I had to google fwb, now that's how I know I'm twice your age! Wink). Good for you. All the best and don't let the bastards grind you down. X

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