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AIBU?

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Original poster

to expect a lift home from station?

101 replies

feduptiredcommuter · 12/01/2017 16:22

Have done a 7 hour round trip journey today. Wanted a lift from station as it's pissing it down, I'm tired and aching.

Phoned my DC, who is dropping a mate home so can't come and get me. Even though it's my bloody car!

It's only a 10 min walk but AIBU?

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StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 12/01/2017 16:37

get a taxi, if he can't then he can't I expect he would if he wasn't out elsewhere, don't see the issue tbh

Ragwort · 12/01/2017 16:39

YANBU - surely he can drop the mate home after he picks you up - unless there is a very specific reason why not? I would not be amused if it was my car and also it is a kind gesture to pick up a family member, particularly in this horrible weather.

Original poster
feduptiredcommuter · 12/01/2017 16:43

There's no taxi rank at station so I'd have to phone one which can be hit and miss and by time I've waited around in the rain I may as well have walked home.

I guess my issue is it's my car but I'm not benefitting from it. I didn't drive to the station on my outward journey as DC needed the car this morning.

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Hellmouth · 12/01/2017 16:47

Tell him to get his own car? hehe

Crispbutty · 12/01/2017 16:50

Did he know what time you were coming back or did you just ring as you arrived? If he knew in advance maybe he could have arranged his trips so he could pick you up.

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feduptiredcommuter · 12/01/2017 16:50

There's no chance of him being able to afford his own car as he's not working at the moment.

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dowhatnow · 12/01/2017 16:52

I'd be annoyed too. Sit him down later and explain about priorities and not biting the hand that feeds you.

MsJamieFraser · 12/01/2017 16:54

Did you ask him to pick you up before you left this morning?

witsender · 12/01/2017 16:54

What's their excuse?

averythinline · 12/01/2017 16:56

Well make sure thats the last time you lend him your car then......take him off the insurance when you get back ....

Reality16 · 12/01/2017 16:56

YANBU if you gave him the car for the day on the provision that he collected you from the station

YABU if you asked later in the day when he had made plans already

Flowersonthewall · 12/01/2017 16:57

If hes not working who has paid for the pwtrol and his insurance then? Yanbu

TheMysteriousJackelope · 12/01/2017 17:00

If he is already miles away anddidn't know you would need to be picked up at this time YABU.

If he is close by and just can't be bothered to come and get you YANBU.

Doilooklikeatourist · 12/01/2017 17:01

That's the last time he has use of the car then 😀

WhereYouLeftIt · 12/01/2017 17:01

"Phoned my DC, who is dropping a mate home so can't come and get me. Even though it's my bloody car!"
Unless he's over an hour away, of course he can come and get you! Mate has to ride along while you are taken home, or he can walk/taxi/ whatever. Why are you deferring to your son's friend?

ArcheryAnnie · 12/01/2017 17:02

Oh, this one is easy - walk home, don't be in the least mad at DC, but say no whenever he asks to borrow the car again.

Keep saying no. It's your car.

ArcheryAnnie · 12/01/2017 17:05

Oh, and get the keys back and do tell him he's off the insurance now.

I'm being completely serious, btw. You are doing him no favours at all by allowing him to think this is a reasonable way to behave.

paxillin · 12/01/2017 17:05

Maybe he won't have use of a car any longer until he can afford one. Unless of course he is currently 200 miles away. Otherwise the friend should have come for the ride.

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feduptiredcommuter · 12/01/2017 17:08

I rang just before final leg of journey, so about 25 mins before I'd arrive at station, he was just on his way to drop off mates (there were 3 in total, about a 40 min round trip to drop them all off). So I walked home - and got drenched in the process. He couldn't come get me on the way as there was no room in the car.

I couldn't have phoned much earlier as I wasn't sure of train times (long journey, various changes).

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2rebecca · 12/01/2017 17:09

If he's half an hour away dropping his friend off then I can understand why he can't magic himself there but otherwise you should take priority over his friend and I wouldn't lend him the car again. It's your fuel he's using ferrying mates around.

ImperialBlether · 12/01/2017 17:09

Is it your son who's got the car or your partner?

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feduptiredcommuter · 12/01/2017 17:10

I am reviewing his usage of the car which may now become very limited Smile

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TheNaze73 · 12/01/2017 17:10

YABU

2rebecca · 12/01/2017 17:11

Sounds like he's taking the piss using your money and car to act as a taxi to 3 friends.
He's shot himself in the foot by not prioritising you there and telling mates to make their own way home. They'd have had to sort themselves out if you'd left the car at the station.

NapQueen · 12/01/2017 17:12

Could you have just said "well I'll wait till you get here after you've dropped the last one, I'll be in the coffee shop ring when you pull up outside"

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