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AIBU?

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Original poster

to expect a lift home from station?

101 replies

feduptiredcommuter · 12/01/2017 16:22

Have done a 7 hour round trip journey today. Wanted a lift from station as it's pissing it down, I'm tired and aching.

Phoned my DC, who is dropping a mate home so can't come and get me. Even though it's my bloody car!

It's only a 10 min walk but AIBU?

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ArcheryAnnie · 12/01/2017 17:12

Dear OP, he's taking the piss. It's your car, and he has comandeered it both this morning and this evening, and his mates are sitting in the warm in your car, while you were slogging through the rain.

Are you willing to take him off the insurance for a couple of months, at least? Because that would focus his mind a bit on not taking you and your car so completely for granted.

Lweji · 12/01/2017 17:13

This:

If he is already miles away and didn't know you would need to be picked up at this time YABU.

If he is close by and just can't be bothered to come and get you YANBU.

WhereYouLeftIt · 12/01/2017 17:13

So he got to play The Big I Am to his friends while you got drenched? Nice. No way would he get my car again!

ENormaSnob · 12/01/2017 17:16

I think you are a bit of a mug tbh.

Or a martyr.

Mix56 · 12/01/2017 17:18

Hell would freeze over before he got to use my car again.
How DARE he prioritise his mates over a few minutes nip down to the station to help you out ?

Lweji · 12/01/2017 17:20

Sorry, there was a time gap posting and didn't see the last post.

It seems like it was unfortunate, but surely he could have gone back home, waited for you, then drop his friends.

Still, 40 min round trips on your money for his friends sound like piss taking, yes.

Always take the car in future.

raviolidreaming · 12/01/2017 17:23

I rang ... about 25 mins before I'd arrive at station, he was just on his way to drop off mates ... about a 40 min round trip ... He couldn't come get me on the way as there was no room in the car. I couldn't have phoned much earlier as I wasn't sure of train times

If he didn't know you might need a lift, and given it's only a ten minute walk and you said he could use the car today, then unless there's a back story about him usually being rude and ungrateful then YABU. You would also be unreasonable to now punish him by not lending it again.
It's frustrating that you had to walk home in the rain, but that's a risk that comes with not having the car.

FrancisCrawford · 12/01/2017 17:24

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raviolidreaming · 12/01/2017 17:25

How DARE he prioritise his mates over a few minutes nip down to the station to help you out?

As he'd already started the journey and the car was full then I don't think he's done anything wrong.

SquinkiesRule · 12/01/2017 17:27

So he should have dropped the friends and driven back for you, you'd be in the station waiting for 10/15 mins but dry.
It'd be the last time I loaned my car if thats how I was treated.

KidLorneRoll · 12/01/2017 17:30

How is this anything other than just bad timing? If the kid didn't know he was supposed to pick OP up and OP rang just 25 minutes before arrival, then, well, that's really the OP's fault for not giving enough notice.

Reality16 · 12/01/2017 17:34

God what a shame for the poor lad. Gets to borrow the car and now half of MN thinks he is the devil at work because he didn't pick up his mum, which was not prior arranged.

PrivatePike · 12/01/2017 17:39

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feduptiredcommuter · 12/01/2017 17:45

I couldn't have phoned him any sooner as I wouldn't have known what time train I was going to be on. And there's not really anywhere sheltered to wait at the station, it's quite exposed, so I'd still be getting wet.

It's my car, I'm letting him.use it which I don't have to do, so I feel the least he could do is give me a lift when I need one.

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diddl · 12/01/2017 17:47

"He should have told his mates he'd pick you up then run them home."

I agree with that-& any who didn't like it could make their own way home.

FrancisCrawford · 12/01/2017 17:48

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Floey · 12/01/2017 17:50

DC didn't refuse, just can't do it so YABU.

childmaintenanceserviceinquiry · 12/01/2017 17:52

are his friends paying him petrol money? I mean he's not working so either you or he are paying for petrol. Even at uni 30 years ago we would pay friends petrol money 10p per mile.

Motherfuckers · 12/01/2017 17:54

I don't think 25 minutes is enough notice tbh. Maybe in the future you should tell him before you leave that you may be needing a lift between certain times, it could be one of the conditions of using your car. This is what I do with my kids, but it also works both ways, I don't drop everything I am doing to run them round with short notice.

AyeAmarok · 12/01/2017 17:55

It's rather ungrateful of him.

I'd be restricting his use of the car. It's a real privilege to have the use of a car when you're not working.

heron98 · 12/01/2017 17:57

I dunno, if it's only a ten minute walk I'd just walk it. It's not far and I find it's nice to stretch my legs after being on the train for ages.

MLGs · 12/01/2017 18:01

Tell him he can't use it again!

diddl · 12/01/2017 18:04

What did he need the car for this morning?

hesterton · 12/01/2017 18:06

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LucklessMonster · 12/01/2017 18:13

When you called he was in a full car, on the way to drop his friends off. What did you expect him to do, dump one of them at the side of the road in the rain to come and get you when you hadn't given him prior notice?

I think YABU.

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