Using flat sheets on the bed, who's right DH or me?

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Please help settle a discussion between DH and me!

There's obviously little more satisfying than getting into a freshly laundered bed, especially if the sheets have been ironed.
To do this regularly I don't want to have to wash and iron the duvet cover every time I wash the rest of the linen ( I've 3dc and plenty other housework to do!) If I use a flat sheet then the duvet cover keeps fresher for longer.

As an aside, I actually prefer to have the flat sheet anyway as I feel it covers me better and no cold air can get down the bed!

So AIBU to use a flat sheet when making the bed?

(Snuggles down into cosy bed!)

I don't know how anyone can use that furry brushed cotton, it feels dirty and the thought of all the dead skin cells getting glued to it ...

Fresh white cotton, dried carefully so it doesn't need to be ironed feels so good.

It's very important that one foot is out of the bed

Could not agree more! DH thinks I'm weird having a thick duvet with one foot poking out for temperature regulation, but it's the only way to sleep!

And I had to wean him off his top sheet habit. If he'd insisted on keeping it I'm not sure the relationship would have survived frankly.

I can't STAND the thought of not having a top sheet.

So gross. Your sweaty feet right up against your duvet. Most people, even without using a top sheet, aren't gonna be assed to wash their duvet cover every time they wash their sheets, so it ends up just being foul.

I know several people who don't use a top sheet. None of them wash their duvet cover as often as they would need to for that to be clean.

It takes approximately 0.2 seconds more to put a top sheet on the bed. I guarantee it would take longer to put a duvet cover back on.

Yuck.

It's hot here at the moment (Australia) - so I definitely have a flat sheet, then duvet (or doona, as it is known here.) You sleep under the flat sheet, until about 5am, when it gets a bit cool, and then you grab the duvet from the end of the bed and put it on to warm up. In the winter, I don't bother with the flat sheet.

Most people, even without using a top sheet, aren't gonna be assed to wash their duvet cover every time they wash their sheets, so it ends up just being foul.

It's hardly much extra effort to stick the duvet cover in the wash too. Is it so weird to strip off the entire bed and put it all in the wash at once?

Koala I usually put my sheets through with a bit of white vinegar to help keep them looking nice and not faded. With our cats I'd be fighting an unwinnable war to keep white sheets pristine. Plus the colours coordinating with the duvet makes me happy sad I know.

Cosy winter sheets in cold weather are the best thing. Closely followed by cool, crisp cotton sheets in hot weather.

It's hardly much extra effort to stick the duvet cover in the wash too. Is it so weird to strip off the entire bed and put it all in the wash at once?

Apparently, since the people I know who do this never wash the duvet cover as often as they wash the fitted sheet.

But Koala what's the point of the duvet being a billion pounds if I don't get to rub up against it?

Foot out sleeping and why Quod and I are right. Also solves Pluto's sweaty feet issue.

We always wash all the bedding at the same time. Strip the bed, make it up with new bedding (not ironed as life is way too short for that) and get the bedding in the wash. Would seem weird to strip the bed and pillows and leave the duvet, it's hardly that much more effort.

Previously we use brushed cotton in the winter because it's bloody cold! Last week it was -24, and as dh likes a window open (actually I do too, just not quite as open as he likes it) I need a snuggly bed. Brushed cotton PJs and bedsocks too :)

reuset I must be a slob!

But I'm happy to go with I think koala's reasoning, I'm protecting my not so billion pound duvet cover , which happens to be super kingsize and mahoosive!

And yes to queen and lots of other people who say it is a massive waste of time, I agree, I rarely do it these days, but I do infinitely prefer it when I do!

YANBU! I run hot at night so can kick off the duvet and sleep under the sheet!

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Nope - completely normal.

Are all you flat sheet lovers hoteliers in disguise?

I use a flat sheet, I like being covered up, so when it's hot I can just roll duvet down and remain covered. Also saves with washing and ironing.

How is it that even with a flat sheet people are finding that they don't need to change their duvet cover very often? Cats walk on it with muddy paws, children sneeze on it, grown ups drip tea on it. What about the top side?
Also, thread count matters, I only just discovered this. 500 thread count feels amazing and lasts longer than the usual 180/200 thread sheets. Ironing, no, not when you have kids. Just get straight out the tumble dryer when finished. Dont leave to crease up in a pile.

Aha! Now I know why my cleaners initially never seem to know how to make my beds properly - they all seem to be confused about using a top sheet between my fitted sheet and duvets (yes, I sleep with 2 duvets).

YANBU, top sheet always. Ironed. Changed weekly at a minimum. I have an Emperor size bed (bigger than a super king) and changing, washing, and ironing 2 duvet coverts would be too cumbersome. Much easier to change bottom and top sheet weekly and duvet covers every 3 weeks.

Mitzylefrouf

Sorry to disappoint your thoughts of the "sexy" French. Met dh in 1992. He's French. It was sheets and blankets in his parents house with the horrible fucking sausage pillow. Got so eff'd off in the end I bought duvets and pillows in England and brought them over as we visited lots.

Interesting. I haven't seen a flat sheet since I was a little girl, and that was a long time ago by now (early 1970's). My granny introduced duvet covers into the family back in around 1969, when she returned from a trip to the US, often they were seersucker duvet cover sets. Both my granny and my mum hated ironing, and my mum used to roll all the flatsheets she had into very tight rolls instead of folding them, that made them sort of flat without the need to iron them. Before the seersucker duvet cover sets, we all had flat sheets (top one with lace) and thick wool blankets, and no duvets.

What's a sausage pillow?

previously I get extra deep 100℅ Egyptian cotton fitted sheets from Amazon, though it's a non Amazon seller, fit perfectly on our SK and K beds which have deep mattresses, very smooth and no wrinkles.

and you're all insane with this flat sheet business

Nothing to say but Brentford Nylons!

I always use a flat sheet - it's lovely. You DH is clearly wrong and totally U.

I wouldn't even consider NOT having a flat sheet. The best quality available.

I had to ask around to make sure it was OK that the kids don't have one (their choice) in case I was accused of terrible parenting/bedding neglect.

Am I the only one who has no idea WTF is going on?
I have a mattress protector, fitted sheet, duvet+cover, pillow+cover. As do my parents.
I don't know what the situation was when I was in this hotel in France once. It was very oddly made. I could barely get my legs in, and ended up ripping the sheet.